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Two days ago I called off my wedding. How mortifying!..... BUT, here is the first time in my life that i will have the opportunity to deal with an issue instead of drowning myself in food.

As sad as I am, it is a good thing that this relationship is over. It has become aparent to me lately that my fiance was not supportive of my weight loss journey and that he would never be supportive. Bad relationship, time to end it.

I am proud of myself. I haven't eaten anything that I shouldn't, and I haven't over ate at all..... But I feel like I might as well have. I am still on this stall and it is really frustrating the hell out of me. I want so badly to continue on this journey and to get down to a healthy weight for my height and age........... but these stalls really mess with my head and make me wonder what the hell I must be doing wrong to deserve this. I know that stalls are normal and that they happen to everyone, but seriously.... IT'S KILLING ME!dry.gif

Hopeless. That's how I feel. Absolutely hopeless.

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The stall will break. Just focus on taking care of yourself emotionally. I'm sorry your ex was not supportive, but you sound like you've got your chin up. Good for you!

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It's YOU time ;0)

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It sucks, but stress can cause/prolong a stall, and it sounds like you've got more than your share right now.

I'm proud of you for making the hard choice that's right for your future. For now, just focus on doing what you need to do - eating right, drinking good fluids, staying active - and stay off the scale. You don't need the added stress of looking at that same number day after day.

The stall will break. The more you take care of yourself, the less that stress will contribute to prolonging it.

Good luck!

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Girl don't even worry about the ex. I know it hurts but this is your time to focus on you and you don't need people around you who do not support what you choose to do with your body to become healthier. When this is all over and you look and feel fabulous, he'll probably come crawling back and by that time......you will have moved on to a happier place in life.

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Well it sounds like you just may have booted the problem. If he cant be supportive of you then good riddance. He was prolly the reason your stress level was so high. You will break that stall. Just stay off the scale. Good luck!

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Everybody stalls because our bodies just don't like to give up the weight.

After your body gets used to its new weight for awhile, it will give up some more. It's just the way it is.

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Two days ago I called off my wedding. How mortifying!..... BUT, here is the first time in my life that i will have the opportunity to deal with an issue instead of drowning myself in food.

As sad as I am, it is a good thing that this relationship is over. It has become aparent to me lately that my fiance was not supportive of my weight loss journey and that he would never be supportive. Bad relationship, time to end it.

I am proud of myself. I haven't eaten anything that I shouldn't, and I haven't over ate at all..... But I feel like I might as well have. I am still on this stall and it is really frustrating the hell out of me. I want so badly to continue on this journey and to get down to a healthy weight for my height and age........... but these stalls really mess with my head and make me wonder what the hell I must be doing wrong to deserve this. I know that stalls are normal and that they happen to everyone, but seriously.... IT'S KILLING ME!dry.gif

Hopeless. That's how I feel. Absolutely hopeless.

First of all (((((hugs))))) for the called off wedding!

It took courage to do what you did and hooray for you for knowing what was right! ANd to not medicate with food- wow- what a milestone for you!

As for the stall- read this- it really makes sense as to what is going on. I read it whenever I stall, or sloe to a crawl.

http://www.dsfacts.com/weight-loss-stall-or-plateau.html

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Sorry you are facing so many challenges right now, but I know you will make it through to the other side of it all. I just got through a 6 week stall, and I was pretty sure I had met the end of my weight loss, but happily, In not there yet. Just be good to yourself, and keep treating yourself with the best quality food and overall treatment. You deserve it! Congrats on all the weight you have already lost.

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Congrats on being single! Single + skinny = FUN! Sorry you are dealing with a break up and a STALL! Ugh! The stall will go away, I stall and have since 3 months post op, for every 3 weeks out of a month. Keep your head up!

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Some said they increase there food intake & kept exercising & it broke the stall. Good Luck & hang in there. Believe it our not it's common for some people not to be able to handle the weight loss of there mate. I don't understand it myself.

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Im the same as southern sleever,I have stalled since day of surgery, I go 3 to 4 weeks with nothing then drop 4 to 5 pounds ...mentally is very frustrating but am getting a little better dealing with it.....stay strong,stay positive ..........good luck to you on your journey

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First of all (((((hugs))))) for the called off wedding!

It took courage to do what you did and hooray for you for knowing what was right! ANd to not medicate with food- wow- what a milestone for you!

As for the stall- read this- it really makes sense as to what is going on. I read it whenever I stall, or sloe to a crawl.

http://www.dsfacts.c...or-plateau.html

Hugs on calling off the engagement. That was a very courageous thing for you to do for yourself! You deserve to be with someone who supports you through all walks of life!

Hang in there on the stall, I know it is frustrating, but you will push past it! Good luck on your upcoming YOU time!

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So.... you're saying you're available?

Kidding smile.gif. If you're doing the right things, and eating like you're supposed to, the weight will come off eventually. Plus, it looks like you've already lost 66 lbs? That's something to be proud of!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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