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This is so very true that its really sad. Happened to me... My "best" friend actually said to me " who is going to be the fat friend now?"

Omg that is horrible!!!! Wow! I font think that is a friend!

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Those are fighting words!

I am tired of being the fat funny girl.

You will be the skinny funny girl!

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I can so relate to this thread! While I was in the hospital my family was visiting and kept talking about where to go have lunch... Really??????I just had surgery the day before and my sister said " u are going to have to get over it". You choose this!". It's amazing how our friends and family really dont want us to look better than them. Is it a competition? I didn't think it was! Don't we all want to be healthy and fit? My husband has been so great and other than God he and my children are the only ones that matter! Can't worry about the haters! Keep moving forward sleevers!

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I feel blessed to have nothing but support from people. I didn't care one way or the other because I did this for me but it feels good to know I have a support system. I gotta say though, one friend came to visit me the day of surgery and she came in eating nachos and Chinese food. I felt that was a bit insensitive but it's life. People are always going to be eating around me. I can't stop the world just because I have weight to lose.

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Capt Derel, You really don't look like I had you pictured in my head. :) I think it's great that you've put up a picture and that you have some befores, because you're going to be an AFTER very quickly. :)

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This is so very true that its really sad. Happened to me... My "best" friend actually said to me " who is going to be the fat friend now?"

I think I would have to tell her that she gets that job now! She is beyond rude and certainly not much of a friend.

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wow... read every single comment n so true! even best friends turn on u from time to time.. saying slick comments n wishing bad!... or how about boyfriends or girl friends " if you get too skinny i will leave you" WTH? really..really. :o . is that how u feel... first i am too fat, :huh: n now that i look Hotter ur telling me to stop.. yeah right! :rolleyes: i;ve been waiting so long for this to stop for u? :wacko: .. please! kiss my nicely shaped slimming down CULO (ASS)... ;> :D God will soon bless me with a great man! i was born single, so there is no issue in that. " I am sexy n i know it" :P

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I really want to cry right now, but since I'm in public I have to vent to my support system. I told my sister she needed to eat before we left the house and went to a winery. Of course she doesn't listen to me. I can't have a bite because it hasn't been 30 minutes since my last drink and I planned on drinking sips at a wine tasting, perfect, tiny sips. Since I'm the younger sister and I am the one who lives here I can't possibly know we are driving an hour away to a town with one restaurant. So here we are. Her and her bff are enjoying a meal and wine and I have to watch. Damn a fly is now in my wine glass.

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Kill em with kindness. They are trying to get under ur skin. Have nibbles and add to the conversation without a care in the world. Don't be on their level your better than that. If they cared they would not have done the complete opposite of ur request.

Heck act just as care free as them!

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Thanks kim, I'm trying to enjoy my wine in tiny sips. Drinking Water in between, like my mom taught me, lol.

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yes very good thread becarful everybody

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You know the ols saying' date=' you can pick your friends...not your family????? Well, I finally told my (very thin) sister i was having the sleeve done. And she says point blank-"you will still be fat. your always chunky". Very motivating, huh? This is why I normally steer clear of her!!![/quote']

Punch her in the face!!! Or at least think about doing ot and smile!

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I really want to cry right now' date=' but since I'm in public I have to vent to my support system. I told my sister she needed to eat before we left the house and went to a winery. Of course she doesn't listen to me. I can't have a bite because it hasn't been 30 minutes since my last drink and I planned on drinking sips at a wine tasting, perfect, tiny sips. Since I'm the younger sister and I am the one who lives here I can't possibly know we are driving an hour away to a town with one restaurant. So here we are. Her and her bff are enjoying a meal and wine and I have to watch. Damn a fly is now in my wine glass.[/quote']

That's just wrong!!!!! But you on a mission and when it's all over your gonna be please..... Let them have the food in due time we all gonna shine!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

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