I'm scared!!!!

[Kai-shek 230]

At first I really wanted this. I still do but now with only 14 days to go I am eating and drinking like there is no tomorrow. The people on this forum give good advice but I am a BAD person, is there any more bad ppl out there? Yes I am drunk again!!!!!

[Sojourner 2,446]

Drinking does not make you a so called "bad person"...but it does bring into question if you are ready to make the commitments necessary for successful weight loss with a band.

No doubt some of your behaviors are precipitated by stress related to the scheduled surgery...now is a great time to begin to identify alternative coping skills to manage stress in your life. The empty calories of alcohol will only sabotage your efforts to loose weight if used excessively.

Don't call yourself names...you deserve better than that...the power of positive thinking does wonders.

Best wishes for a successful journey...

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

At first I really wanted this. I still do but now with only 14 days to go I am eating and drinking like there is no tomorrow. The people on this forum give good advice but I am a BAD person, is there any more bad ppl out there? Yes I am drunk again!!!!!

bad people are people like michael vick who hurt animals

bad people hurt children and bad people are bullies.

is this you? i dont think so

drinking and eating wont solve sh**...your a grown woman so you can do it if you want too.....goodness knows i went out with a bang (coors light my choice).

so if you really want to have this surgery, then do what you have to do in order to have it. if not, dont waste my time on here citing nonsense about being a (bad person) and expecting sympathy from me....i weighed 336 at my surgery and had trouble wiping my ass......

and you can bet your ass i was scared too and i am scared now about (failing again).

[parisshel 1,892]

I'm also being banded two weeks from now and having lots of food funerals. (I'm not a drinker, however. At least there's that!) It's not making me any happier, believe me, and my weight is up 6 pounds from the day of my initial consultation. Lordy I'm fat enough already and didn't need to get any fatter.

I am SO looking forward to getting banded and ending this behavior. It's stupid behavior, too, because it's not like I'm never going to eat again. But the drive to say goodbye to these foods is very strong.

BTW, I have no pre-op protocol in terms of diet.

Anyway, I totally get what you are going through.

[Kai-shek 230]

I get you Carolina, but your being harsh, all you lot who have had it done and succeeded are a big inspiration some day I might make but I am just asking if there are mere morels out there who are may be not quite as strong as you.

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

I get you Carolina, but your being harsh, all you lot who have had it done and succeeded are a big inspiration some day I might make but I am just asking if there are mere morels out there who are may be not quite as strong as you.

no mam, i am not being harsh. i am telling you exactly what i tell myself and any other person i (care about). and expect it no less in return...you come on here claiming to be drunk again and spouting you are bad..to me that is harsh.

me strong?? you must not read my blogs. i am a whiny bit** who spends her life concerned about failing....forgive me if i offended..not my intent. but be scared. be scared enough to make yourself well....you can do it if you want to.

[dylanmiles23 2,198]

Maybe you need to have some counseling before you get the band. There is no drinking after the band. I don't drink so I am not missing that in my life. I love food. I know the band is the best thing that has happened to me and I just love knowing I have help finally with my life.

Good luck with what you chose to do.

[Kai-shek 230]

Thanks, but I don't think you get me. I don't drink ( or smoke) either as a rule, I scared and I just wanted some reassurance wrong time, wrong place. I don't need counseling I just need some friends ( who are not perfect" banders

" to understand and reassure me .

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

Thanks, but I don't think you get me. I don't drink ( or smoke) either as a rule, I scared and I just wanted some reassurance wrong time, wrong place. I don't need counseling I just need some friends ( who are not perfect" banders

" to understand and reassure me .

i wish i was perfect....i wish i was a perfect bander.

trying to get you to realize you have control if you want it.

you will get friends but not by claiming you are a bad person and want to talk to other bad people etc...

i responded based on your first posting.

all the best in your upcoming journey.

[Kai-shek 230]

I am sorry Caroline, please don't give up on me. The only person at fault here is me. I don't normally drink or smoke, I am just in a bad pace ( in my head tonight). Why oh why am I here facing surgery, drinking eating and scared ****.

[dylanmiles23 2,198]

Ok, now I get it. I can understand being scared of the unknown. I almost changed my mind during pre-op because the doctor was about 4-5 hours behind because of the person before me. She had the sleeve-not the band. I was scared but I knew I was going to become a healthier person and I AM. I can walk more and have more fun with my grandsons. I know I can take them to a zoo and not worry about sitting every 5 minutes. All good. New clothes are fun. I only bought a few pieces but about 10 long sleeved 't' shirts. When Kohl's has their sales, watch out. They were under $8. each.

As for CG-she is wonderful and has helped a lot with he thoughts of the day etc. She tells the truth and others do too.

So make today your last day of over doing everything and wake up tomorrow with I Am the new me day.

We are all here to try to help and answer all your questions.

[Kai-shek 230]

Thank Dylan, I know C tells it like it is, I know she is trying to help me a( I beg her forgiveness) I am so very sorry I am drunk tonight I can' t express properly but thanks a million for your kind words. It just like I am at the point of take an overdose or have the band and rebuild but I am sooh scared of failing again please forgive me.

[CHEZNOEL 4,061]

Suck it up or cancel the surgery. As CG says you can do it if you want it! Negative thoughts will not help! I wish you well, but we were all scared and most of us still are. shake it off and life will improve!

[Kai-shek 230]

Thanks for the support, I guess that is what you do after surgery "suck it up"

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

Thank Dylan, I know C tells it like it is, I know she is trying to help me a( I beg her forgiveness) I am so very sorry I am drunk tonight I can' t express properly but thanks a million for your kind words. It just like I am at the point of take an overdose or have the band and rebuild but I am sooh scared of failing again please forgive me.

I hope you read this once you're sober... but I believe you need some serious counseling before getting the Lap Band. You're posting on a forum drunk (again, by your own admission) and talking about "take an overdose"? This is seriously dangerous behavior. There is already a risk of transfer addiction for people with any WLS, the fact you're already drunk and discussing overdosing is a major red warning flag.

I'm sorry, I'm truly not trying to be harsh, but I honestly believe going forward with your band surgery right now would be a huge mistake. Seek a good counselor first.