Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!
$99 Yearly Supply Alert! 🌈 "1 per Day!" Bariatric Multivitamins

Emotions

Reina00

Recommended Posts

Reina00    13

Reina00
Posted

Thier a freaking joke!! My number one person that is suppose to be my support system is always accusin me and I'm bearly 3rd week post op if this is what it's going to be like for the rest of my life Awwwww help no so far I'm doing great I haven't cheated

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

2012    359

2012
Posted

What do you mean? Are you sad or angry all of the time? What is going on?

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

vlp1968    83

vlp1968
Posted

What is your support accussing you of? Of course he/she shouldn't be accussing at all. That is not supportive. My father is like that. Makes comments about my weight and what I eat. I have tried to tell him politely and respectively that it is not helpfull. He just doesn't seem to be able to help himself. Anyway- sounds like you are sticking to the post op diet- good for you! Keep posting here, you will find tons of support and advice.

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Reina00    13

Reina00
Posted

I was In The kitchen getting sum pineapple juice cuz my Dr told me it was the best to help my tummy go well my mother is yelling from her bed room get out of the cookie jar and it set me off!! I feel like she's just on my back for everything I understand she gave me sum of the money but its enough of her stressing me out like that!!

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Kinley7390    80

Kinley7390
Posted

Did you try to have a heart to heart with your mother and explain that you were only getting pineapple juice and that it is something your doctor recommended? It's hard to advise not knowing what type of relationship the two of you have, but that would probably be a good first step before the animosity and misunderstandings worsen. Good luck!

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Reina00    13

Reina00
Posted

Oh our relationship is super close she awsome but I'm her support system for everything she goes thru maybe its just me!! But I guess I've just been all about me and my recovery these past couple weeks and everyone just depends on me I'm the type of person that will give her last min of the day to help and these days I've been selfish!! Thanks for listenin to me I needed to vent!!

Kinley7390 reacted to this

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Banjo257    920

Banjo257
Posted

Mothers and daughters. Argh!!! Parents that loan $$$ sonetimes attach guilt strings. I am 48, married 22 yrs with 2 teenagers, and I still get tried like I'm 9 by my mother. Try this..... Don't put energy into trying to get her to change. When stressed or pushed to wanting to scream, exercise!! Do anything walk! Dance in your room with the music cranked! When was your surgery? Have you lost? Are you feeling well?

Maddysgram reacted to this

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Kinley7390    80

Kinley7390
Posted

Oh our relationship is super close she awsome but I'm her support system for everything she goes thru maybe its just me!! But I guess I've just been all about me and my recovery these past couple weeks and everyone just depends on me I'm the type of person that will give her last min of the day to help and these days I've been selfish!! Thanks for listenin to me I needed to vent!!

Venting is good and necessary sometimes! Sometimes the closer you are to people, the easier it is for them to hurt you just because they are comfortable enough with you and trust you enough to feel that they can say anything - this includes being critical at times if the mood hits them because they know you'll love them anyway... I think it's great you had the surgery and made yourself a priority for once. Sounds like you do a lot for your Mom in the way of emotional support. It's okay to take your turn! Hope things work out.

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Kinley7390    80

Kinley7390
Posted

Mothers and daughters. Argh!!! Parents that loan $$$ sonetimes attach guilt strings. I am 48, married 22 yrs with 2 teenagers, and I still get tried like I'm 9 by my mother. Try this..... Don't put energy into trying to get her to change. When stressed or pushed to wanting to scream, exercise!! Do anything walk! Dance in your room with the music cranked! When was your surgery? Have you lost? Are you feeling well?

When someone drives you crazy - walk, dance exercise! Great advice! Love it!

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Reina00    13

Reina00
Posted

I had surgery Oct 19 since preop 480 i am now 419 in less the three mts thank yall so much for the advise I'm 30 almost 31

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

vlp1968    83

vlp1968
Posted

You are not being selfish by taking care of yourself. Think of how much more you'll have to give family and friends as you loose more weight- congrats on what you've lost so far!. You will continue to have more energy, be more confident et...

Share this post

Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
Go To Topic Listing POST-Operation Weight Loss Surgery Q&A

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • KimBaxleyWilson

      KimBaxleyWilson

      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • bellaamey

      bellaamey

      https://alluniqueguide.com/java-burn-coffee-reviews/
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    Bariatric Forums

    For Patients

    Health Professionals

    Search Surgeons

    Bariatric Surgeons: Want to research a weight loss surgery surgeon? Enter their last name below to start!

    ×