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Ok I'm going crazy. I was banded on May 15th and haven't had sex since May 12th and my husband says that I need to get an okay from the doctor, but that was one of the questions I didn't ask and am to embarrass to asked. Help???***

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My doc said that I could become intimate as soon as I wanted to....just have hubby be careful with your tummy. It will give you an opportunity to become creative on positions that do not put weight on your tummy.

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LOL your husband sounds just like mine and he was afraid as heck. I was band on April 2nd and for us waited a month because i was afraid, but like Aspiring stated think of creative ways and have fun!

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LMBO- wondered why you called me "aspiring"...then saw under my name "aspiring evangelist"....I never noticed that before. I guess it has to do with the amount of posts you make...which translates into...I am a stalker that has no life!

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I also waited a month. And actually forgot I had the band. hahahaha

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LMBO- wondered why you called me "aspiring"...then saw under my name "aspiring evangelist"....I never noticed that before. I guess it has to do with the amount of posts you make...which translates into...I am a stalker that has no life!

I like your sense of humor! :)

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Ok I'm going crazy. I was banded on May 15th and haven't had sex since May 12th and my husband says that I need to get an okay from the doctor, but that was one of the questions I didn't ask and am to embarrass to asked. Help???***

Well, everyone seems to have been more conservative than I was. I wanted to wait until all of my incisions were closed and well in their way to healing. As I recall that was only around a couple of weeks.

My belief, based on my own experience is that no official medical release from the doctor should be needed; what matters is how you are feeling, and the degree to which you are healed.

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If your having sexual frustration until your Dr gives you an okay I would invest in little toy for down under. Also you may want to start with positions with little belly moment for you ( guy on top, standing up) mainly you don't want to stress your an muscles too much

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But you know sex is good for your health. Women who have sex 4x a week have better immunity and live long. Plus think of the calories you burn

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one my dorctor told me okay to other stuff and to "go have fun" i asumed he ment everything i coulld have fun with

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WARNING! THE FOLLOWING IS REAL TALK!!

I had sex the next day and while I never asked the doctors advice on intercourse I did ask about oral sex and his advice to me was "avoid it if its gonna make you gag, but if you absolutetly feel the NEED, go slow and dont swallow... until your on solid food"

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WARNING! THE FOLLOWING IS REAL TALK!!

I had sex the next day and while I never asked the doctors advice on intercourse I did ask about oral sex and his advice to me was "avoid it if its gonna make you gag' date=' but if you absolutetly feel the NEED, go slow and dont swallow... until your on solid food"[/quote']

Lmbo

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LMBO- wondered why you called me "aspiring"...then saw under my name "aspiring evangelist"....I never noticed that before. I guess it has to do with the amount of posts you make...which translates into...I am a stalker that has no life!

@sandymax and dhales

funny...you made me LOL....I'm glad someone asked I wanted too but I just said how soon can I go back to my normal routine(smile...pretty vague) :lol:

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My doctor said"no sex for 4 Weeks". But I like all your doctors better!

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WARNING! THE FOLLOWING IS REAL TALK!!

I had sex the next day and while I never asked the doctors advice on intercourse I did ask about oral sex and his advice to me was "avoid it if its gonna make you gag, but if you absolutetly feel the NEED, go slow and dont swallow... until your on solid food"

You're doctor sounds awesome!

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