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I would love to start taking photos with my family, I have been photo diving for years and unfortunately my kids are complaining that they won't remember what I look like when I'm not here. I promised them that once I get down to at least 160lbs I will take a studio photo. And yes, the amusement park sounds great! B)

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The one excuse I don't miss. I will never again wear panty hose unless i absolutely have to. But youre so right--panty hose at this weight is an absolutely miserable experience and must have been invented by a scrawny man.

I rarely wear pantyhose, but in the winter months I occasionally wear opaque tights with skirts, and it is hell in the morning trying not to fall out of the chair while trying to get the damn toe portion onto my foot!

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I would also love to take a nice vacation without the anxiety of airplane seatbeats and the worry if can I fit I into a Booth at a restuarant .......among my growing list!!!

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The sweating has to go. Not attractive at all!!!!!!

Yes sooo true.... I hate the profuse sweating!

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I can't stop laughing out loud!

I feel like yelling "FISH ON!" every time the seatbelt starts reeling me in!!!

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Yep, definitely sick of being strangled by seat belts and acting like I'm trying to "find" the other end when I'm trying to stretch it as far as it can go as I let it go and bring it in and let it go.... and bring it in..

:angry: Then they brake and you have to start over!

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I have laughed and cried while reading these posts! It is good to know I'm not the only one who feels this way! My husband has never said anything negative about my weight, but I always hesitate to go do things (ie. company picnics, reunions, large family gatherings) with him because I don't want to embarrass him. I would love to get rid of that feeling! I also look forward to possibly getting pregnant (we've been doing fertility treatments for 6 years), outdoor sports like kayaking, hiking, ziplining...pretty much all the things already mentioned!

My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant too! It's been a really depressing time and we've only been trying for 9 months. But I know if I lost weight I'd become more fertile and I'm so excited to have kids. I'm a little upset I'll have to wait a few more years after the surgery. But i'll get over it.

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Wow! I completely agree with just about everything everyone else has said! I can't wait for the amusement/water park, seatbelt, hiking, high heels, knee high boots, new positions (and hopefully and increased sex drive all together), clearance clothing (definitely found easier when skinny), pole dancing, dancing period, pilates, vacations, fitting in restaurant booths, not being looked at like I'm a cow when I eat, riding my bike, being more active with the kids, representing my husband as I should at company functions, advancing my professional career ( I agree that weight matters, no matter what anybody says) and the list goes on and on! Oh wait and don't let me forget NEVER EVER shopping at Lane Bryant again!!! That was a good one ladies. And by the way I definitely sweat, and sometimes cry when I try on clothes too.

On a side note, I want to share a funny story about big girl stores: Near my house there is a plaza, and in that plaza there are three shops - Lane Bryant, Ashely Stewart (also a plus-size store) and a Fitness 19 gym. The gym is all windows and it is actually angled so it faces the fat girl stores. Now at first I thought, god how rude, and then I thought well maybe it is to motivate us fat girls to come over and join, then I realized that it was motivation for the people looking out the window while they work out, lol...'I will not be fat, I will not be fat' lol. Sure glad I will never have to go to that plaza again!!!

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advancing my professional career ( I agree that weight matters, no matter what anybody says)

I so agree with this!!! I recently had a conversation with my boss about promotability as we were having lunch. He very nicely hinted to me that if I want to get promoted that I would have to drop some weight. He did this over lunch, and told me in confidence, so I very much appreciated him having the courage to tell me something that we all know is there. He basically told me that no matter how qualified he felt I was, to get promoted, that he knows for a fact, that the big wigs at corporate discriminate. It's not fair, but it's how the world is. So I agree with you 100%. I know advancing in my professional career is a huge thing that I am looking forward to.

Oh... and the Lane Bryant and Ashley Stewart story facing Fitness 19. That was hilarious!!!! LOL

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I so agree with this!!! I recently had a conversation with my boss about promotability as we were having lunch. He very nicely hinted to me that if I want to get promoted that I would have to drop some weight. He did this over lunch, and told me in confidence, so I very much appreciated him having the courage to tell me something that we all know is there. He basically told me that no matter how qualified he felt I was, to get promoted, that he knows for a fact, that the big wigs at corporate discriminate. It's not fair, but it's how the world is. So I agree with you 100%. I know advancing in my professional career is a huge thing that I am looking forward to.

It's very sad and very true. I lost my last job for being overweight. The CMO flat out said to others that my "outward appearance" was "bad for the image of his team and the company." This is a company that promotes health and fitness of all things, just not for the obese I guess. Performance review, flawless. Deadlines, always met. Other people liking my work and attitude, check. But he didn't care, just wanted me off his team. The person they replaced me with has done nothing but screw up every project I used to be responsible for, but hey -- the guy is blonde, blue-eyed and very fit. Guess that's all that matters!! I try not to be bitter, but I hate how many people have problems looking past weight, gender, race, religion, political affiliation, whatever to see the value of an employee.

I also look forward to (hopefully) a better career down the road!

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Got two more to add

1. side boob be gone. so damn tired of looking like a sumo wrestler if I wear a form fitting top. arms practically horizontal.

2. new drivers license with correct weight and picture. in maryland you can only change your license if your weight changes by 20 lbs. that was 36 lbs. ago. it will be a while before i can change (56 lbs) but i will have the biggest damn drivers license photo smile ever seen!

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Got a new one today....Mud Volleyball Charity Tournament July 2013.

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I have been snowboarding since I was 7 years old and when I was 22 (i am 24) I decided to give it up because I felt too fat to snowboard! I can't wait to strap into my bindings with confidence!!!!!

I also want.....

to wear overalls. Not because they are cute, (because they're not!) But because I CAN!, To Speed walk up hills and run up stairs without being winded, To look down a trail from the top and say "piece of cake!", To dance in heels, to Wear single digit sizes, to Get a full body massage, to Have a neck and one chin, To steal my sister's clothes, to Enjoy shopping, to smile at the mirror!

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Go for my yearly checkup without overwhelming fear that I would have crossed over to diabetes or hypertension because of the extra weight.

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advancing my professional career ( I agree that weight matters, no matter what anybody says

I agree totally, no matter what anyone says I know weight is a factor and a deal breaker when it comes to advancement.

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    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
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    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
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      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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