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My preferred thing to do in situations like this, is to be kind and cordial. Smile, be friendly but reserved, remember that you have a secret that he doesn't know. The most overt thing I'd do is to say something in the language he used, just a little something -- nothing to do with fat or cows, just so he knows you know the language. He might remember and be embarrassed for what he said, he might not. But either way, you've taken the high road and possibly gotten your message out without malice or returning name-calling back at him. It's just a personal preference though.

(FWIW, I think letting it go and forgiving him is all about you and nothing to do with him, it's to free you up to sleep well and let go of a painful past experience. So think about just forgiving and forgetting.)

I'm sorry he treated you like that; of course you didn't deserve it. {{{Hugs}}}

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To top it off, just Googled him and the results confirmed my long-standing theory that douchebags get the farthest in life! On the upside, he works in Britain now, so maybe he won't be there to bless me with his presence.

Hey BlackBerryJuice...

I agree with Jayne... let me know where he is in the UK, I'll have a word on your behave especailly as I am over the weight you were when he said it... Ihave a fair bit of 'rage' that needs an avenue for release...!! =]

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Oh I'd go walk up to him looking as hot as you do now and maybe ask his date/wife what in the world is she doing with this pig ;)

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I feel for ya. Whenever I think back to college or high school I get very mad at myself for being such a complacent doormat. I wasn't very overweight back then and I let people tear me apart. I regret most of my time in high school. Can't really think back to it without cringing. :angry:

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Just an update, as I had my reunion earlier this month - the doucherino was not there. Also, I was the ONLY person who isn't in worse shape than they were back in college. Some people have packed on so much weight, I didn't even recognize them. I feel fortunate to have had the surgery.

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Just an update, as I had my reunion earlier this month - the doucherino was not there. Also, I was the ONLY person who isn't in worse shape than they were back in college. Some people have packed on so much weight, I didn't even recognize them. I feel fortunate to have had the surgery.

Yay! That must have felt good, and then you feel sorry for the others....

Jane x

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To start with i HATE assholes...................all you need to say to him is, i can fix fat, but you cant fix ugly and walk away in your 5 in heels.................

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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