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I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm all over the place, one minute feeling good, the next depressed, the next angry... This is making me (and my husband) crazy!!!. I'm 2.5 weeks post-op and wasn't expecting to feel so..., I guess it's overwhelmed.... ?

Has anyone else found this to be surprisingly emotional? I'd love to hear from anyone who went through this and survived... :-(

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I have had a few days like that.

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LBT addict please ellaborate on being overwhelmed as I am in the beginning stages of all of this, what I mean by this is I see my surgeon on the 24th, my Psych Eval is this coming Friday and ins is approved and hoped to be banded in June. I do have mild bouts of depression already and take med for it, low dose, I certainly do not want to feel worse??? What makes you feel overwhelmed?

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I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm all over the place' date=' one minute feeling good, the next depressed, the next angry... This is making me (and my husband) crazy!!!. I'm 2.5 weeks post-op and wasn't expecting to feel so..., I guess it's overwhelmed.... ?

Has anyone else found this to be surprisingly emotional? I'd love to hear from anyone who went through this and survived... :-([/quote']

Could it be the fact that you can no longer deal with the daily stresses of life without food? I am a food addict. I turned to it for support and comfort. Also, during this time you are going through a lot of hormonal changes... You body is trying to readjust to everything! (healing from surgery, lower calories and not to mention the emotional side of eating). I have also discovered that my T.om. Effects my emotions also. Just know that it will get better. Being mindful that you are feeling out of control and telling Yourself "this too shall pass" will be helpful, at least for me. Just go with the emotions, feel them and acknowledge them then think about it rationally. You will stabilize soon. Promise! Your in my thoughts!

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As mentioned, we can no longer eat away our worries and stresses. Now we have to face the feelings head on and it can be hard. Does your program have any psychologists you can talk to? That might be helpful. Also, we are here ^_^ . Try to relax and just focus on your healing at this time!

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I can certainly understand the emotional instability!!! I have been on a carb restricted diet since January and was told you won't want any after the first couple weeks. That was true for the most part, but there are times when I still want it and badly. This past month has been the worst though. I am having the procedure plication tomorrow and have been on only liquid this weekend and my emotions have been all over the place. I have cried more often than I can count, wondered why am I doing this... and I want something to eat so badly. I have never been so hungry in my life - two weeks of liquid Protein Shakes and I am at my wits end! Now, the thought of another two weeks of liquids has me ready to cry again. Does feeling hungry and emotional ever go away??

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Its called post surgical depression. A lot of people get it and it will go away. You are now faced with what we never thought we would have too and that is to live life without food. Food for comfort, food just because, food for every occasion but just remember when you have lost the weight all those feelings will turn in to happiness. To the above poster my hunger never went away. Everyone is different.

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Make sure that you are getting enough B12 during this time also. Low levels of B12 cause depression.

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I'm about 3 weeks out and I feel the same way. My most stressful part of all of this is the pressure to make sure to lose weight. I know I'm still in the healing stage but I feel stressed out when I have to get around some members of my family as well as my husbands because I feel like they are looking to see if I've lost any weight.I feel pressured to lose a certain amount or everyone will think I shouldn't have gotten the surgery. I know it's probably all in my head and they really don't feel that way but it still worries me. And your're right because it definitely is a roller coaster, I don't feel negative everyday. Today I woke up in a great mood about it all!

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LBT addict please ellaborate on being overwhelmed as I am in the beginning stages of all of this, what I mean by this is I see my surgeon on the 24th, my Psych Eval is this coming Friday and ins is approved and hoped to be banded in June. I do have mild bouts of depression already and take med for it, low dose, I certainly do not want to feel worse??? What makes you feel overwhelmed?

I have been on 50 mg of zoloft for many, many years. Be sure you continue to take it your meds after surgery. As long as it's not a time release you can crush it up and take it. If it is a time release talk to your doctor and pharmacist about an alternative. I recommend mixing crushed tablets in a little bit of SF chocolate pudding. Crushed meds taste horrible and the choc pudding has a strong taste that helps cover it up. I learned this from my sister who has to give her son meds this way.

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thanks for the SF choc pudding trick for crushing meds up as I will be opening capsules, and crushing one pill, ew, I was thinking all natural apple sauce because I didn't want to do the caffeine of the choc. at night but I guess I will do what I gotta do. Yes I'm sure I will stay on my low dose of Lexapro. Thanks for all of your advice.

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im 11 days post op and i too have had a few emotional moments. most recently was over the weekend. hubby was trying sooo hard to come up with new ideas for me to eat while on mushies..i would tell him no i dont want that, or no i wont like that..and he would just keep shooting new ideas. totally nothing wrong with what he did, but i was crying and i snapped at him cuz "he just dont get it". of course he dont get it, hes not banded, but he sure was trying to "get it" and for that i am thankful...but i still was a mess.

I have close friends as well as a sister who have had either LB or GB and both went through this as well...so it is very normal

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im 11 days post op and i too have had a few emotional moments. most recently was over the weekend. hubby was trying sooo hard to come up with new ideas for me to eat while on mushies..i would tell him no i dont want that, or no i wont like that..and he would just keep shooting new ideas. totally nothing wrong with what he did, but i was crying and i snapped at him cuz "he just dont get it". of course he dont get it, hes not banded, but he sure was trying to "get it" and for that i am thankful...but i still was a mess.

I have close friends as well as a sister who have had either LB or GB and both went through this as well...so it is very normal

You are very lucky to have such a helpful and supportive husband. My husband will go buy what I tell him too, but thats about it.

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You are very lucky to have such a helpful and supportive husband. My husband will go buy what I tell him too, but thats about it.

id like to think im pretty lucky..but there are times when he eats something i really want in front of me, and i know he isnt doing it to be mean, but i seriously wanna hurt him lol

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