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I am one month away from my sleeve date of 9/11. My anxiety is so bad right now, I don't know how I'm going to get through the month. One day I'll be fine, then the next day I'm wondering if I'm going to be able to do this. Is this normal? How can I get through it?

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My date is coming up as well and its really just starting to hit me. Its entirely normal to be feeling the way you do as its HUGE change and something we will need to live with for the rest of our lives. I am sure this was not a decision that you came to lightly and that you have researched researched and researched. I keep thinking about the things i will be able to do that i haven't been able to do or things i cant wait to wear. Its hard work but we can do this!! Good luck! :rolleyes:

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What you are going through is very normal. Everyone goes through these emotions. Here are a few entries from my blog regarding my fears. I had my surgery on February 16th. So look at the dates to see my pre-surgery fears. You may also want to read some entries of how things went for me after surgery to give you an idea of what to expect. http://jfabulous43.wordpress.com/tag/fear/

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Feel free to reach out to me if you need someone to talk you down off the ledge.

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Totally normal and everyone goes through it. One thing I found that helped me through it was listing all the things I hated about being overweight (a very long list!) and all the reasons I wanted to get to a healthier weight and the things that would be great about being a healthy weight, like being able to shop for regular sizes, keeping up with my kids, being ALIVE to see my kids graduate highschool, college, get married, have grandchildren, etc. You get the idea. Whenever I would have second thoughts or get really nervous I would review my list. The list was also really helpful post-op during the first week when I was struggling a bit and wondering why I did this to myself.

I also spent a lot of time looking at before and after photos of people who had the surgery. Not only was it inspiring, it helped to get me excited about it.

The surgery is surprisingly easy for most. If you are worried about how your life will change afterward, I can honestly say that I do not miss eating what I want nearly as much as I LOVE the transformation of my body, my confidence, my energy and more.... and that is only two months in!

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At first, I'm totally psyched about getting sleeve. Unfortunately, a week before the surgery, I started to panic. I can't eat properly, I have mood swings, I only sleep 1.5 hours every night and cried during work house in the office wash room :D .

To think about it, what keep me going is to really dig deep into myself and ask "why on earth am i doing this?" .. for me the answer is simple, one day I want to start a family. What about u?

But of course, I am really grateful that I have all the support system that I need and keep me going. My families, friends, and colleagues supports me every step of the way. I used to be such an aloof, go to surgery myself and 3 months from now just suprise my friends in hoping to hear "OMG u look amazing!". As tempting as it sounds :P , there are some things that you just can't go through alone. So find the best support system that u have in your life and go from there. :wub:

Wish you all the best! :)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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