Hello everyone,

First of all, I am super stoked about my surgery! I am truly, madly and deeply head over heels with my new tummy!!! LOL Sounds weird I know - but dangit, my life has been given back to me. I'm no longer a slave to my brain overindulging and my stomach being able to allow it. Not sure if that makes sense to anyone...

Anyway over the weekend my Mom told me she would need a magnifying glass soon just to be able to find me. Haha! I thought that was hilarious. She's so happy for me, and super proud of me in that I had the guts to do something so invasive to take my life back.

Well in that same conversation she told me she's thinking about it now for herself. She never once said that to me when I had my band - even when I was in the losing phase. I'd lost about 60 Lbs in a short 4-5 Months (then it stopped but that's a whole other topic) So, I'm not so sure why this time she feels differently. Maybe she seen me struggling more than I remember myself with my band. I mean if I seen someone choking on their food everytime they ate just to lose a Lb a week I don't think I'd want the band either. But I digress...

Anyway, I immediately told her "Great!!!" and I truly meant it. I told her that I really honestly felt like I'm losing a great deal of weight and I'm not even doing anything for it. I'm not doing my workouts like I normally do even... so I can imagine how much I will once I get back into my routine full time.

However, here's the thing... as the day drew on I started to remember what I went through for the first few days, then the entire month of my surgery. I started to feel true and genuine worry for her. My Mom is going to be 61 years old in March - and she has worse Hypertension than myself and she is borderline Diabetic. My Mom would also likely have a surgeon I've never heard of because she is a Kaiser patient. She would go through her insurance.

I am a little bit scared for her, and I will definitely go through with this WITH her and support her. However I won't lie, I'm scared for her very much. I guess I just needed to vent a little bit... I would feel so guilty if anything went wrong because I was her motivation for doing this surgery.

*sigh* Oh well, now I know how it felt for her, no? :-(

When doing my research, I found that I could qualify with BMI between 35-40 with one co-morbidity. I was a 38 but diabetic. Does her insurance require two? Personally, I don't beleive in "borderline" diabetes-either you are or you aren't. To me borderline means you are diabetic but controling it by diet and exercise. What is her A1C? Personally if she is going through insurance, she needs to have the exact qualifications. There may be more co-morbidity on a list that may help her qualify. One final thought if her doctor is not on board, can she get another opinion from another doctor who might be more supportive? Good luck as you help her with her journey. I am helping my husband to get his insurance qualifications completed so he can join me on my journey.

Honestly I've told her all these things. For some reason she's just taking what her Dr. told her and not doing anything more about it. She's either not fully on board with getting the surgery or was never really totally serious. It's her decision to make, so I don't really bother her with it anymore.

If she tries to fight for it though in the future I will be there for her 100%.