Where ya at? It's hard finding nice guys who like big girls. But its even harder when you throw the band in it, I've run into many a few where they dont enjoy going out to eat bc I dot eat much or I take a while to eat.... Anybody else?

Where in NJ are you from?

Bergen county

I Live in Burlington County right by Philly. There are tons of really good guys down here. Lol.

I lived in Bucks County right across from Burlington when I filed for divorce. I stayed with a few different friends while trying to figure it out. I was in Bucks, down in Newark DE, up in Montclair NJ, and then Upstate NY near Saratoga. All those locations while being banded and never had any problems. Not to be nosy but where are you meeting them? Would you say that you might be choosing a certain type of guy? I would say look at the choices your making and see what the common trait is of these guys. Sometimes we might be quick to think it is due to a certain reason, but it was just not so great a choice for us to begin with. I am out in California now, and not having to deal with it because I am now with a super awesome guy who is fully supportive in my process.

A off the wall question that I have and have asked this of MANY friends of mine who were having dating issues. "Do you choose your dates or do you let them choose you?'

Alot of times when we are meatier we have a tendency to not go for what we want. Regardless of your weight, being confident is a turn on for the opposite sex! Take what you have and work it now and work it with the band. Don't be afraid to flirt and check out those that are younger. Play the cougar if you feel like it and empower yourself. Seize the day and seize that man! Hope that helps!