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That is ironic, Susan is reminding another female about posting in a men's forum. I am not offended. Just found that peculiar.

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That is ironic' date=' Susan is reminding another female about posting in a men's forum. I am not offended. Just found that peculiar.[/quote']

There is nothing ironic about it. A member reported the ladies because they were posting in the men's forum. As A VST forum administrator, it is my job to follow up on reports and remind members of our rules.

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It really is amazing the difference it makes. We have gone from 1x every 2 weeks, to 2x or 3x a week. Then add the 2x a week that I am sneaking in (doing the laundry myself - LOL) I am basically having sex 5 days a week. She is happy (like that goofy boob in the old Enzite commercial - big dopey smile) and I am happy too. Sex is fun and I am having more fun than ever. The ore I know I am pleasing her - well, two things happen: she wants more and I want more .... pretty much a win win situation.

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First real "encounter" since the surgery (lots of fooling around' date=' but yesterday was... the full meal deal). And... guys... wow. GET THIS SURGERY.

Before the surgery, I was a real "one minute wonder" (if I could even get lucky; at 338, it doesn't happen much). I would be panting and wheezing and see spots, and I was lucky to even be able to finish. I was used to the woman not... finishing, either.

Yesterday.

SEVEN. HOURS.

She had more... moments of joy than I could count (maybe 12? 15? 20?), and I had... THREE.

THREE. In one night! Guys, I'm 42. That just doesn't HAPPEN to guys my age.

And it certainly never happened before the sleeve.

Good god, men, if you have ANY problems in that area at all and are pre-sleeve, RUN, don't walk, and get the surgery.

UN-FREAKING-BELIEVABLE. I thought that stuff only happened in porno movies...

Ok, I'll shut up now. But... wow.

Sore... exhausted... and happy ;)

Edit: uh, it wasn't seven hours continuously, I should mention... 8pm till 3am, but not all, uh, action. Even at my current fitness level, that WOULD kill me. Seven hours of go... rest, chat, laugh... go... rest, chat, laugh... repeat until too sore and exhausted to continue! And NOW I WILL shut up.[/quote']

That's awesome, good for you. It's nice to know you can really enjoy the rest of your life. Happy, happy!!!

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Well congrats on the accomplishment...lol it is true skinny sex is so much better than fat sex. I personally can bend and wrap legs and other body parts in ways I never thought possible' date=' and the hubs is enjoying every minute of it... As am I. Heheheh :)[/quote']

I'm not to excited about that day when I have more stamina for sex because the hubby is not so sexually active. That's the only thing about losing weight that I don't look forward to, and I hate to take care of myself as it is not the same. Just saying...

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I really wanted to reply to this. Yes' date=' sex is a LOT of work for a big guy. Ladies, all due respect, but most of the time, sex is all about US doing the work -- abs and core, legs, arms. If you're out of shape, as a guy, sex can absolutely destroy your stamina, and let's face it -- collapsing like a pile of Jello halfway through just ain't sexy. So we try REALLY hard to please y'all, but when you're that heavy, it just ain't going to happen!

Add to this the fact that fat converts testosterone to estrogen (yes, estrogen. Look up lipid aromatization for proof...) and you see a real "double whammy" for us guys emerging; not only are we expected to be nearly machine-like in our movements, with no reaction to the sheer strain and stress of moving 250, 300, 400 pounds of flesh around (not counting the lady!), but our testosterone can dip so low that we have a hard time keeping an erection (and what THAT means, ladies, is that ANY distraction can make "it" go away -- slowing the rhythm, changing position, even just worrying that "oh god, I'm gonna lose it!" And when you're panting and wheezing and worried about having a heart attack (yes, contrary to urban legend, people can and do regularly have heart attacks or strokes during sex), that's a pretty serious distraction. So, for a heavy guy, sex really ain't much FUN! We want to do it to keep our lady friends happy, and sure, it FEELS good, but it also feels like we're gonna die, it's a race against the clock with whether Mr. Happy will keep playing along, and a lot of times those negatives outweigh (heh) the positives.

Now, switch to skinny sex. My muscles are MORE than capable of hauling my carcass around and doing ALL sorts of interesting positional things. Sure, I sweat and breathe hard in the throes of passion, but my heart and lungs are healthy and I have a ton of stamina, so I'm not worried some artery is going to explode. And best of all, because my testosterone MORE THAN DOUBLED without drugs, just by losing the weight, my libido is crazy -- that one hormone makes ALL the difference between just being caught up in my head and worrying about how I'm going to "perform" and getting utterly, absolutely lost in the moment. And that is so insanely sexy. Apparently for both of us!

So yes, ladies, if you want a better love life, definitely lose weight, but get your guy to lose weight too. You will NOT regret it![/quote']

Wish hubby would have surgery too but he won't. Sex is pretty much non-existing in my world. Thank you for your story as I thoroughly enjoyed it.

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First real "encounter" since the surgery (lots of fooling around' date=' but yesterday was... the full meal deal). And... guys... wow. GET THIS SURGERY.

Before the surgery, I was a real "one minute wonder" (if I could even get lucky; at 338, it doesn't happen much). I would be panting and wheezing and see spots, and I was lucky to even be able to finish. I was used to the woman not... finishing, either.

Yesterday.

SEVEN. HOURS.

She had more... moments of joy than I could count (maybe 12? 15? 20?), and I had... THREE.

THREE. In one night! Guys, I'm 42. That just doesn't HAPPEN to guys my age.

And it certainly never happened before the sleeve.

Good god, men, if you have ANY problems in that area at all and are pre-sleeve, RUN, don't walk, and get the surgery.

UN-FREAKING-BELIEVABLE. I thought that stuff only happened in porno movies...

Ok, I'll shut up now. But... wow.

Sore... exhausted... and happy ;)

Edit: uh, it wasn't seven hours continuously, I should mention... 8pm till 3am, but not all, uh, action. Even at my current fitness level, that WOULD kill me. Seven hours of go... rest, chat, laugh... go... rest, chat, laugh... repeat until too sore and exhausted to continue! And NOW I WILL shut up.[/quote']

Thanks for this post. So many questions answered, so many things to look forward to. My date is set for Oct 23 my goal is to lose 160lbs and be able to get fit without the knee and ankle pain from being so heavy (current weight 398). Glad to see the things happening to me has happened to others ans has been corrected with the sleeve! Again awesome post!

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Wish hubby would have surgery too but he won't. Sex is pretty much non-existing in my world. Thank you for your story as I thoroughly enjoyed it.

Maybe after your hubby sees how successful and happy you are after you're sleeved, he'll change his mind.

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Maybe after your hubby sees how successful and happy you are after you're sleeved' date=' he'll change his mind.[/quote']

That's my hope too.

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I get it in but not 7 hours, after 30 minutes I'm done.........

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Yeah.....at 50lbs less....things working a lil better!

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Oh yea....it's better! SO MUCH BETTER! Stamina, positions......best sex since hs/college days!

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I'm a60 year old.

I am down almost 60 pounds since my start.

I feel 20 years younger.

Next week I am having a para-thyroid with a growth on it removed. My doctor tells me I'll feel 10 years younger when that is done.

My wife is frightened. A 60 year old in a 30 year old body!

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I get it in but not 7 hours' date=' after 30 minutes I'm done.........[/quote']

Your weight loss figures are impressive.

Keep up the good work.

I m at 230, with a short term goal of 210 my New years day.

Looking forward to seeing you at the goal line.

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