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Thanks guys. I'm gonna use a lot of what y'all said as additional ammo if that's cool

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I just posted my response to the lady who told me I was taking the easy way out. that diet and exercise was what I needed. www.youtube.com/shesstrangelynormal

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My family is not supportive at all. They tell me that I am just enabling my disgusting-ness and that if I really wanted it I would do it myself. I know all about stigma's. Grrr.

You need a new family girl, yikes! I agree with whoever said it in this thread, we'll be your family now and you can be darn sure you'll get good support here.

I am completely amused by the "easy way out" stigma and in fact, several years ago I thought that too. (Don't beat me!) However, after many (many!) years of trying every diet plan under the sun and failing, this isn't an easy way out - it's the ONLY way out. I realized that the older I got, the harder it was on my body (and length of life) if I continued to try various diet plans that I could not make work for me. At some point, you have to ask yourself what's riskier - leaving the weight on and keep trying or getting the weight off a way you know will work. Obviously all of us here have chosen option #2, not because it was the easy way out, but because we know it's the only thing we haven't tried.

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I just posted my response to the lady who told me I was taking the easy way out. that diet and exercise was what I needed. www.youtube.com/shesstrangelynormal

I just watched your YouTube response to that ignorant rude lady! you go girl.....you said it perfectly.... Thank you for your response...

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I was trying my hardest to be nice.lol mlk said it best. U cannot drive out darkness with darkness, only light will do that...or something like that

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pennie....that was the best answer i've heard yet to the negativity i've gotten for wanting to get sleeved! I too have family completely against me and am finding support and friends here. TY everyone :)

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Both of you, add me to your new family.....support is very important and we here, will help you, get on with a healthier you!!!

I am very proud of both of you for taking your life in your hands and deciding on WLS.... Supporting proud hugs sent your way!

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I am blessed to have a family that supports every decision that I make. As for my co-workers, just about everybody there has had their boobs done and tummy tucks, so I just raise my eyebrow when I hear something negative, and ask them if they really want me to go there.

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My family is not supportive at all. They tell me that I am just enabling my disgusting-ness and that if I really wanted it I would do it myself. I know all about stigma's. Grrr.

shame on them! that one always gets me, if i really wanted it...hmmm, if i really wanted them to be quiet would they, lol you hang in there honey!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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