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How Can People Who Share the Same Struggle Be So Judgmental?

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I am a new lapbander and I have read numerous posts where people are sharing their personal feelings and concerns about the lap-band procedure and I've seen the most heartless responses. How can people who share in the same weight struggle be so judgmental and cruel? I myself have received some rude responses for my posts. Don't get me wrong, I know that people will be people, you have the good the bad and the down right ugly who build themselves up by putting others down. But, honestly, I thought this site would be a little more sensitive to those with weight issues. Weight issues stem from eating disorders in many cases, and these disorders aren't going to go away over night. Sometimes people make mistakes and turn to sites like this for a little encouragement. I'm sorry, but I have had my successes and I have also failed at times. And because I know I am prone to fail, I can show a little understanding to someone in their time of need. If you have responded harshly to someone who may have been crying out for help or encouragement...shame on you. If not, thank you for your kind words. You never know how your words can hurt or help someone.

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  • You are so right. There are several kinds of posters who respond to post from struggling posters. They are: 1) The successful, know-it-all. It worked for me because I followed all the rules. And

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    I complete understand! I was thinking the same thing this morning after reading some rude responses. Some people are so quick to display their superior knowledge about weight loss they do not even kn

  • But it's not all one sided. There is no body language here so it's difficult to read a person's intent. I generally give people the benefit of the doubt unless they start name calling. The truth i

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To the person with the port leak... I just went through the whole thing of being worried sick, and what would they do.....

I have a 4cc band (older one) They put 2cc of saline in there, and 1/2cc acrylic. So if there was a leak anywhere,, it would seal it.

I'm fine....... It was that easy.

They did it under fluoroscopy (PAINLESS) and watched for any type of leak or break. Nothing...

So yep I know how you feel, and more. It took me 3 years to get it fixed, had to find a new surgeon (MINE WOULDN"T TOUCH ME) so I regained around 100lbs....

But you to when you get yours fixed, you will be off and running again.

Good Health to you, Shirley.

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