Hi. I went to dinner with our good friends at their home last week. they know i had lap band surgery and that i'm on a full liquid diet. i sat and ate my jello and drank ice tea while they ate their regular meal. no problem. but, then the host passed brownies right in front of my face to the others. i think it was mean. what do you think? or am i too sensitive?

They no you are "banded" but probley don't realize or under stand your phase's like we do.liquid mushie's solid stage's. give them another chance.

I,always eat a salad or some fruit,or fill up on Water just in case I don't like what there having (hehe) and then I no I,have ate already and I need to eat a small portion size if I eat there.

this may sound rude" but it's not ment to. I some time's bring my own food over and with them then I no Im eatting healthy,because it a life style change for me. take care good luck with your band.

Jack: I couldn't have said it better myself, both of your responses are right on....its amazing, how even after the fact, we still find a way to blame others for the cause and life of our problems.

Carol

I have a son with special needs and diabetes. I always make sure I bring something for him to eat and or drink just in case there is nothing being served he can eat. I do not let him have sf sodas (except clear or the lemonaide- most restaurants only carry diet coke/pepsi as well as most of the parties we attend for his little chums (or no diet stuff all together)and he occasionaly wants something other than Water.

I think nothing of it and really hope I have never offended any host.

We went to a birthday party for my brother in law and his son yeasterday. Everyone had this spectacular spaghetti, and yummy ice cream and cake for dessert.

I had with me a cube for chicken broth and a pudding cup in the car. I knew we were going to be eating. And I knew that they probably had no clue as to what I could have and couldn't have. And I didn't want to be unprepared. It is MY responsibility to take care of my dietary needs, and I should not rely on, or look to anyone else for this. Even if I am invited to their home. Turns out my sister in law had made chicken soup (from scatch) and removed all of the chunks and veggies. She also purchased a small cup of sugar free vanilla ice cream for me for when we came to dessert time. She actually researched what I could eat and made sure that she was prepared. I was floored. I would never expect anyone to do this, and she went out of her way. It was wonderful. But if she hadn't, I would not think less of her in any way at all. You can't expect people to do magical things for you. You must create the magic yourself. You should have requested more Jello, if you were really still that hungry.