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It's hitting me now that my life has changed . I have been snappy and emotional and hungry ! I'm sipping 2 oz every 15 mins and its a lot. My husband is being an ******* and doesn't understand . This is rough right now and I love my mom and I'm recovering here at her house and I don't need anyone coming in every 20 mins. I need quiet , absolute quiet !

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It's hitting me now that my life has changed . I have been snappy and emotional and hungry ! I'm sipping 2 oz every 15 mins and its a lot. My husband is being an ******* and doesn't understand . This is rough right now and I love my mom and I'm recovering here at her house and I don't need anyone coming in every 20 mins. I need quiet ' date=' absolute quiet ![/quote']

I'm right there with you! Dang this is hard!! I'm thinking what the heck did i do..:(

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I'm right there with you! Dang this is hard!! I'm thinking what the heck did i do..<img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':(' />

It's hard but we have to give it time. We can do this

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It's hard but we have to give it time. We can do this

Thanks ladies !

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We can do this! Im 11 days post op and I'm hungry and struggling with just all liquids! I'm scared to give in ... God help us!

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We can do this! Im 11 days post op and I'm hungry and struggling with just all liquids! I'm scared to give in ... God help us!

When do you start puréed foods? My dr said after a week

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I'm not a lady, but I'll pipe in that I agree it sucks. However, it's only a couple of weeks in the grand scheme of things. I had a really hard time for those days but I had to remind myself that it took me 25 years to get the way. You can do anything for a short period of time. Good luck and be strong.

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I'm not a lady' date=' but I'll pipe in that I agree it sucks. However, it's only a couple of weeks in the grand scheme of things. I had a really hard time for those days but I had to remind myself that it took me 25 years to get the way. You can do anything for a short period of time. Good luck and be strong.[/quote']

Thanks !!! U r so right... Taking it day by day ...

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Hang in there. I was banded last Wednesday. Just remember why we started this whole process. We were optimistic once. It will work. Master the band.

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I'm right there with you! Dang this is hard!! I'm thinking what the heck did i do..:(

I clicked "like" because you have just realized this is real! You are lucky to have the band and are on your journey. Its sounds like you feel like you are pedaling uphill in the wind. I'm sorry you have a @#@# for a hubby, and it sounds like your momma is also sorry, and is overcompensating for him. Try to relax, keep your mind busy, and look forward to meeting your first goal. Also, remember all this crap I'm telling you, so you can repeat it back to me in a few weeks when I'm in your shoes. Soon you are goingvto srart feeling better than ever before, I'd like to say your clothes will fit better, but actually you will have to donate them and buy pretty new stuff. You are going to look and feel so much healthier! I bet you will even look forward to exercising! I live in sugarland and would love to meet up sometime. :) hang in there sweetie. .... good stuff just around the corner. Dont rush on the food though, you need to heal properly. Take care.

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Hey there! Yes, that first week is especially scary in many ways. And I can also sympathize with the hubby issue. But you are very near over the worst of it. I am 20 days post-op and on day 10 I had lasagna and remember saying to myself "I feel human again!" Since that time, I have moved on to more foods and having no problems. You know, if you chew soft foods very well, you will "puree" them in your mouth instead of the blender. ;) I've now had very tender roast beef, chicken, vegetables and pasta--even some crackers. My doctor says I'm doing great and to keep it up. (I'm still not going to try bread or steak or anything like that for awhile.) But my point is, it feels like the liquids will last forever, but before you know it, you're eating real food again--but you just have to remember to chew slow and thoroughly before swallowing and to keep the bites small. I've lost 18 pounds and am feeling great. I had my first fill yesterday and afterwords I had to go back to liquids for that day--and it worried me because I was having trouble even swallowing Water without some feeling of restriction and discomfort. But apparently the fill causes swelling and then it subsides because today, although not up to eating meat, I had mashed potatoes, corn and beets--and ate it no problem. And for the hubby, well. in my circumstance, what I discovered was that my husband was actually grieving--he felt that we would never eat dinner together again and never be able to go out and enjoy ourselves again. He was being self-centered when of course it's "me" physically and mentally going through something very tough--but now I do understand that he also is impacted by my decision and now that he sees I CAN actually eat food and have dinners with him, he's fine. I hope your hubby comes around too--he may be going through a similar grieving process. Anyway, hang in there. You are doing what you need to do to deal with the toughest days--but the light is just around the corner. It's a bright light--fueled by your new happiness. :)

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Hey there! Yes' date=' that first week is especially scary in many ways. And I can also sympathize with the hubby issue. But you are very near over the worst of it. I am 20 days post-op and on day 10 I had lasagna and remember saying to myself "I feel human again!" Since that time, I have moved on to more foods and having no problems. You know, if you chew soft foods very well, you will "puree" them in your mouth instead of the blender. ;) I've now had very tender roast beef, chicken, vegetables and pasta--even some crackers. My doctor says I'm doing great and to keep it up. (I'm still not going to try bread or steak or anything like that for awhile.) But my point is, it feels like the liquids will last forever, but before you know it, you're eating real food again--but you just have to remember to chew slow and thoroughly before swallowing and to keep the bites small. I've lost 18 pounds and am feeling great. I had my first fill yesterday and afterwords I had to go back to liquids for that day--and it worried me because I was having trouble even swallowing Water without some feeling of restriction and discomfort. But apparently the fill causes swelling and then it subsides because today, although not up to eating meat, I had mashed potatoes, corn and beets--and ate it no problem. And for the hubby, well. in my circumstance, what I discovered was that my husband was actually grieving--he felt that we would never eat dinner together again and never be able to go out and enjoy ourselves again. He was being self-centered when of course it's "me" physically and mentally going through something very tough--but now I do understand that he also is impacted by my decision and now that he sees I CAN actually eat food and have dinners with him, he's fine. I hope your hubby comes around too--he may be going through a similar grieving process. Anyway, hang in there. You are doing what you need to do to deal with the toughest days--but the light is just around the corner. It's a bright light--fueled by your new happiness. :)[/quote']

Thank u for your encouraging words! I think he is also grieving ... It's an adjustment for everyone. I'm going to fight like a champ !

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I clicked "like" because you have just realized this is real! You are lucky to have the band and are on your journey. Its sounds like you feel like you are pedaling uphill in the wind. I'm sorry you have a @#@# for a hubby' date=' and it sounds like your momma is also sorry, and is overcompensating for him. Try to relax, keep your mind busy, and look forward to meeting your first goal. Also, remember all this crap I'm telling you, so you can repeat it back to me in a few weeks when I'm in your shoes. Soon you are goingvto srart feeling better than ever before, I'd like to say your clothes will fit better, but actually you will have to donate them and buy pretty new stuff. You are going to look and feel so much healthier! I bet you will even look forward to exercising! I live in sugarland and would love to meet up sometime. :) hang in there sweetie. .... good stuff just around the corner. Dont rush on the food though, you need to heal properly. Take care.[/quote']

Thanks so much !!!! I just needed to vent. Yes I am in sugarland . Me and some of the other Houston ladies are planning to get together in aug to meet for an outing . We want to be able to support n encourage each other n exercise . Going to be fun. So stay in touch. And yes I will remember these words for u when u have urs !

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Yes you are!!! You are fighting like a champ RIGHT NOW! And guess what? you are WINNING! :)

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