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People ask me all the time how I had the fortitude to spend 2 years of my life on such a strict eating regimen... Because even though I have a band around my stomach helping me out I still had to count calories and make good choices to achieve the goals I set forth.

I have come to the realization that it's just time spent. There is no magic solution it's just doing everything right day after day after day. And if there was a blip in one of those minutes or hours then it was having the ability to move on and go back to what I knew was right.

I found that food is fleeting... Kind of like putting gas or a meal on a credit card.... When the bill comes in you have no idea where it went, how it tasted or if you even liked it......you have nothing to show for it. I found if I had something I thought I wanted but knew I shouldn't it was just instant gratification and not anything I could hold on too. It just seemed pointless after a while.

I have a hard time recalling the trying times. I know I didn't wake up from a dream 2 years later and was thin...but it's tough to recall all those 10 lbs losses and achievements because I am finally in a place that seems the most natural place in the world. I am comfortable with my body.

When you feel like it will never happen for you...just remember its just time spent.

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Love your inspiring stories and encouraging words! Thanks it really does help!!

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I'm trying to take a different look at food. Instead of viewing eating as a pleasure and something I planned and looked forward to, I am treating it as fuel for my body. I really enjoy cooking and watching cooking shows but for now, I need to put that to the side and devote that time to other activities.

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This is such a good post. A great read first thing in the morning

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Thanks! It seems that reprogramming is really important. Looking at the mountain seems daunting but looking at one step at a time is un eventful.

Thanks again for sharing!

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Yes I agree Floridadays. It is just time. It's no different then spending 20 years at a job, or 18 years raising kids, or being married for 50 years. It's just time and we all have plenty of it. The thing that keeps me going is that if I had not done it I wouldn't have that precious time that I have now. I know I did right by taking 3 years out of my life to get healthy. It was a good investment for sure.

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food for me was comfort. After grieving the loss of my mother 2 years ago I succumbed to food. That was my only outlet. And now that health has been challenging a d I am working through my grief it's time to put food in its place so I can be healthy and be productive. I look forward to me pressing my way through this journey. And thank God for victory!!!!

Happy Healthy New Year!!

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So true! Words of wisdom! It's hard to think two years back from the beginning of this journey. It hasn't been negative, a few bumps in the road but overall pleasant experience and in the end a huge sense of accomplishment. As I get closer to goal (within pounds), I realize that activity level and exercise is now the key to get me there. I don't know if I could have done this without band...in fact I couldn't. But looking back I question why I didn't do this without the band.

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I'm still in the process of loosing the weight. I have begun to understand what floridays is saying. What a freedom, not letting food run my life. It's still hard, but so many other things to think about. Not out of breath, knees don't hurt. Best part shopping in any store I want. That's living in the moment.

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