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Your right it isn't a joke. We all have been in more awkward, embarrassing, impossible moments but that is or will soon be behind us. Congratulations to those that have already done it and for us who are waiting to do it its just the beginning.

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Going into a Chinese restaurant and having the skinny moron waiter ask me, "Why are you so fat?" (Yeah, I walked out.)

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Going into a Chinese restaurant and having the skinny moron waiter ask me, "Why are you so fat?" (Yeah, I walked out.)

You probably handled it much better than I could have, I think I'd be asking, "why are you such a dumb (bleep)!" At least weight is something you can fix, ignorance not so much. Good Luck.

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Going into a Chinese restaurant and having the skinny moron waiter ask me, "Why are you so fat?" (Yeah, I walked out.)

I went to eat a Casino Buffet, my parents had invited me, I had never been there before. I am enjoying my food when I notice there was a couple of guys trying to take a picture of me. I stopped eating, I let my parents finish eating and when I got to the car I cried. The thing is I do not even eat a lot, I have health issues that prevent me from working out and I have made poor choices in my food. I have not been to any buffet since and that is also when I started to look into weight loss surgery. People are so mean and just don't understand because they have never walked in our shoes. Nobody wakes up one day and says I want to be obese, there is so many more issues that they would never understand unless they have gone through it.

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I went to eat a Casino Buffet, my parents had invited me, I had never been there before. I am enjoying my food when I notice there was a couple of guys trying to take a picture of me. I stopped eating, I let my parents finish eating and when I got to the car I cried. The thing is I do not even eat a lot, I have health issues that prevent me from working out and I have made poor choices in my food. I have not been to any buffet since and that is also when I started to look into weight loss surgery. People are so mean and just don't understand because they have never walked in our shoes. Nobody wakes up one day and says I want to be obese, there is so many more issues that they would never understand unless they have gone through it.

U are absolutely right! People are really mean and I'm so sorry that happened of you! I always feel like when I go for a second plate at a buffet people are smirking or thinking she really doesn't need that!! No one does understand that most people are obese because of health issue, or just plan of generics! It's really pathetic how people can judge when they don't even know you!! Good luck with your journey!!!

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I went to eat a Casino Buffet, my parents had invited me, I had never been there before. I am enjoying my food when I notice there was a couple of guys trying to take a picture of me. I stopped eating, I let my parents finish eating and when I got to the car I cried. The thing is I do not even eat a lot, I have health issues that prevent me from working out and I have made poor choices in my food. I have not been to any buffet since and that is also when I started to look into weight loss surgery. People are so mean and just don't understand because they have never walked in our shoes. Nobody wakes up one day and says I want to be obese, there is so many more issues that they would never understand unless they have gone through it.

U are absolutely right! People are really mean and I'm so sorry that happened to you! I always feel like when I go for a second plate at a buffet people are smirking or thinking she really doesn't need that!! No one does understand that most people are obese because of health issue, or just plan of generics! It's really pathetic how people can judge when they don't even know you!! Good luck with your journey!!!

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People who never have been seriously overweight can never understand what it's like. To them, losing 3 pounds is just a matter of willpower and skipping lunch, and so they look at me and think that I am just a) lazy, B) a slob, or c) overindulgent.

The thing is - and I mean this - so many of the overweight people I know have more willpower than anyone else. They have been on strict diets, monitoring everything they eat or even consider eating, feel guilty if they do eat a bit more, and then beat themselves up continually. We are never happy with ourselves, and we are the reason the diet industry is a multi-billion dollar industry.

But we have been set up to fail.

Diets don't work. We can all agree on that.

We are probably the people who would have survived famines a couple of hundred years ago. Our DNA is programmed to make us survivors. Those skinny folks wouldn't have lasted a week. Starvation is no longer that much of a problem for many of us, but our bodies haven't gotten the update yet, and so we keep socking away that fat reserve.

So I look at it like this: I'm a survivor from a long line of survivors, and I'm proud of that. But now that I do not have to worry about the same things my ancestors did, I can get healthy using new technology. Life is good.

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U are absolutely right! People are really mean and I'm so sorry that happened to you! I always feel like when I go for a second plate at a buffet people are smirking or thinking she really doesn't need that!! No one does understand that most people are obese because of health issue, or just plan of generics! It's really pathetic how people can judge when they don't even know you!! Good luck with your journey!!!

If those mean S.O.Bs. motivated you, maybe seeing them take that picture was your bariatric angel's way of getting you to do something (bariatric surgery) that you should have done. I know that sounds a bit crazy, but if that is what you needed to motivate you, then in the long run that experience wasn't all bad. Remember it when you are tempted to go off your diet or sneak something you know you should not have. Use that memory as a tool to propel you to looking great and feeling sensational. F#(# the b@$+@&*$.

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When I was told by my father that my husband would leave me because of how fat I was, even though we met when I was at my highest weight.

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To be around for my family

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What "sealed the deal" for me was this summer...my girls & I took a plane to FL for a 3 wk visit to my mom's. As I sat in our first plane, I went to buckle the seatbelt..it wouldn't buckle. I began to sweat with nervousness & panic. I had always been able to buckle my airplane belt any other time I flew. Granted, this was my first flight in close to ten years, but my God! Seriously?!? I started out w/ denial... I fumbled around, sure I was doing something wrong! Next, came anger...now why in the hell would they make these belts so small??? Finally, I got very nervous. At this moment, I had never heard of a belt extender, so in my mind I thought if the flight attendant noticed, I would either be forced to purchase an additional ticket, or be forced off the plane.. Leaving my girls standing there mortified. I was NOT going to let that happen, so I did whatever I could to make it appear as though my belt was latched. I put both sides on my lap, and then covered my lap w/ my purse. Each time an attendant walked by to do a seatbelt check, I went through the panicking all over again. It was the single most shameful moment of my life. I vowed that I would have the surgery no matter what the cost.

I will be having surgery later this winter.

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Congratulations! Sounds like you made the best decision ever. This operation is a life changer, so get ready for a wonderful ride as you turn into a healthy, happy butterfly!

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Last year I had an infection after Gall Bladder removal. The results from the infection showed that my body makes a bacteria that basically makes me fat.

I made the decision to have the Sleeve and not waste any more of my quality of life.

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Torilee, is that a gut bacteria you're talking about?

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For me..not keeping up with my Grandchildren..I wanted to play..but had to keep sitting down as I was in agony with my back...or my knees were on fire! Plus I felt uniformed wearing the same baggy clothes with 80% of clothes I couldnt wear as too small. I was in denial...but had a rwaluty check when I looked at my reflection in a shop window...what I saw was a hunched over fat blob..no make up..baggy clothes...unkempt hair..leaning on a walking stick. Thats not me !! I keot saying...until I looked closer..I didnt recognise myself..I had completely Lost my self worth...I wasnt Living..just exsisting ...

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