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I know I should be happy I am down from 276.6 to 197 lbs. Is this around what other people have lost at this time frame? it seems like my scale is stuck for the last month. Does anyone have suggestions for kick starting my body again?

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I am 6 months out and 50lbs down and feeling the same way... I don't know if anyone is around for suggestions....

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I'm only two weeks out, so I'm afraid I'm not much help. I have read a lot of posts regarding stalls saying go back. To basics to bust the stall. Many suggest going back to a liquid diet for a short time and channging up your exercise routine. Good luck to you!

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Are you tracking your food on a program like My Fitness Pal? You should be limiting your carbs and fat, eating only healthy fats. Your carbs should come from dairy and veggies. Also, make sure you're drinking a lot of Water.

Are you exercising? People say they walk a certain amount of miles every day. If they're doing that, they should be walking very quickly with some hills, and keep up the heart rate for at least 30 min. You can take your pulse, to make sure it's in the aerobic zone.

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I can only speak for what's been successful for me: Next to no sugar, lots of Protein, low carbs, and plenty of exercise, specifically lifting weights. I work out 3-4 times a week with a combination of cardio and weights and I'm very happy with my results. I see that the weight loss is now slowing down but it hasn't stopped. I'll be at 6 months on September 7th and I'm just a few pounds away from 100 pounds lost.

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Since when is losing 79 pounds and keeping it off failure?

If you aren't losing at the pace you'd like, but you are active and adhering to a healthy diet, you need to accept that you might just be a slower loser. I thought I'd be down 107 pounds by nine months out...it took me 17 months to hit goal.

If you're not already, you need to track your food. Without changing your current diet, track every single bite you put in your mouth for three days. Then, shave 20% off your calories and return to a healthier balance (I do 40% Protein, 30% carbs and 30% fat) and if you don't lose weight after two weeks of doing that, come back and ask for help again.

Odds are good you've simply fallen into denial or gotten complacent about your diet. It's normal - I think a lot of us that take longer to lose the weight do this at some point. Pick it up and get back to basics. If you've dropped your Protein shake, reconsider. It's a great way to up your Protein totals for the day without adding a ton of extra calories. I always aim for 90+ grams a day. And be sure you're drinking Water between meals and not drinking a lot of excess calories (or diet soda, which isn't good for anyone) without realizing it.

Diet alone should help you jump start, but adding in new exercise will certainly help. Consider finding something you can look forward to doing as a daily physical activity. I won't lie, I have trouble with this myself.

There is no reason you can't reach your goal weight in your second year post op. Your sleeve is as big as it's getting. It's the same tool it was a year ago - so if you buckle down and get real with yourself you can reach your goal this year.

~Cheri

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I am 3 1/2 months out and I have lost 66 lbs. Protein is the answer. If your weight loss slows down, pick up on your protein intake. I try to atleast get 60 grams in a day. I can tell when I dont drink it because the scale dont move but when I do... I can loose atleast 5 lbs a week easy.

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what other people have lost at this time frame?

kiddo

you have done terrific this past year.

being here this past year you know, we all are different to how much weight we've lost, how long it takes to lose, we're all different

no comparisons allowed ^_^

you've lost 79 lbs - now standing tall in onederland, how great is that? doesn't matter how long it took you to do this, the fact you are here now is the great thing

you will get over this stall. it will happen

don't get depressed - things will turn around - and one more time you will be jumping around healthier and happier, and loving life again. ;)

your glass is half full not half empty

God grant me patience, just hurry up about it :)

good luck :)

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Since when is losing 79 pounds and keeping it off failure?

I was thinking the same thing Cheri! 79 pounds is wonderful!!

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I have a feeling based on my track record that I will be a slower loser than many here. I've just got to prepare myself and try not to compare --- that is where the disappointment comes in. Think about it -- if you had lost 79 pounds in a vacuum with no one else to compare to you would be ecstatic right?

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I know I should be happy I am down from 276.6 to 197 lbs. Is this around what other people have lost at this time frame? it seems like my scale is stuck for the last month. Does anyone have suggestions for kick starting my body again?

Maybe I'm just in a bad mood today but the subject for this thread makes me mad. I saw the subject "feel like a failure" and got scared that the sleeve might have failed someone. Then, I read that you've lost 90 lbs. On what planet is that a failure? Give me a break.

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I was talking to my surgeon about stalling or Plateauing and he said, during those times it is very important to really exercise and get your resting heart rate up to burn more calories and jump start your metabolism to start kicking the weight off. Try not to get discouraged and do your best to stay active and maintain your diet.

Best of luck!

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you arent a failure. we all lose differently. it is easy to get discouraged.....just look at how far you have come.....that is enough!

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Hey there!

It's going to be all right. I don't know how many times I see people saying they didn't reach their goal by 1 year post op and I remember that the sleeve studies out there show people hit their best excess weight loss at 18-24 months post op. A LOT of sleevers take that long to hit goal and the statistics prove it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that! As long as the weight comes off---that is what matters! Don't be discouraged. It's not a magic pill--it's a work in progress.

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