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I was sitting at work today and one of the ladies came up to me and asked me if my band would rupture if i ate too much.....i told her what the signs were of eating too much and she then told me that when i go back to the doctor i needed to talk to him about how much i ate and it really made me mad. I am not able to eat Breakfast so i have a protien shake or some light yougart because my band is tight in the mornings then the only thing i eat for lunch is maybe a 3oz grilled chicken breast or tuna fish and some steamed carrots or other veggies and she thought that was too much and concerned about me. I thought i was doing well and my doctor told me i should be able to eat about 4 oz of lean protien and a veggie. I lost 10 pounds in the last two weeks and am pretty pleased since they want you to loose 1-2 pounds weekly. The only thing i dont like is people are so judgemental and think just because i have a band i am not allowed to eat but one or two bites. anyone else have problems with people being so judgemental of them and what they eat?

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I would point blank put that woman in her place. Seriously, you don't need that crap from her or anybody else.

If she says anything again, I'd say "What I eat is none of your concern and until you're a bariatric surgeon that knows more than my surgeon, mind your own business".

People are so ignorant. Don't let them get you down!

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Nope. 2 reasons, 1. My friends have manners. 2. Those people who know me, but can't be counted as friends have manners as well.

For anyone else, that is a mistake that they would only make once. A simple "Thank you for your concern, but I feel I have a good hand on what I am supposed to eat" would be sufficient.

Although I like Missy's answer as well.

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Ditto to both the above posters.

However, being the tackless hot headed person I am I probably would have lashed out "Ohhh - didn't anyone tell you about what I'm supposed to eat?" and when she said no...."then it must be NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS"

Honestly - some people are missing a filter. I am actually related to a lot of them and that would be exactly the reason that, 3 years out, my family still has no idea I had surgery, LOL.

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That happens to all new banders when someone knows they have had the surgery. People tend to watch every morsel you put in your mouth but eventually that goes away after YOUR surgery and band isn't new to them anymore. People need to think about what they are going to say before putting their mouth in gear especially when they do not have a clue about any of the weight loss surgeries and what they entail.

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I think sometimes people think they are being helpful or showing concern.. even my husband who is so supportive makes dumb remarks sometimes but I'm newly banded and he has always been a feeder so not only do I have to adjust to a different lifestyle so does he.. co-workers or nosy people can be cut off just by saying that you have a Dr. and a nutritionist and that is what you paid them for...the older I get the more I try to be tolerant of ignorant or rude people..

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