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I agree with feedyoureye. finding a good counselor may help.
fluffy, lol i DID go on a shopping spree last week since I'm CLOSE to goal size and considering winter stuff can be a little baggy and be ok, i finally gave in. i'm holding off on serious bra/underwear spending until i'm at goal..at least for VS/Fred's stuff. Believe me I've been looking! I did buy several bra/underwear sets at LB recently so I hope that boosts the girls back where they belong. I think I may just end up putting a "no braless sex" rule in place dh could care if i wore a burlap sack he's so enamored with my new body so i know it's all in my own head. funny story... there's a rumor going around that my dh is going around town with some skinny chick NOT his wife (when in fact it IS his wife..even my closest friends have told me i look like someone entirely not like me)... LOL so our joke is that he's cheating on his wife with his wife.

I agree with feedyoureye. finding a good counselor may help.
fluffy, lol i DID go on a shopping spree last week since I'm CLOSE to goal size and considering winter stuff can be a little baggy and be ok, i finally gave in. i'm holding off on serious bra/underwear spending until i'm at goal..at least for VS/Fred's stuff. Believe me I've been looking! I did buy several bra/underwear sets at LB recently so I hope that boosts the girls back where they belong. I think I may just end up putting a "no braless sex" rule in place dh could care if i wore a burlap sack he's so enamored with my new body so i know it's all in my own head. funny story... there's a rumor going around that my dh is going around town with some skinny chick NOT his wife (when in fact it IS his wife..even my closest friends have told me i look like someone entirely not like me)... LOL so our joke is that he's cheating on his wife with his wife.

It got better for awhile there and then I started getting shy again (very self conscious) of my sharpei skin on my inner thighs, upper arms, belly and my super deflated boobs (which I've lovingly started referring to as my Deflated pancake Boobs). LOL If sex with clothes on were a possibility I'd never leave the house
Seriously though, Enjoying, have you gone to see your obgyn to get your hormone levels tested and maybe discuss what's going on? Perhaps there's a prescription whether oral or topical that can be prescribed? I'd recommend you go directly to your doctor (do not pass go do not collect $200) to get to the bottom of this. Skinny sex is one of the perks of VSG!!
BTW, FluffyLibra, I had to lol at your "liftable" comment. A couple of months ago, my husband lifted me. Needless to say I wasn't expecting him to try. He scared the you know what out of me! I clung & dug in like a freaked out cat or monkey while screeching in his ear. I've never been lifted before LOL Word of warning? Make sure he tells you before he does it so you can be prepared.

I worked out the recipe for the starbucks coffee tonight. It's as follows:
Everything in a blender -
1 cup milk (we buy a milk alternative that's real milk - not soy or whatever and it's lower carb with 12g Protein per 8oz... i had 3/4c 2% left over so i had to top it off with fat free)
1 tbs pumpkin
1/2 tbs light brown sugar (it was a minimal amount so i used real rather than the splenda brown sugar)
1 tbs vanilla extract
1/4 tsp cinnamon
1/8 tsp clove
1/8 tsp nutmeg
2 cups fresh brewed coffee
**I also added 1 scoop unflavored Isopure
this makes 2 good sized servings. here are the stats when i entered it into myfitnesspal (it'll vary depending on your milk/protein powder)
150 calories/9 carbs/2 fat/20 protein/9 sugar/1 Fiber
My husband drank the rest and added ice and sugar to his. I needed a packet of equal in mine. I know the starbucks isn't very sweet and the 1 packet put it about on par with that.

I can't believe I actually made it!
SN.......................Starting Wt.........Current.......Goal.......Lbs to Goal

DisneyAddict...........288.....................257..........258.............-1
WOW!!!

You know.. as long as your husband is 100000% behind you and willing to help you and see you through the highs and lows of this surgery.. honey that's all you need imo. Your mom & sister don't have to live your life or in your skin. Your husband shares your life so he sees your daily struggles. Someone who has always been tall & thin, in my opinion, has absolutely ZERO business giving anyone ANY opinion of theirs regarding WLS EVER. No shape form or fashion... never having DEALT with obesity or even a few extra pounds completely exempts someone from saying "no don't do it" or "it's an easy way out" BAH!.. I'm sorry but that's my opinion. You didn't mention anything about your mom except that she's against it?
Listen... it's gonna be you & your husband for the long haul yes? If you feel this is what you need to do to take your life back by the balls and be HEALTHY so you can sit in that rocking chair with your husband yelling at your grandkids to quit covering the dog in squeezy cheese... then whatever. Everyone else can go suck a big fat effing toad. Do whatcha gotta do doll. It's YOUR life & your mortality.