No Regrets, But I Broke Down And Cried Today

[june13sleever 223]

My skin is horrible...Probably not as bad as some people and probably worse than some. My butt is all saggy. Looks like a granny butt. Then my hair has not grown back. My thighs are all wrinkly. I am just have a bad day. No regrets at all, but it just sucks. I lost all my muscle. I can't even lift what I used to. Pity party for me today. I wore a bikini on the beach and still felt so self conscience. I don't think I can go through a lower body lift or thigh lift or Tummy Tuck. I want them, but surgery is not easy. What if the scars look terrible. I wish I never got fat when I was a little girl. All the damage, stretch marks...It sucks.

[Pookeyism 1,143]

Yet you are strong enough to endure it, and brave enough to wear your bathing suit...you win...

[dar1983 750]

Beach season is short, after that, put on some Spanx, and keep it moving! Hair loss: they make really good quality wigs these days, or consider hair extensions! Saggy butt: Victoria Secrets sells padded undies...check out a pair. Go shopping, and remember what it was like B.S. (before sleeve).

[Beyon Sleeve 57]

We all have bad days. And everything you mentioned does suck! BUT, you have to look on the bright side. You are alive and healthier than before. So what, you have extra skin (as I do too) its the things we go through that make us stronger! Ok, so we are not going to be supermodels...but was that ever the goal? Embrace your beauty AND flaws, because we ALL got em'!

[chitowngirl 885]

Yeah....I feel your pain, I was having one of those days too. I just feel so overwhelmed and super exhausted.

[Finding MeMe 204]

Ohhh my internet friend, I send my sympathy and you made me want to cry with you for having a poopy day. Hang in there and focus on the positive. Right now you are feeling like this but soon you will be feeling like this .

[mommymar 34]

Just remember, it's ok to have bad days. It's ok to get angry, to have regrets (I too think, why did I let myself get THIS big). Have a bad day today! Then tomorrow, get up notice how much better you sleep after losing weight, stand up and realize it's so much easier and how much less your body aches. Throw your tennis shoes on and marvel at what this body can do. Have a bad day but leave it at a day. Pull out some pre weightloss pics. Pretty soon (especially if you don't have to put on that darn swim suit) you will remember you earned that skin with every mile of work you put in. Be proud. You deserve to be proud of you and your body! Hugs your way!!

[vickyt 12]

I agree with you, I wish I never did this either. I wish I would have just been strong enough to do this on my own. I don't want all this old looking sagging skin. And one of the reasons I did this was so I could go swimming with my kids again and to NEVER wear another pair of Spanx again and now the opposite is napping, I will be stuck in spanx forever and I will never wear abating suit again. I pray God will set back time for me

[former_vbg 198]

I soooo feel your agony. I am struggling with the same issues. I have never even tried a bathing suit because of that. Batwings for arms, saddle bags for upper thighs, a droopy apron on my tummy. Yeah, putting on the Spanx and nobody even knows, but I know. I don't know whether plastics will ever be in my future without robbing my 401k which may happen someday, but in the meantime I have to deal with the damage I have done with the roller coaster of dieting I have done over the years. Gain weight, lose it and then gain it back plus interest, gain weight, lose it, etc....

You will have a better day tomorrow!

[BKMama 179]

Sending virtual hugs your way. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you!!

I agree with you' date=' I wish I never did this either. I wish I would have just been strong enough to do this on my own. I don't want all this old looking sagging skin. And one of the reasons I did this was so I could go swimming with my kids again and to NEVER wear another pair of Spanx again and now the opposite is napping, I will be stuck in spanx forever and I will never wear abating suit again. I pray God will set back time for me[/quote']

Sending good thoughts your way as well. Just so you know, if you had lost weight without surgery you would have still had skin issues. I watch the body makeover show on ABC that chronicles someone who diets and exercises to lose large amounts of weight over a full year. At the end of that year, they get a body lift because they have lots of sagging skin. Skin issues have more to do with age, genetics, how long you've been heavy, etc....less about how the weight is lost (if a large amount is lost).

[whataloser 25]

I hear ya sisters. BUT after not having exercised for 7-8 months, I just started and already I can see an improvement. No, I won't be supermodel material, but I'm better than I was and I'll be better yet if I just don't give up. We all just need to hang in.

I'm wearing shorts this year... first time in forever. And yes, they're long enough to cover the thigh flab. That and a little self-tanner and I look pretty good! I'll wear a tank top around the house or while exercising, but that's it. No public appearances in skimpy tops. Also remember, I'm 64 years old and maybe I'd just be getting flabby anyway!

[peacequeen 434]

You have accomplished so much in a year, don't let this get you down. It has only been a year,,keep working out. It takes longer for everything to get where it needs to be. I would only consider plastics as a last resort..and much more time than a year to decide. I hope your tomorrow is better

[tonibugg 64]

I just looked at some of your pics you've posted and you have NOTHING to regret!! You look amazing! Pick yourself up tomorrow morning girl! =)