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It really sucks to say this out loud put i have to be real wit myself. Im starting to make bad choices. Ive been eating things that i know that i shouldnt. Im not make excuses because even wen im making bad choices, im telling myself you not suppose to b doing this. What is wrong with me im only 3months out and feel like i failing. I jus spoke with my brother about my current situation with my food choices. And he gave me the hard truth and the truth hurts i wanted to cry. Well wen we got off the phone i started crying. I just feel so weak. I need to get myself together and get my mind right. Where do i begin u know? This is harder than i ever thought it would b. by the grace of God i havent gained any weight but havent lost any for like 2 or 3 wks. I got dreams i have goals and its on me to reach them. I gotta do better i jus have to. LORD give me strength to do wat i need to do to achieve my goals. And it dont help that i dont feel any restriction. No more accuses. Put up or shut up. Thanks for letting me vent folks

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Your not failing, your body wants what it wants at times. Don't deny yourself certain things. Take a small serving, drink a full glass of Water before every meal, increase your water intake, stop eating after 20mins. There was a month were I only lost 3lbs. The truth is as long as it didn't go up we are on the right track. It will get better. Take advantage of spring, pop your headphones on and walk you but off. God Bless.

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Hey, take it easy on yourself! It's tremendously hard to change a lifetime of bad eating habits. Of course you're going to slip back into them! I see my guy doing the same thing. He too needs more restriction, and so far tonight after dinner he's been eating constantly - potato sticks, salad with lots of dressing, processed chicken breast, and now a banana with milk. Before this week he'd been just eating an Italian ice as a snack. He knows he has to get back to making better choices and stop bringing home peanuts and cashews, ice cream and chips, but habits of a lifetime are hard to break. You can do it. You've already made the hard choice of going through surgery. No one ever said this process would be easy. Keep those goals in mind, and start telling yourself you deserve to be healthy and happy.

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"Im starting to make bad choices. Ive been eating things that i know that i shouldnt."

I have found that if I do not BUY it I can not EAT it. I only buy what I know I should be eating. I just love snack size baggies. I put just enough in them and know that is all I am to have. If I get sidetracked with a food idea I drink warm Water. Seems to cut the hungry.

I am only 1-30 to Present into this and food is not my issue getting up and moving is. So joining a gym closer to home.

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I am assuming you have a psych doc? I feel this is a such an important part of the process and it sounds like talking to a professional could really help you talk through any issues you are having.

You are not failing! It's a marathon not a sprint. Take on day at a time, one meal at a time. We all have been there and you'll get over the hump too!

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You're not failing, but you are recognising your challenges. That's great! It means that you can come up with strategies (like coming on here for support) to help you deal with and overcome those challenges.

keep up the great work. One day at a time....

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I would imagine that only 3 months post op that u are still not experiencing a good restriction. You are not failing you are just impatient. Sometimes we need a person who cares about us to give us a slap on the wrist and tell us like it is ! Many of us didnt really feel good restriction till 4 or 5 fills i am sure u havent had that many fills yet being only 3 months out. What u are experiencing is bandster hell , u have a band, u dont lose weight for a few weeks and suddenly your world feels like its collapsing .. have hope things will improve the more restriction u get .. I would go back to see your doctor and see if another fill will help you. The band can never make good choices of food for you, but u seem to already know what the problem is from what you say, so stop buying that sort of food, get motivated, and get that appointment made :)

I wonder if you would have gained weight by now if you hadnt had the band :)

Good luck and dont let food/fat win !

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What you are experienceing is Bandster Hell. You don't have any restriction yet, so your band is probably doing very little, if anything at all.

That means everything you are doing is purely on willpower. Same as though you never had the surgery.

If you were so good using will power and dieting, you would not have needed the surgery in the first place.

So, I know it's frustrating, but know that once you band is adjusted properly, it will start taking over your bad eating habits, if YOU let it. Some people refuse to change with the band, hold onto their old ways, and it is they that generally do not do well.

Ask yourself....Whay Did I Choose to Have this Surgery?? To motivate me to be better at Dieting?

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I really wanna thank everyone for their feedback. It really helped my spirits. It means a lot to know that u guys lift me up when im feeling low. Thank u qll so so much

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

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