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My sister and I need support - NOW!
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We are feeling very discouraged. We need to hear from those who have had fills and gotten to the effective point of restriction. How did you keep your spirits up while you were able to eat way too much and knew you needed another fill? Did you diet during that time? Did you know soon after your fill that you needed another one? Did your doctor ask you to wait 8 weeks between fills, like ours did?
Our scenarios : Surgery for both was 2/24/04. Sister has had two fills under Fluoro. She is at 2.2ccs. I have had one fill under fluoro. and am at 1.5 ccs. Even though doctor was watching the liquid speed through the stoma, he would not add more saline than he had added. He said we would be calling him that night because we would be throwing up even water. If the fills are done under fluoro, why can't the doctor get our stomas to the correct point of restriction? He swears he is being aggressive about the fills. All I can say is that neither of us feels the least bit restricted and have not yet started utilizing the band in our weight loss.
We tease each other that any weight loss thatwe have will be a result of the "placebo effect." We feel like we are living in "the twilight zone" when we tell our surgery center's director, the one who schedules the fills, that we need another fill. She is exasperated with us. She says, "Are you telling me that you can eat as much as you could before the surgery?" We tell her that is exactly what we mean. We are not trying to eat as much, but the only thing that seems to be stopping us is sensibility and willpower. She seems to think that any amount of band restriction should help with food restriction. We think that as long as the stoma is large enough for our food to slip through into the big old lower stomach, the band is not working to keep us feeling full with less food in the stomach, and what good is that?
Will those who have dealt more effectively with this stage of bandsterlife please step up and tell us how you handled it? Do we just wait and wait until we have enough saline in our bands to begin real weight loss? Do we diet as hard as we can for as long as we can and pretend the band is working for us? Do we pressure the surgery center for more fills until the doctor gets it right?
We knew the day after our fills that nothing was different. We knew that we would need another fill. We're wondering whether the doctor is prolonging the process so that he can collect many fees from from us. We're hoping that is not true, but at $250. per fill.... No, I'm sure he doesn't need the money. He just seems to think that a fill of any amount of saline at all should keep you restricted for a period of time.
So, we need to know: is it all or nothing with the stoma, or is any restriction better than no restriction? Maybe our anatomies are such that we will need the full 4ccs. Who knows? We just can't fathom having to wait 8 weeks and then another 8 weeks and then another to find out.
Please, successful bandsters, give us the benefit of your experience. We are feeling lost and perhaps regretful that we didn't choose the bypass. I know it's sacreligious to say that on a bandster website, but we are truly frustrated and upset. We're feeling like we're not going to be able to make it work.
Thank you, CandyB.