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I've only told about 3 of my closest friends in university because I'd need some of them to take care of me if something happened since I'm away from home, and it came in handy, the first few weeks they took care of me and were very helpful and understanding, and other than that only my immediate family knows. I dont think anyone else needs to know and people talk, and even without telling, I see people getting kinda angry that I'm losing weight so if I ever tell more people they'd be all "oh well, she cut her stomach out, so duh"

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I tell anyone who will listen, their opinions are irrelevant.

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I haven't told anyone. I have been judged enough for being obese. I don't care to be judged and hear others opinions about this

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The 5 or 6 people closest to me and that's it. I don't need people lining up to tell me to burn more calories than I eat and to exercise. I may punch someone. I'm a God-fearin' woman, so I don't want to be tempted to open a can on anyone. ;) lol

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I told people in my weight loss group I created. I have a youtube channel dedicated to weight loss, and my main Facebook I haven't told anyone. I rarely go on. I do intend on posting photos of myself afterwards. I go on every month to two months. It varies. If someone asks on my facebook I'd tell them.

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Only my husband and two daughters know at this point. I plan on sharing when I get my surgery date. I don't want to jinx myself! :ihih:

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Yea, I'm one of those people that feel if I tell something that I really want, and people might be against it, they might jinx it, so I am more incline to tell afterwards, after I am in the clear of the surgery. I told one friend and she told me she doesnt want to hang around me if I'm skinny. I feel she was trying her best for me to not get it.

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I only told about 6 close people around me. It isn't that I don't want to share what I did, I just don't want everyone watching what I eat and constantly asking how much I have lost. I felt that would put additional pressure on me while I am already learning how to handle a whole new life. I am really glad I chose to do things that way.

Once I am farther out and have lost considerable weight, I will decide if I want to share with more people. I think I probably will.

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