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So I'm struggling. I feel like I have no restriction, I only have 1cc in my band and I feel like I have nothing in there. I can eat anything I want but rice and bread without any problems and very very little restriction. It's just so frustrating. I was doing so well-down 62 pounds since I started the process. I feel like I'm failing and just need some encouragement from people who have been there. I just need to know it's not just me.

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Sounds like you need a fill and congrats and the progress. Wow 62!

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first of all congrats on 62 lbs!! that is a great number. I agree 1cc is not much, a fill will help.

I have only had one fill (5cc) and felt no restriction either. I always felt like I was white knuckling it( dieting). I just had another fill and feel much better.

I have lost my weight rather slowly. I go through times when I feel this is too much work for so little loss (about a lb a week). The truth is if we were not banders, how much would we weigh and how would we feel about ourselves???

I never want to go back to being heavy, I don't want to be out of breath when I walk, I don't want my legs, knees & back to hurt. I don't want to look in the mirror and see a round woman.

Go out for a walk, go try on some new clothes (don't have to buy them!) Don't forget who you used to be, she is gone. Hopefully she will never return!!

Try some new foods, I am enjoying spinach like I have never enjoyed it before. I bought some edamame salad @ Whole Foods this weekend, so healthy, + good Protein. Do you go to a gym? I go to Curves and that really brightens my day.

I am happy you asked for help, you are worth helping!

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1cc is practically nothing. Its not at all unusual to have no restriction. Call your dr and tell them that you're eating everything not nailed down and I bet they can get you in sooner :) You need a fill and you need to be firm about it. After all, they work for YOU not the other way around. You're doing great :) Keep it up

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WOW! 62lbs! I also had my surgery 5 months ago and am fluctuating between 25-30lbs from my starting weight I haven't lost a single pound in about 2 months, but that's my own fault. So you are doing absolutely amazing! I've heard that if you're losing weight very quickly, they won't give you a fill.. it sounds like that must be what they've done for you. You're only a month away from your fill.. stay strong and when you get your fill, hopefully it'll help give you the needed restriction.

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It's amazing you've lost as much as you have with only 1 cc. That means you've really done it all on your own! My first fill was 3 cc. and I didn't feel any restriction at all, second fill was 1.2, and still didn't really feel anything. With my last fill I have 5.5 cc. and finally have restriction! I'm not even quite three months post surgery yet.

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Thank you all for your comments!! You are all so positive and kind!! :)

Well I changed my fill appointment to this Thursday and I'm going to meet with the nutritionist too. Hopefully, that will help.

I go to the gym 3-5 days a week (I have a very bad knee that sort of dictates my gym schedule). I started the couch to 5k program this week- so fingers crossed it will make a difference.

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62 lbs is amazing! I'm totally jealous of that number! :D Another fill will make a big difference, I'm sure. I know some docs seem conservative about fills but I believe it's because they dont' want you coming back for constant unfills. So, good luck on Thursday and be TOTALLY proud of what you've accomplished so far!!

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Hi all! I had my band fill today. Another .6 so I'm at 1.8- according to my surgeon my ban is the smallest they make. So we shall see how it goes once I'm off the liquid diets.

I'm feelin more positive (and a little more full!)

Thanks so much for your support!!

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