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I have been having little panic attacks about what I did to my body. My husband says when I feel better I won't be having these regrets. Did anyone else have these feelings? I feel weird and uncomfortable having a foreign object in my body and am having a hard time getting past this feeling. Help!

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I feel your pain. I went through the same thing and my husband told me the same thing. You know what?? He was right. (and it pains me to say that :) )

Once you get into a routine and get results, and that may be just to feel better not the scale numbers, you may stop having this anxiety. But if it doesn't, you may want to speak to your surgeon or seek out a professional therapist that can assist you with the adjustment you made to your body. (which I did and it helped!)

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I had that feeling after surgery. I thought I was going crazy. I did the surgery and didnt have any support. No one knew. Not my family or my friends. After a while the anxiety went away and now everything is fine. NO one still doesn't know I am banded but life is good and I am happy with my band.

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Think of it as a lovely foreign object that is going to suck your waistline in and make you an awesome new person. :D

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I am days 10 post-op....yes I can agree with you. I had the same feeling right after surgery, it was an adjustment but I'm glad that feeling has passed. I'm losing weight and feeling great! My husband said it was the pain medication talking...lol.

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i remember the first few weeks after surgery, i spent SO much time trying to feel the band around my stomach... even though the thought of feeling it freaked me out! of course, you can't feel the band at all but it did drive me crazy for awhile. i can feel my port but that doesn't stress me out anymore... it relaxes me to touch it and know why its there. if i were still overweight people would probably think i'm pregnant because when i walk around the office i find myself running my fingers over my port. it's only natural what you're going thru... you're second guessing your decision but it will all be worth it when that first person asks "are you losing weight?"

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I have been having little panic attacks about what I did to my body. My husband says when I feel better I won't be having these regrets. Did anyone else have these feelings? I feel weird and uncomfortable having a foreign object in my body and am having a hard time getting past this feeling. Help!

OMG I am having flashbacks!! I remember the day after I came home from the hospital I was wondering not only what I had done to myself but to my family. How could I not sit with them or want to cook? Once I was healed I eat with them everynight. Most of the time what they eat I just modify my meal. Eating out I always ask for 1/2 to go in a take out container before it comes to the table. Then there is no temptation to take one more bite. Next days lunch is done. It will get better. I remember all of the psychology appointments, nutrition appt and workshops and when I came home I was lost. I had no idea how to eat or feel. I believe it is a normal grieving process. We gave up something we all loved. ..Food..It is so much better with time and I was only banded January 10th. Fairly new to the game but already feel this is lifelong. It is not a marathon or a race it is forever.

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