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LOL, that's gotta be the dumbest thing I've ever heard. How about, "Just pretend you had a quadruple bypass and you'll snap right out of that heart failure"?

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LOL, that's gotta be the dumbest thing I've ever heard. How about, "Just pretend you had a quadruple bypass and you'll snap right out of that heart failure"?

Exactly. Well said.

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Some people need leg braces to help them walk or a pace maker to keep their heart going and nobody would get high & mighty on them about the things they need to survive or get around or live a normal life so why get high & mighty on us who need to have this surgery to keep us alive, healthy and eating right? That's my response to people when they're questioning my sanity when I've told them about my surgery and they assume it was purely elective or like I was taking the easy way out.

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Here is an interesting thought: Humans are programmed by evolution to eat whenever and whatever nutrients are available. However, over the past century we no longer have to walk everywhere or expend energy hunting and preparing our food. Food is readily available and there is no reason to have to wait until we make our next kill to eat. What has happened is that human development has outpaced evolution. Also, there are currently studies being done that is showing modern food to actually cause addictions (sugars and preservatives). When feeding overweight vs. normal people small amounts of a milkshake while in an MRI, the overweight people had their addiction centers light up like a christmas tree. Did your mom ever have an addiction to anything? For example, if she was a smoker tell her to imagine that she could never just QUIT cigarettes. She needs a little bit every day to survive but she can't have too much. Our addictions to food are horrible to kick because we need a little bit every day, we can't just quit food and never go back.

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Follow it up with... "and then what"?

and when they ask... "what do you mean"?

Say... "so I lose all my excess weight. How do I keep it off"?

The simple fact is anyone who is not heavy enough to need WLS will never know what it's like to be one of "us". I'm always going to be a Super Obese person on the inside, because I "get it". They never will.

Or you can simply just not respond at all and tell them they just don't understand.

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I know I'm a bit late to this party but one of the first things my surgeon said to me is that obviously I can tell you to eat a tiny meal three times a day and if you did that you will lose weight but then eventually you are going to get hungry and gain the weight back. What surgery is about is to make me comfortable in that when I now eat those small meals, I will not have the desire nor the ability to eat anything more and I will not feel deprived

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Well as my other sleevers have already mentioned - yes it's the dumbest thing a person can even think. The option to have this amazing surgery is a strong useful tool. True, it does help us Detour from over eating but it also does one thing better. It teaches us to be more aware on how we eat, how we see food and why we need to learn what Portion Control really means. Having anyone tell you to stop doing wrong - put down that fork or better starve yourself is no better than you doing it on your own. Taking charge of your life is the most important thing you can do for yourself.

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I had this conversation with my husband. He asked out of fear of loss of my life from surgery. Then I asked him to remember any meal we had togeather, if I ate a lot? He feels I ate like a bird before surgery ( he is a man that can eat what ever he wants and still has the 32 inch waist from high school ) . I told him that I was always hungry. I was always trying to keep the weight off and I thought of food as one should think of God. No one should be tortured like that. VSG takes away the desire to fill up. It's such a pleasure to wake up in the morning and not want to hunt and kill the refridgerator.

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      1. Selina333

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
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