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oh' date=' I forgot the biggest reason - so little kids stop staring at me and saying 'Mom, that guy is so Fat'... that really hurts, and ticks me off. On the one hand I know they're just kids but on the other I feel like their parent should apologize for not teaching them manners...[/quote']

Unfortunately, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I'm sorry to hear that this happened to you, but I'm glad that it's almost over. ;)

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These are all so great and so true! Has anyone said this yet? * I want to be able to wrap a towel (regular bath size) around my body, instead of using the gigantic costco ones or beach towels! Who would've ever guessedmthat towel size is a problem for obese people...

*I want to go to every party, wedding, baby shower, and function I'm invited to...not send a gift because I am afraid people I haven't seen in 125lbs will see me. (I am very social).

*I want to be able to buy a bra at a regular store! (not many places carry 42DDD!)

*I want to run around and chase my students at recess!

*I want my kids (students) to not ask me innocent questions that hurt! (Why is your tummy so big? Are you 'pregnet?' My mom's not fat, why are you? ...all real questions!)

Most of all...I want to be happy & healthy! :)

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oh' date=' I forgot the biggest reason - so little kids stop staring at me and saying 'Mom, that guy is so Fat'... that really hurts, and ticks me off. On the one hand I know they're just kids but on the other I feel like their parent should apologize for not teaching them manners...[/quote']

Oh Patrickcurl, kids' comments can be the worst. I work with four and five year olds (I'm a teacher) and where the parents leave off, I try to make up for. (Mrs. lLambert, you need a Wii fit for Christmas! ....thanks.....LOL!) We talk a lot about differences and kindness to others in my class. My 9-year-old adopted brother is completely blind. He was shot in the face when he was two (He is from Baghdad, Iraq). He only has one eye, and it's fake. His face is disfigured, but he is the most handsome, smart, hilarious, adorable boy I know. He has the most amazing personality! You would not believe the stares, the comments, the vulgarity of what children and ADULTS say to him. It is our job to help teach these kids and adults become compassionate towards others. I have my brother come in regularly to help kids get accustomed to being around someone "different." People just aren't intentional about teaching their kids etiquette around others with "differences". My mom always taught us never to stare or say rude things. When I hear a rude comment, I make a point of trying to educate that child or adult of how my brother ended up the way he is--and I do the same with my students if they say something about my weight, or anyone else's!

Don't let it get you down, I've had kids ask the skinny girls at my work if they're pregnant, and tell them their bottoms are too big! Remember, everything is bigger to them. I've somehow learned to let fat comments from kids roll off my shoulders. Hopefully if you have kids, you can teach them to treat others with love and kindness no matter how they look, sound, smell, etc! We have the gift of empathy. :)

Best of luck to you in your journey!!

Erika

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Oh Patrickcurl' date=' kids' comments can be the worst. I work with four and five year olds (I'm a teacher) and where the parents leave off, I try to make up for. (Mrs. lLambert, you need a Wii fit for Christmas! ....thanks.....LOL!) We talk a lot about differences and kindness to others in my class. My 9-year-old adopted brother is completely blind. He was shot in the face when he was two (He is from Baghdad, Iraq). He only has one eye, and it's fake. His face is disfigured, but he is the most handsome, smart, hilarious, adorable boy I know. He has the most amazing personality! You would not believe the stares, the comments, the vulgarity of what children and ADULTS say to him. It is our job to help teach these kids and adults become compassionate towards others. I have my brother come in regularly to help kids get accustomed to being around someone "different." People just aren't intentional about teaching their kids etiquette around others with "differences". My mom always taught us never to stare or say rude things. When I hear a rude comment, I make a point of trying to educate that child or adult of how my brother ended up the way he is--and I do the same with my students if they say something about my weight, or anyone else's!

Don't let it get you down, I've had kids ask the skinny girls at my work if they're pregnant, and tell them their bottoms are too big! Remember, everything is bigger to them. I've somehow learned to let fat comments from kids roll off my shoulders. Hopefully if you have kids, you can teach them to treat others with love and kindness no matter how they look, sound, smell, etc! We have the gift of empathy. :)

Best of luck to you in your journey!!

Erika[/quote']

Ok, so I have officially bawled like a baby reading this

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I can't wait to pack up them damn fat clothes and buy me a pair of sexy black boots! And actually zip them up!!!!

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I can't wait:

*To be able to share clothes with my mother

*To have a colorful closet instead of just black

*For my thighs not to rub against each other

*To feel sexy and confident again

*to want to take pictures

*Not having to buy clothes at any plus size store

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I can't wait to pack up them damn fat clothes and buy me a pair of sexy black boots! And actually zip them up!!!!

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This is definitely another one of my can't wait, finally wearing knee high boots without having to worry about having wide calf! Thanks for the reminder

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Ooohhhh this is a great thread!

I have been able to put on my hubby's pants after 90 lbs, but now can't wait for them to be too big.

I can't wait for the doctor to tell me I am "normal" weight.

I can't wait to see my genecologist I have not seen and who helped me start this journey after more than 20 years of documented weight struggles...and cry with her at how far "we" have come.

I can't wait to wear a single digit.

I can't wait to get my love life back with my hubby, I miss him.

And more :)

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StrangelyNormal,

I hope it was a good cry! :) (Not a sad cry!) if you're interested, The Seattle Times has done a series on my brother, Hamoody since 2006 when he came to us at age three. :) He is just a sweetheart and the biggest blessing to my family. We adore him!

http://community.seattletimes.nwsource.com/archive/?date=20060711&slug=muhammed11m

http://community.seattletimes.nwsource.com/archive/?date=20061022&slug=iraqboy22m

http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews/2003714541_iraqboy20m.html

http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews/2003544835_iraqboy28m.html

http://community.seattletimes.nwsource.com/archive/?date=20071102&slug=iraqboy02m

http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/ABPub/zoom/html/2003544836.html

http://www.king5.com/health/childrens-healthlink/64604782.html

These are out of order and not recent, but you can search Humoody/Hamoody and find more info on him. I know his story but still cry my eyes out reading it. He is a true miracle! I don't know how to do pictures on this site, but if you're on FB, my name is Erika Lambert, I've got tons of pics of him there :)

Enjoy and have a great day!!

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My fiancée is originally from a town called Poulsbo in WA and he is familiar with these stories.

Amazing, just amazing. I'm so glad I'm not around Hamoodi all the time or I'd be in jail. I'd knock someone flat out if they dared say one disrespectful word aimed at him

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I love this thread... :wub:

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I can't wait to be unseen as I'm walking down the street. I long for the day that I blend in with the crowd and no longer have to see shocked expressions and hear the gasps and whispers. The adults are worse than the kids because they should know better. I look forward to going into whatever establishment I want to even if the chairs have arms. I want to go to Disney land and ride roller coasters and be able to walk the entire park. Most of all, I want to feel good about being me!

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I want to be able to be on the praise team at church again (my husband made me quit after I fell down twice getting off the stage - my legs go completely numb if I stand too long) and help people worship God. I also want to be able to get on my knees (and get back up :-) .

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I can't wait:

*To have a colorful closet instead of just black

*For my thighs not to rub against each other

*To feel sexy and confident again

*to want to take pictures

*Not having to buy clothes at any plus size store

Adding to your list:

I can't wait to:

* look banging in some jeans

* make my boo mouth drop when I wear something sexy

* be able power walk and run without being out of breath

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Thought of another one - being able to wear the robe provided at a spa and not having to bring my own so it would cover me.

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