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Trust me... they noticed... 30 lbs is a lot and i'm sure if your are exercising you have lost inches also. My best friend wasn't saying a lot at first, but when other people started commenting..she got on board. It dosen't matter how close you guys are... a little jealousy will kick in every now and then. She really noticed when I gave her my 18/20 clothes.....

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Can I tell you...for me, Its because of jealousy and the fact I cant face my own disappointments in myself. My best friend, who has been my best friend since we were 9...started weight watchers in january - shes lost about 40 pounds...and i notice...i never say anything...because it reminds me of how much of a failure i am - she has seen me lose and gain and lose and gain...this was her first attempt at changing her lifestyle.How come she can do it and I cant? I am jealous of her. So much so that i cant bare to hang out with her. Because looking at her makes me think about how I want to be in her shoes so badly....I want those things...maybe its me being caddy. I dont know. But thats why i dont say anything....and I hate myself for it - because she deserves to hear it...and I just cant do it because it kills me inside.

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JUSTMERMP- Yay for your NSV!!! I am so happy you!!:lol:

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scale and NSV today!! I weighed in at 180 this morning! I am on my way to my 70's!! 34 pounds lost total!! I had three different women today compliment me, they all know about the band. One said I was looking great, the other two told me I was wasting away, in a good, not demeaning way. :D Maybe I just need that extra boost but I like when people comment about how much better I look now. I am under no illusion that I was that great looking at 214. Maybe I still have some self confidence issues to work on, but it is nice to feel support any way I can get it. :D

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I think a lot of people, especially strangers or co-workers, are uncomfortable commenting on other peoples appearance and so it should be. For all they know, you could be ill. I think everyone has heard a story of an obese person being asked when the baby is due or the bald guy being teased when he undergoing chemotherapy or the mother being quizzed on the parentage of her children. Better safe, than sorry...when you comment on peoples appearance (especially people you don't know very well).

So your lack of comments, could be due to the fact that people are just trying to be polite.

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