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The rest is up to u !! Good luck !! :-)

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Is it your partner or kids bringing in the food and offering it up to you? Sounds to me like there might be additional family members going to jump on the Bariatric bandwagon and be headed for surgery if they do not get their food choices in order.

When I had the surgery I had to deal with a spouse that brought in the HUGE candy bars, the ones that broke down and are good for making smores for quite a few people. He would make stops at the store, when we had just gone to the store to pick up Ice Cream, and other tasty cakes and hostess cakes, chips and dip. He would b***h about my weight and how I needed to lose to become a size 2 that he always wanted, but he married me when I was a 16/18 go figure. After dealing with all this for awhile, losing my Mom to Cancer I bailed 8 months after LB surgery and filed for divorce. I thought enough of myself to move on and live life the way I wanted to. I left in April of 09.. then made my way back to California.

I am in a fantastic relationship with a really awesome guy that loves me thick or thin! I just got a refill and doing my thing with excellent support from him on my band eating lifestyle. He loves to cook and looks for good band recipes, he splits meals with me, we limit the bad stuff in the house. I am not perfect and if I choose to have something I am not berated for it, I just jump back on the wagon.

I have found that getting the band brings out alot of things good and bad in family/ so called friends and sometimes you even find a supporter in an unlikely place.

Rise above it, go hang out in your bedroom and read. Make it your NO Food zone, and they need to keep out. Remember 20-30 minutes for a meal... no more of the 5 hours to finish a sandwich!

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OH.. i forgot... the BIG thing is:::::

Forgive yourself!!

Tomorrow is another day, or heck you can start with the next bite of food you put in your mouth!

Another helpful hint if everyone is so intent on eating alot of chocolate etc.. if you want to really teach those candy eaters a lesson.. get some chocolate covered insects (for human consumption) and put them in a bowl.

They are lovely to look at, colorfully wrapped! We had a girl in school who used to beg for food, take stuff from us without asking just be a real bitchy pill with her attitude.

We got a few of those and laid them out, and right on target she snagged some without asking and promptly started to devour them in one swoop! She ended up in the sink rinsing her mouth out asking what the heck was the candy. We said they are chocolate covered ants... she was upset and asked why didn't you tell me we said well 'You didn't ask"

Case solved we never saw her eat any other candy near us.

I really am not a mean person!!! Evidently some people really like them!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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