Has anyone else noticed that men and women treat you different since losing weight? Men certainly do not hide the fact they stare, hold doors, flirt, and smile more and don't get me wrong, its flattering. Its a great feeling however women become catty and not so nice. Nothing else about me other then my weight has changed. I have actually lost female friends over my weight loss.

Michelle xo

I am begining to lose girl friends because of my weight loss' date=' they don't even know about the surgery they think I am on a diet and working out (didn't feel too comfortable telling them). They always want to go out and eat and I always give an excuse bc I cant go out and eat yet and their response is "I forgot your skinny mini now". It makes me so upset. All my family is in NYC and I'm out here in Jersey and now I have no one to hang out with. I guess I learned who my real friends are.[/quote']

Where in jersey are ya at? I'm In ocean county

I'm in Princeton not too far from Trenton. Where's Ocean County?

Michelle I am in Princeton' date=' NJ. where in SJ are you?[/quote']

Who did your procedure? I had doctor Chau who is located in princeton nj

I have stopped hearing from at least one friend. Some of my friends have had WLS and I think they were okay as long as they were in an "advisory" position. But now that I have surpassed most of my friends, I don't hear from them so much. Be fat really is also being part of a club.

Now on the other hand, I don't know if I've offended her without knowing, that is always possible.

And there is all the political division going on right now too, that strains friendships.

Who did your procedure? I had doctor Chau who is located in princeton nj

Dr.Lisa Dobruskin in Hamilton. Love her!

I am in Sewell.

Michelle xo

I'm in Princeton not too far from Trenton. Where's Ocean County?

Ocean county is where seaside is located I'm about 20 mon south of there

I've never really had "friends" just a gang of cousins n my brother n sister... Thank God they are supporting me... At first they were worried about me having surgery n begged my to try some other WL method, but now we are all good. I couldn't imagine losing friends over improving myself... That must be really hurtful...

Umm... what's wrong with the woman talking about being on Weight Watchers? Perhaps she wants to show people that healthy is an option and fatty foods shouldn't be apart of a regular routine. I talk about dieting and exercise A LOT at work and I do it to be encouraging not obnoxious. And frankly if people who are overweght (and I'm still one of them) are offended maybe they should look at themselves instead of putting th blame on someone else

I don't have many friends either but I haven't told anyone about the surgery so we will see as time goes on if they start to act negative towards me. The only one who knows about the surgery is my husband and he is very supportive.

You're not the fat friend any more. Ur "competition"

Sad but true

I had always been the fat friend so I didn't lose any friends. But I joined a gym when I started on the WLS in preparation of afterwards. And I have made some amazing friends! They are all healthy fun people. We work out together almost every day, have dinner, hang out at the pool all the fun stuff girls do together. It's sad when you lose friends, but usually you are friends with people whom you have things in common, they might feel as if you have nothing in common anymore. hopefully you will be able to find some new great friends if your old friends never come around.

Umm... what's wrong with the woman talking about being on Weight Watchers? Perhaps she wants to show people that healthy is an option and fatty foods shouldn't be apart of a regular routine. I talk about dieting and exercise A LOT at work and I do it to be encouraging not obnoxious. And frankly if people who are overweght (and I'm still one of them) are offended maybe they should look at themselves instead of putting th blame on someone else

You don't see her behavior as passive-aggressive against the other women?

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You don't see her behavior as passive-aggressive against the other women?

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I was mortified by her behavior. Passive-aggressive, catty, mean-spirited, unprofessional, un-classy, un-ladylike...call it what you will but fair is fair: she didn't say it to be informative--no one asked her opinion. She did it to make herself seem better than the other women. And they hate her because of it. It was an object lesson of how not to treat others. Her behavior WAS obnoxious, and my opinion of her dropped.

I am blessed to have a fabulous circle of girlfriends. They are my biggest supporters and cheerleaders. I am the only fat person in the group (actually, everyone I socialize with is thinner than me). We're all in our early-mid fifties, so the whole jealousy thing is a non-issue.

As for the flirtatious looks/comments: who DOESN'T appreciate an admiring glance?!!