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Now that I'm sleeved, losing weight is easy. BUT, the thought of eating what I want is constantly on my mind. At times I'm so frustrated that I can't have what I "want" that I just don't eat at all. Does this ever change? Quitting smoking cold turkey was sooo much easier.

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Why can't you have what you want? Do you mean at every meal or just occasionally That this happens? Are you angry that you can't eat a whole bunch of the food you are craving, or just that you can't have it at all?

I don't mean to sound insensitive, but I am pre-op, and I wish so badly that I had something that kept me from eating junk Besides my good old willpower. Yeah, that willpower has gotten me so far. Rolls eyes. So to me, you are blessed.

I know you were asking if someone else was going through this, and I can't imagine what it feels like, but I am not there yet. I hope you don't mind me replying though

Are you Talking to someone about this?

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I highly recommend reading "The End of Overeating.". It will make everything clear to you regarding your obsessive thoughts of food!!

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You will soon understand. Don't get me wrong I am blessed to have the sleeve. However, it's just a tool and it doesn't cure the food addiction. If it came with a lobotomy maybe, but you still have your head thinking about the food. That doesn't stop once your sleeved. You still think about, you still want it, and if your a control freak like myself it will be challenging like it is for myself. I am 5 wks post op, my idea of Thanksgiving besides enjoying family is enjoying food. Enjoying food has yet to happen since I've been sleeved. It's hard getting in the Proteins I need to waste a "meal" on something I "want." The sleeve isn't just as easy as the surgery, it's an addiction that has to be cured. The easy part is losing the weight, but there's a lot more to overcome. Gamblers don't quit gambling and stop thinking about it, smokers don't quit smoking and quit thinking about it, etc. I think a support group to help with food addiction should be part if being sleeved. I hope this makes sense and answers your questions. I am blessed and I would do it all over again. I'm happy with my decision, but I'm struggling with my addiction.

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I highly recommend reading "The End of Overeating.". It will make everything clear to you regarding your obsessive thoughts of food!!

Where can I find it?

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It's available through Amazon or iBooks. It truly changed my perception of food, and has made my post-op reality so much easier!!!

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It's available through Amazon or iBooks. It truly changed my perception of food' date=' and has made my post-op reality so much easier!!![/quote']

Thank you! Ordering it NOW!

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Thank you! Ordering it NOW!

You're very welcome! I'd love to hear your thoughts on it, after you've read it! :)

Laura

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Now that I'm sleeved' date=' losing weight is easy. BUT, the thought of eating what I want is constantly on my mind. At times I'm so frustrated that I can't have what I "want" that I just don't eat at all. Does this ever change? Quitting smoking cold turkey was sooo much easier.[/quote']

I am pasted this phase now allowed to eat what I want. Though I haven't had junk food of any sort. Once you get to the point of being able to eat what you want the want starts to pass. Hang in there and know it gets easier. I agree though if they could have removed the part of my brain that wants food along with my stomach I'd be great lol.

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I feel like regardless of surgery that my life will always revolve around food. Now, rather than just "ogosh that looks good let me eat it" it's "let me examine the nutritional content and WOW that has a lot of calories and carbs and fat...back on the shelf you go!" I used to not care, now I feel like I care too much. I think I spend my whole day thinking about, planning for, and eating in these little 100 calorie fits and starts. I'm sure, at some point, I'll find a happy medium, but I think that right now, when it comes to my relationship with food if I let up for just one second, I'll lose control.

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I feel like regardless of surgery that my life will always revolve around food. Now, rather than just "ogosh that looks good let me eat it" it's "let me examine the nutritional content and WOW that has a lot of calories and carbs and fat...back on the shelf you go!" I used to not care, now I feel like I care too much. I think I spend my whole day thinking about, planning for, and eating in these little 100 calorie fits and starts. I'm sure, at some point, I'll find a happy medium, but I think that right now, when it comes to my relationship with food if I let up for just one second, I'll lose control.

Just remember...for a lifetime we've been at least partially without control, where food was concerned. Taking, and maintaining, control is a new skill...and something that needs to be practiced, in order for it to become second nature. From my perspective, I'm thrilled to be able to exert control over what I eat, when I eat, and how much I eat (or even if I eat at all)! I plan to continue practicing that control for the rest of my days....because it will keep me on the path to a healthier me!! :)

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Thanks for the book suggestion!!

Again, I'm sorry if I seemed insensitive. (Hug) I definitely can't speak from experience, was just trying to help m

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I highly recommend reading "The End of Overeating.". It will make everything clear to you regarding your obsessive thoughts of food!!

I need to check out this book!

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Now that I'm sleeved, losing weight is easy. BUT, the thought of eating what I want is constantly on my mind. At times I'm so frustrated that I can't have what I "want" that I just don't eat at all. Does this ever change? Quitting smoking cold turkey was sooo much easier.

Completely understand what you mean. I have had many moments of frustration over not being able to eat something I know I can't, or something I shouldn't. This has been my most difficult hurdle to overcome, dealing with my food addiction. I have found for myself, acknowledging my feelings and talking them out has helped ease the frustration I feel. I usually find if I can talk about it, understand why I feel that way and decide to make the better choice I am satisfied. The cravings don't go away, but how I deal with them now that I'm sleeved, has made me feel positive and good about myself. I wish there was an easy solution to this or a better answer for you. I hope this gets easier for you!

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I just went on Amazon and i cant find the book for end with over eatting can someone email me what it looks like please bonthronm@yahoo.com

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