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☠carolinagirl☠    18,722

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when you lose 50 or 60 or 70 or 80 or 90 or 100?

will you thank yourself or say to yourself (geesh, i cant even tell).....i was looking at some before pictures of me and then some i took on halloween

and fell into that geesh, i cant even tell mind frame.....

sure i have lost pounds and inches and

sizes in clothes but i still me as i was when i started..people can say i can tell but i truly cant

(not on the inside)

i find i am still thinking as a fat person

i am def more positive and i am making this band work but i look in the mirror and go ICK, you fat cow, how could you have done that to yourself.

i just passed my 80 pound mark and thinking when i hit 90 or 100 or more, will i still be thinking as a fat person?

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FLORIDAYS    3,040

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i just passed my 80 pound mark and thinking when i hit 90 or 100 or more, will i still be thinking as a fat person?

I am still thinking fat person. I just dont know when my head will catch up. I mean I know I am thinner than I was....ever.... LOL And I am starting to realize that my jeans are way smaller than my normal sized husband... but I still feel like the biggest person in the room. My hubby thinks I feel that way becasue I am tall... I dont know... its weird.

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kyrasgrandma    228

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I am not far enough along to let you know how I would feel but right now when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror or a store window I see a very fat person even though I have lost 34 lbs. I also cannot get it through my head that I am 4 sizes smaller than I was at Christmas.

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I think you should check into therepy its never a waste of time or money. We don't get fat because we are mentally health and our life is perfect we all have issues it time to face them or you will do all this work and get right back to where you where I have seen it happen over and over. Depression is so common specialy now days and that is a big cause of eating issue check it out with your doctor it helped me..................................line dancer

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☠carolinagirl☠    18,722

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I am still thinking fat person. I just dont know when my head will catch up. I mean I know I am thinner than I was....ever.... LOL And I am starting to realize that my jeans are way smaller than my normal sized husband... but I still feel like the biggest person in the room. My hubby thinks I feel that way becasue I am tall... I dont know... its weird.

now if i was (taller) maybe i wouldnt look as (wide) LOL

what is it like to be tall....i have NO idea.....

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kyrasgrandma    228

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Hey fellow Banded B I honestly dont think you need therapy. You are one the most sensible, optimistic people on this board.

Your head just needs time to catch up to your body. From the research I have done it is quite normal to feel like this.

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kyrasgrandma    228

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now if i was (taller) maybe i wouldnt look as (wide) LOL

what is it like to be tall....i have NO idea.....

I have always said I am vertically challenged and am too short for my weight...lol

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cheryl2586    3,053

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Well I am three years out 178lbs and I still feel fat. If my stomach would vanish mysteriously I would be happier. I think we will always feel we are fat. I dont agree you need therapy because really if we let go of the band the result would be weight gain again. I feel I am in control but I think I will always feel fat.

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I think you should check into therepy its never a waste of time or money. We don't get fat because we are mentally health and our life is perfect we all have issues it time to face them or you will do all this work and get right back to where you where I have seen it happen over and over. Depression is so common specialy now days and that is a big cause of eating issue check it out with your doctor it helped me..................................line dancer

Line dancer I think you missed the pount that CG is saying. It takes time for the head to catch up to the body. When we look in the mirror we see ourselves as the fat person, even after loosing 80 pounds. In time this image will adjust.

CG is very committed to her journey and very aware of her emotions. If anything she could counsel others on the emotional challenges of this journey.

CG is someone I look to for guidance and support. Thanks CG!

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I think you should check into therepy its never a waste of time or money. We don't get fat because we are mentally health and our life is perfect we all have issues it time to face them or you will do all this work and get right back to where you where I have seen it happen over and over. Depression is so common specialy now days and that is a big cause of eating issue check it out with your doctor it helped me..................................line dancer

Line dancer I think you missed the pount that CG is saying. It takes time for the head to catch up to the body. When we look in the mirror we see ourselves as the fat person, even after loosing 80 pounds. In time this image will adjust.

CG is very committed to her journey and very aware of her emotions. If anything she could counsel others on the emotional challenges of this journey.

CG is someone I look to for guidance and support. Thanks CG!

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FLORIDAYS    3,040

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now if i was (taller) maybe i wouldnt look as (wide) LOL

what is it like to be tall....i have NO idea.....

And I would like to be petite and tiny.... with small feet and hands with curly hair and shorter than many men. So much for that. LOL

But on the upside... I can reach all the shelves in my home. :)

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☠carolinagirl☠    18,722

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And I would like to be petite and tiny.... with small feet and hands with curly hair and shorter than many men. So much for that. LOL

But on the upside... I can reach all the shelves in my home. :)

what is your phn so i can call when i need something fl.....i can barely reach stuff on top of my fridge-----hub always sings the short people song to me.....

haters are so rotten..... :)

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CHEZNOEL    4,061

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The last person to need therapy is CG! She is a ROCK! She has helped me out a number of times and makes me laugh! Laughter is good for everyone! Just for the record, I am over a year out and it was only last week that I glimpsed myself in a mirror and thought "wow, I am getting thinner!" It takes to brain a while to catch up because we see ourselves every day. I think looking at old pictures, while a bit depressing, can help that thinking! CG don't despair. WE LOVE YOU!

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