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I found quite a difference in how people treated me although I am not sure if some of that was coming from me too. When I was heavy I didn't want to be noticed. Dressed very plain, was very quiet when dealing with people in stores. So looking back it is not surprise that I was ignored much of the time. Being thin, I am much more open, friendly and talkative with strangers in stores and in general meet people much more easily.

In my personal life, co-workers treated me much the same except for many many comments and questions. Some very personal asking if I was sick, and how much I weighed (personal to me anyhow as I would not ask people those things). I decided to take a year off of work and there are tons of rumours now about me being off to have plastic surgery etc. LOL. I would but that was not why I took time off. People will always gossip and talk regardless.

One of the best things I have done in the past couple of months is move to a small island with my family and I love the feeling of meeting new people who I have no history with. They don't talk to me about my weight at all. I am simply me. The me that was always there fat and thin.

In general, I find that the biggest difference is that people are much friendlier to me as a thin person but again, some of that might be attributable to how I treat others too and how I carry myself.

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...and this all seriously pisses me off. I'm the same person' date=' with the same personality, and the same worth as I was when I was 200 pounds heavier. The only difference is now my packaging is a bit different.

Fat discrimination is alive and well, trust me.[/quote']

Amen, sister!

The look I hate the most is when you're waiting to board a plane and everyone's looking at you thinking "dear Lord please don't let him sit by me".

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I actually once boarded a plane and as I made my way down the aisle I could see a guy craning his neck to see who was coming along. When I sat down next to him, the guy actually looked over all flirtatiously and said 'oh I'm so glad it was you, I was worried it would be someone fat'. I just looked him in the eye and said, 'well aren't you a charmer? I was fat all my life, and I got get thin, but YOU won't ever be able to change that ugly mug of yours.'.

Suffice to say it was a VERY awkward plane ride for that a-hole.

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Do you find people, in general, treat you differently as a lean person vs. when you were heavy?

i was more insecure the bigger i was...i let everything and everyone get to me...affect my emotions..affect my day....now that i have lost weight, self confidence has come back...little by little...i carry myself different..i feel different..i am different..before i was the jolly super morbid obese lady, today i am just virginia...what you see is who i am and boy it is sure nice to see/be her again.....hub seems to like seeing me again too...losing weight has me made me treat myself better.....because i deserve it...

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I actually once boarded a plane and as I made my way down the aisle I could see a guy craning his neck to see who was coming along. When I sat down next to him' date=' the guy actually looked over all flirtatiously and said 'oh I'm so glad it was you, I was worried it would be someone fat'. I just looked him in the eye and said, 'well aren't you a charmer? I was fat all my life, and I got get thin, but YOU won't ever be able to change that ugly mug of yours.'.

Suffice to say it was a VERY awkward plane ride for that a-hole.[/quote']

Literally fell of my chair laughing!

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I actually once boarded a plane and as I made my way down the aisle I could see a guy craning his neck to see who was coming along. When I sat down next to him' date=' the guy actually looked over all flirtatiously and said 'oh I'm so glad it was you, I was worried it would be someone fat'. I just looked him in the eye and said, 'well aren't you a charmer? I was fat all my life, and I got get thin, but YOU won't ever be able to change that ugly mug of yours.'.

Suffice to say it was a VERY awkward plane ride for that a-hole.[/quote']

That's awesome!

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Actually no. I am just receiving so many compliments and stares which are more than I'm used to. But no, I'm still treated the same.

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