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If you have your girlie parts you could say you had some cyst on your ovaries and had exploratory surgery. Lol. This is gonna be interesting for me. I too work in an office environment so I too hope to be back at work quickly.

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The only person I told was my husband and it will remain that way.

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You guys crack me up! I'm an office manager for a family practice and want to take the bear minimum off work. I have been trying to think of something that 1- would require that amount of time off and 2- would never not be able to have done again. ( like gallbladder- still have mine and if I say I'm having it removed and then something happens and I really do have to have it removed) I'm hoping to get mine the Wednesday before Memorial Day so I will have an extra day off in there. Still doing my 6 months required by insurance:(

Does your doctors do surgeries in Wednesday's?? If so take off Wed Thurs Fri (you'll have Sat & Sun) Mon is Memorial Day & do 1/2 a day that Tues. On that Tues you will have to see the Doctor anyways so go in in the afternoon. That's how I did mine (but before Xmas). Just said me & the Hubby had plans. It's really nobody's business what you do with your time off & by law you do not have to disclose that info either. People, especially WOMEN are very nosey. I'm 2yrs out & they still don't know. Good luck & much success. #banded12/22/10 lost 100lbs

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I think we all go thru this feeling. I didn't want to tell people either. I started telling only my closest friends (of course my husband and daughter). My daughter (19 yrs old) is just starting to accept it. I wish you the best of luck with your decision and journey. I'm getting banded Feb 4th; met my surgeon today. This whole process is exciting, scary, nervous. I'm in Ontario, Canada and I have to pay for the FULL thing out of pocket. My husband and I are taking a loan to pay for it. Best of Luck!

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I have told everyone I know. I made this decision for me. Don't care what others think. I know this is my chance to save me. people will always have an opinion but it is mine that counts for me.

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I told my husband, my mother, my two sisters, my supervisor, and two co-workers (one of which just got a gastric sleeve) before I had the surgery. All were very supportive, with the exception of one of the co-workers, who used to be my dining out buddy. I did not tell anyone else yet. My co-workers are extremely nosy and I'm sure they will be speculating when I return to work 25 lbs smaller (15 lost so far). I don't care. I just didn't want to hear their negativity before the surgery. Also, quite honestly, I too was afraid of failure. Now that the scale is finally moving in the right direction after all of these years, nothing they say will phase me. :-)

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Ive done so much research and am finally deciding to do this. I told my husband and family. My husband is supportive and my parents seem supportive. one of my sisters is telling me everyday how I shouldn't do it. I'm paying out of pocket so I'm pretty serious about it and it really hurts to not have much family support. I'm so scared for surgery but after that I know will be the hard part. Really wish I had my family there to support me. Any advice would be appreciated... :(

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I didnt tell anyone at outside my family now I think everyone at my work knows but I dont care its my body my money and Ive got to do what is right for me people are going to be people and always tell you what they think.Do what is right and healthy for your body and your family

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My husband and one friend are all that I told and I kinda wish I hadn't told the one friend because she acts funny now. I don't want to get judged either and even just hearing other people, and friends talk about people who have had lap band and how they took the easy way out makes me crazy.. they don't have a clue. they think this is some miracle fix that takes no work and it makes me so mad! Many who criticize wouldn't even make it through the pre op diet! let alone everything else.. sigh..

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I am the same way. A very few people know. Just want to work this out alone with my kids,. 2 sisters and my Honey of 25 years

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With the exception of my boyfriend, my parents and my son, I am also not telling anyone. I am lucky enough to work from home 99.9% of the time and based on the amount of times I actually go in the office don't think its anything I need to share. I am only taking 3 days off for the procedure and why I did tell my boss I was going to have surgery , I didn't share why. Oddly enough my mother thinks everyone I will work with will figure it out anyway because I work for the health insurance company lol...Thankfully, employee access is super restricted so I know thats impossible!

Good Luck!

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