StrangelyNormal

You are braver than you believe,stronger than you seem,and smarter than you think.- A. A. Milne (Winnie-The-Pooh)
You are so smart to be making this commitment to a healthier life, You are brave for traveling so far out of your comfort zone to make this change. And you are strong enough to come out of surgery with flying colors and take your 1st steps as the new you

Faith is taking the first step,even when you don't see the whole staircase.- Martin Luther King, Jr.

You're right... It sounds scary, but out is fun to say

Faith is taking the first step,even when you don't see the whole staircase.- Martin Luther King, Jr.

Tell them that dinner is a Protein shake unless they want to cook
Honestly, I do all of the cooking at my house. I became very 'selfish' about food when I started this journey. The plus side is, I do all the cooking, and I'm not cooking 2 meals, so, my whole family eats healthy now. My wife has lost 51 pounds now since April, and is not wls! Mostly due to our new menus and the fact that she goes walking with me,

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Chesty Puller a very famous Marine from the war in Japan, said something like, men we are surrounded by the enemy, now they cant escape us!!!!

A lady asked me when my baby was due. I said "at 4:00 when the school bus comes and drops her off"

A lady asked me when my baby was due. I said "at 4:00 when the school bus comes and drops her off"

Strangely....OMG i almost pissed myself laughing when i read your post!!! Quick thinking...
i saw a friend i have not seen since before surgery (she doesn't know about surgery)... she gives me a hug, holds me a arms length away and says... "something is different about you"... (i am positive she is going to say something about my weight loss... i have lost 50 lbs) ... she says: "i know what it is, you have a new haircut".... i felt so deflated ... my hair is just the same... but by then i was so dumbfounded i said "yea, you like it?".... why do i look to others for positive strokes?...
Sannah don't feel defeated, you will get the MRI done and then your sleeve! You are taking the steps to take care of YOU! & your steps will pay off... ((saving you a spot on the losers bench))

A lady asked me when my baby was due. I said "at 4:00 when the school bus comes and drops her off"

A lady asked me when my baby was due. I said "at 4:00 when the school bus comes and drops her off"

A lady asked me when my baby was due. I said "at 4:00 when the school bus comes and drops her off"

Check with your doctor. Many use a 1 week pre-op diet. It is going to be up to him if you are ready. When I got my pre-surgery sonogram, the tech said she could tell I'd been good on my liquid diet. So they can tell.
She also said I had a fatty liver, but felt bad and said I had a really cute gallbladder.

Hmm...I'll take the excessive skin over the morbid obesity any day. .I can always have that chopped off! Scars don't bother me either.. You can always make up some very interesting story of how you got them...espionage...saving the US from danger...whatever war story you wanna tell..it can be your little secret...but that is way, WAY better than being morbidly obese and living a half life.

Hmmmmmmm, I've always said
Never take financial advice from broke people
Never trust a skinny chef
Now I can add........ Never trust an obese bariatric surgeon.

Awesome! Ur my sleeve sister! I'll be at the MAR surgery center. Then I'll be at the Reàl Del Rio, which is a super cool hotel. We're gonna be they're till the 18th. What about u? U should join our Facebook group. Lotta support there. If u wanna join it is a private group by invite only. Just send a friend request to april Davis gilley. Also I'm filming the journey at www.YouTube.com/shesstrangelynormal

well I ended up changing to Dr Ponce at INT in Tijuana (longggggg story LOL) but same date! I can't wait!!!

On Monday, I will be 12 weeks post op. I have lost a total of 56 pounds as of today. I'm very excited and really Swimsuit After Pic Sept 21.zipenjoying this journey. I won't lie, it was very hard in the beginning but every day is a little better than the last! I know I still have along way to go but I'm so glad I'm not where I was..... The first pic is before surgery on the left, first after pic on the right and the one in the middle was yesterday. The second pic was also yesterday.

Not trying to upset the ladies here, but speaking from experience... Pregnant women are hormonal, emotional, and weird! You have to keep that in mind. Her body is going through basically the opposite changes that yours is right now. While you're getting thin and healthy she's faced with the issue of putting on baby weight for the next how many months. That alone could be enough of a reason for her to become detached and distant. Add in the fact that there are other women paying attention to you now and flirting and your wife is probably a wreck inside. And believe it or not, her being distant is probably her way of trying to cope with it and not wanting to rain on your good time of loosing so much weight and feeling good (Or she could be testing you and waiting for you to reach out to her, women tend to test us dense men sometimes). Talk to her. Make her feel good and loved. Ensure her that you're not going to stray and that you love her no matter what.
Is potential poontang worth throwing away your wife and unborn child? Is it worth 18 years of child support? Is it worth only being able to see your child half the time if you're lucky? Are you willing to have your child grow up resenting you for not being there? These are all questions that you need to do some deep soul searching over. Don't just give things up and leave on a whim or because the ladies are looking your way now.

You're being selfish if you DON'T have surgery. Your obesity is making it harder for you to do your job as a parent and a wife. Once that weight starts coming off, you'll feel so much better that you won't let your family's crazy comments register. It's time they all learned how to help you a little bit...and you're doing your kids a disservice if you don't make them learn how to take care of themselves. No time like the present for them to learn this lesson.
BTW, your husband has the right to say something to you privately, but he does NOT have the right to express his opinion in front of your kids. HIS job is to support you, mentally and emotionally, as well as financially. He needs to support you in front of the kids whether he agrees with you or not. You guys aren't running a democracy...it's a benevolent dictatorship and the kids need to learn that now.
Good luck. I'm sure you'll make the right decision, but IMO you should have the surgery now and start that journey to a new, healthier, life.

Not too offend but I don't think the family thinks of it as being inconsiderate. They shouldn't have to walk on egg shells for us when its the way they have been eating for years as welll. I usually cook all the meals for my husband and I to make less temptation. But sometimes its unavoidable. I'm doing a low carb diet as practice to change my eating habits. We went to a burger place yesterday and I had to order without the bun. Knowing I just did that he still asks me if I wanted jalapeno poppers or soda. It's not because he's being inconsiderate. I think its just not something everyone thinks about unless they are considering wls or on a diet. It's just hurtful to us because we are having to deal with out

A message from the heart:
Never trust a fart

No one said this ago I thought I would. Statistically only 3% of obese patients will maintain weight loss. Sure we can lose the weight , but maintain it? Only 3 of every 100 will.

No one said this ago I thought I would. Statistically only 3% of obese patients will maintain weight loss. Sure we can lose the weight , but maintain it? Only 3 of every 100 will.