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My Husband... The Enabler



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So I'm 7 weeks post op tomorrow. Down 32 pounds since surgery after a 3 week stall. I was talking to him about how I would love some chocolate... You know how our minds go. He jumps out with "I'll go get you a cookie, love". WTF? We just spent all this money on surgery and... Really? Hell yeah I want a cookie. But not gonna eat it. And he even brought it over...

P.S. my husband is a tall, thin man that has always eaten whatever he wanted and never gain weight. He and my one year old are the reasons for the Cookies in the house.

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I can completely understand this. My husband is tall and thin as well and can eat whatever he wants and not gain a pound. Even at 18 months out my husband will offer me sweets and whatnot that he KNOWS I dont eat. It will take him some time to get used to the new changes in your eating habits. It can be frustrating at times haha :)

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I am going to have to call you on something...did you say a 1 year old is fed Cookies???

so sorry love, but that is bad. It should stop...children cannot be obese if they are not exposed to the habits and food...your hubby should be told, sorry - healthy foods and Snacks only.

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I am going to have to call you on something...did you say a 1 year old is fed Cookies???

so sorry love' date=' but that is bad. It should stop...children cannot be obese if they are not exposed to the habits and food...your hubby should be told, sorry - healthy foods and Snacks only.[/quote']

Yes ma'am I did say one year old and cookie in the same sentence. Was actually waiting for this after I posted it. I feed my child the diet I never could. She gets lean Protein, two-three servings of fruits, two-three servings of vegetables, her needed amount of dairy, and whole grains. With that being said, one cookie a week will not make someone obese. And 99% of the time she would rather have a couple slices of apples or carrot sticks rather than sweets. She is in normal range for weight, especially considering she is in the 100 percentile of her height. And I make the Cookies with splenda and karob instead of chocolate chips. I never want her to go through what I've went through in my life. Thank you though for caring enough to call me out.

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My husband is the same way. Thin, tall and has a great metabolism.

The cookie situation with the one year old is not that big of a deal if you also expose the child to fruits and vegetables too. The key to keeping a child from being over weight is balance and lots of activities like sports or playing outside daily. Every child should have a cookie once in a while. It is the sitting in front of the TV with limited activity that makes a child obese not just a cookie.

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My husband is the same way. Thin' date=' tall and has a great metabolism.

The cookie situation with the one year old is not that big of a deal if you also expose the child to fruits and vegetables too. The key to keeping a child from being over weight is balance and lots of activities like sports or playing outside daily. Every child should have a cookie once in a while. It is the sitting in front of the TV with limited activity that makes a child obese not just a cookie.[/quote']

Exactly. I have the normal 16 month old. She won't sit still and is into everything and climbing everything. Tv is off most of the time. And the only real time she sits still in her waking hours is reading (she LOVES to read). I am definitely not one of those parents who lets tv raise their kids...

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