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Preop doubts....

Mommyto2

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Mommyto2    1

Mommyto2
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So I am scheduled for surgery at 7:15 in am. Haven't seen my husband since last wednesday and he comes in and says.... You look like u have already lost weight... I said I had since I had been on prep diet.... His response.. Can't u just do that forever... Not what I really needed to hear. I have already been questioning myself... I think mostly out of fear of what if I fail at this, too?! I know I will fail if I don't do this.... But it is scary!

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zoelifechick    7

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Mommyto2: It is normal to have fear and doubt, BUT Don't give up now, you are too close to victory. My husband has said the same thing and I just ignored him, because I am doing this for me. Yes, it will be hard at first, but then we will become professional sleevers (lol). Stay positive, this is the one of the greatest things we could do for health. I will see you on the losers bench!!

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Mommyto2    1

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Thank u very much for the support! Can't wait to be on the losers bench!

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Khy    16

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Nope u r not allowed to back out on me now. We are all going in tomorrow to get our new sleeves! Yes I have doubts and yes I do not really know what to do with myself today. We all have fear of failing because it has happened before. I told my husband that I was afraid it would work for everyone else but me. He asked me what I intended to do to make it fail.... Not what I needed to hear and not what I meant when I said that. So now I intend to make it work no matter what...:angry:

Khy

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Bryn Dawson    9

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Almost all of us go through this stage where we second-guess our decision and question the surgery. It is normal to feel this way. Don't let it get you down! Just breathe through it and keep in mind all the GOOD things that will happen in your new sleeved life.

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Mommyto2    1

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Thank u very much for the support! Khy, I am with u! I won't back out especially not now that I am over halfway through the bowel prep! Ugh!!!!

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Guest Rosalind   

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I have said the same thing many times but I realize I need to resolve my weight issues once and for all. I am in my 5th month of my supervised diet and this is the first time on any diet I feel in control. My doc put me on a well rounded diet. I have decided to finish the coarse however. My 6th visit will be in early August because I found out today that I have a pinched nerve that must be surgically relieved prior to wls.......Oh the disappointment! But I will do what I have to!

My knee doc says I need to lose weight to relieve my knees. So......I am joining the loser's bench!!!:rockon:

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Mommyto2    1

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Rosalind.... Good luck! Hang in there! Look forward to seeing u on the losers bench!!!

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mamamckinzie    92

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I know the jitters must be horrible but you are doing the right thing and you will not fail!

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Mommyto2    1

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Thank u all for the support. Just had a long productive cOnversation with my husband and for the first time feel a ton of support and that he really does understand the changes fixing to take place in my life..... He says I am a lot more at peace about it than he but he supports my decision. Will be headed to hospital at 500 in am.....

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LindaS    316

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Good luck, Mommyto2! I think the last minute doubts is normal. I remember wanting to change my mind during all four times I gave birth to a child -- it happened right about 30 minutes before the actual birth. LOL! I just wanted to leave my body to do the work and go away some where else. :)

My husband asked me something very similar. I've told him that I've done it. I can lose the weight. My problem is keeping it off. I haven't been below 200 pounds since 2005. I haven't been able to get there on my own.

See you on the loser's bench!

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angel1    0

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That's the spirit!

Nope u r not allowed to back out on me now. We are all going in tomorrow to get our new sleeves! Yes I have doubts and yes I do not really know what to do with myself today. We all have fear of failing because it has happened before. I told my husband that I was afraid it would work for everyone else but me. He asked me what I intended to do to make it fail.... Not what I needed to hear and not what I meant when I said that. So now I intend to make it work no matter what...:angry:

Khy

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CowgirlJane    14,261

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Good luck and I am sure you will be just fine!

BTW, I change my mind about 10 times a day, good thing it will be awhile before I can get the surgery.

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readyforachange38    0

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Hope everything went well today. My husband wasn't that supportive either, even up to the night before surgery, but I had to keep my resolve that this is what I was doing. He was incredible the morning of surgery and ever since.

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smacbeth    0

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I'm having mine tmrw at 11:15... I too am freaking out thinking if im making the right decision... Thanks for your post. I'm glad im not the only one! :) I'm sure we will be fine tho! One day at a time!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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