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[Rootman 1,101]

Well a few weeks ago I let my motorcycle go, my a$$ just hurt too much to ride. This weekend both of our middle aged dogs health took a turn for the worse, the female went blind earlier this year, probably a brain cancer or something and is inconsolable, she constantly barks an whines, we pick her up and she's OK for a few minutes then starts in again, she don't respond to calls or commands very well any more so we suspect she is going deaf too. I suspect she is just frightened of the world closing in around her.

Our little male has had a few tumors in his chest and rear end and stopped eating last week and moans all the time. He started to vomit up anything we can get him to eat. We suspect he has a cancer too.

This will be the 4th and 5th dogs I've had to put down in my 50+ years and it never gets any easier. I'm afraid after this we won't get another pet - it's just too hard letting go.

So, I'm bummed beyond belief, I hope I don't seek food out as a refuge again. Seems like everywhere I look people are having fun with their dogs or riding a motorcycle having a good old time.

[mkardh 52]

Wow that is terrible. I too am an animal lover and my grief is unbearable when I lose 1. I am so sorry to here about your fur babies. Don't turn to food, you've worked too hard to get where you are!

[kimmy*custis 276]

I am so sorry you have to go thru this, it is so hard to lose pets. You can make it thru this, food will not help you, keep the faith, you have worked to hard to get where you are. Hugs to you.

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

this weekend both of our middle aged dogs health took a turn for the worse

Rootman

There are no words i can say to you but to express my deepest sympothy. This is your personal time with your sad feelings.

My sincere thoughts go out to you

take care

kathy

[NancyJerry 139]

You loved them in life, you must find the strength to love them enough to not let them suffer. They depend on your wisdom to always do what's in their best interest.

Right! Don't turn to food. I'm am such an animal sucker. My pets are members of my family. I lost my cats of 17 years, having been raised by hand at the age of 2 weeks. I spent all of last summer mourning the loss, sleeping and eating. Thought I could never do that again, but death is a part of life. Give yourself and another dog (or two) a chance to live life to it's fullest with a family that will love it, for better and worse! Just this week I got 2 kittens from the shelter as foster kittens. They are only 4 weeks old and not old enough to be at the shelter or altered yet. They are growing on us quickly and if all goes well, they will have found themselves in their new-forever home.

Be kind to yourself, grieve and mourn. Then move on to new family members if you can. I can't imagine being as young as you are and depriving myself or of a potential pet and wonderful life!

I pray for your heart to know and find peace at this time!

[RobbieNow 7]

I am so sorry you are going through this; it is never easy, even knowing it is the last best thing you can do to let a beloved pet go peacefully.

I don't think I will get any more after these two cats go; but I plan to go volunteer at a shelter and walk dogs, clean cages and socialize kittens and cats. As a kind of active tribute to all of the animals I have loved and lost.

Nothing anyone can say really makes it better; I hope it is easier to know you are not alone.

Robbie

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,282]

Well a few weeks ago I let my motorcycle go, my a$$ just hurt too much to ride. This weekend both of our middle aged dogs health took a turn for the worse, the female went blind earlier this year, probably a brain cancer or something and is inconsolable, she constantly barks an whines, we pick her up and she's OK for a few minutes then starts in again, she don't respond to calls or commands very well any more so we suspect she is going deaf too. I suspect she is just frightened of the world closing in around her.

Our little male has had a few tumors in his chest and rear end and stopped eating last week and moans all the time. He started to vomit up anything we can get him to eat. We suspect he has a cancer too.

This will be the 4th and 5th dogs I've had to put down in my 50+ years and it never gets any easier. I'm afraid after this we won't get another pet - it's just too hard letting go.

So, I'm bummed beyond belief, I hope I don't seek food out as a refuge again. Seems like everywhere I look people are having fun with their dogs or riding a motorcycle having a good old time.

Hey Rootman, I'm so terribly sorry to hear you're going through some really tough times. I have some fur babies too and no, it's never easy having to say good bye and let them go.

I know nothing I say can make it any better, I just want to know I'll keep your well wishes in my thoughts and in hopes you can stay stronger than the situation. It is really hard not to feed our pain... I wish I had an answer to that one but I don't.

Wishing you and you dear Wife the best.

[MinaT 669]

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I have two 13 year old cats and a 10 year old dog, that I love dearly and today we had to make the decision to bring one of my beloved 13 year old cats in to be put to sleep. It's heartbreaking. I am three weeks out today and I think I'm going to try make it another day before I bring her in so my family could have one more day with her.

[BenisaMartim4 369]

I'm sorry for what you are going through. I know what it feels like. I had to take our little weenie dog and have him put down (2 years ago) because he decided to eat a plastic ball off of the Christmas tree. It caused a blockage and a section of his intestines died. The surgery was $1200-1500 and there was no way for us to afford it. I squalled for days. I suppose It's something all of us with pets will have to go through at one point or another, but that knowledge doesn't make it any easier. (((HUGS)))

[Ms skinniness 3,003]

wow! This is a double whammy for you and your lovely wife. Having to let go of our critters are one of the hardest things to go through. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Please use the forum to share instead of going into the food issues. We are hear for you.

[Smoggy 152]

It is just SO heartbreaking when our darling pets become ill. My kitty is really sick at the moment and has just had a feeding tube inserted because she is so underweight. I was just thinking how ironic it was as I'm being sleeved in a week and the two of us are opposites. She is having surgery to increase weight and I'm having surgery to decrease mine. I must say the chocolate monster has been calling my name over and over recently but I have been deflecting the craving by going and feeding the strays near my building as I can't turn to my fur baby for comfort either as she is at the vet. I reckon the smelly cat food I dole out is a good deterrent as well as it makes me feel distinctly UNHUNGRY.

It is so sad our fur babies cant tell us exactly what is wrong - I do hope yours get better or that their illness is short lived. You are not alone xxx

[chitowngirl 886]

Sorry about your dogs, it is truly a difficult loss. I will keep you and your pets in my prayers.

[iegal 460]

Rootman, I am so sorry about all the loss. Big changes in your life. Please stay away from the food - I let that back in my life and have regained 9 lbs. Yikes.

We had surgery on our stomachs, not brains - therefore move forward wisely. Hugs to you and praying for strength in the days ahead.

[robindei 45]

Rootman -

So sorry for your loss of your furry companions and friends.

Nothing more to say - my heart goes out to you.

[Rootman 1,101]

Well I was surprised when I went home for lunch (I work only 2 miles from home) and my wife was not there. I called her on her cell and she said it was already done, they were both gone. The vet said HIS tumor was likely invading his anus or bowel and causing him a lot of pain and a few quick test showed that SHE was indeed getting hard of hearing. She made the decision that it was best just to let them go than to subject them to further operations or procedures. I was shocked my wife didn't call so that I could come join her and say goodbye to the two wee beasts. I'm really struggling with feeling resentful towards her for not calling me.

This noon wave after wave of grief came over me - more than warranted for a couple of dogs, I'm afraid like most guys I've kept things bottled up since way before my mom passed away about 3 years back. I think it started when I had a few weight related health concerns (ALL fixed via the VSG) and through the operation itself and subsequent life change afterwards, my mom's death and a life changing crisis of faith about a year ago. It all caught up with me this noon. Here I am at work trying to choke back the tears and not doing such a good job of it.

Well it feels like a little relief to just write about it. Thanks for the well wishes. I don't think there will be any more pets for us for a long while, it takes a while to heal from the loss of the old one to properly bond with a new one. Being childless they were all we had.