My fiance and sister are the only ones who know that I am starting the process to get sleeved. I won't feel comfortable telling anyone else until I get insurance approval. I am actually a pretty private person and have been debating whether or not to tell co-workers and extended family members should I get a green light. At some point it becomes obvious that someone has had WLS. What do you guys think? How did you go about telling friends, family and co-workers? What part of the process did you do it? Did any of you choose not to tell those around you?

OMG I told EVERYONE I was having surgery. I told my family, I told my friends. I've told casual aquaintences at work. The only person who doesn't know is my father and it's because he's been out of the country and won't be back for a few weeks.

Most of the response has been positive and supported or at MOST guarded. My mother is worried, of course, but she trusts that I'm going to research the heck out of this and make the right decision for me.

But the proof will be in the pudding. I haven't had the surgery yet. We'll see how supportive everyone is when the weight actually starts coming off. That will separate the friends and loved ones from everyone else.

Hell if they give me a video of my surgery I'll probably show it to everyone at work. "OMG Look! that's my liver!"

I'm weird like that. And I can't keep a secret about something exciting to save my life.