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Feeling Guilty and No One to Talk With

Hi everyone. I am scheduled for surgery July 26th. I found out July 19th of my insurance approval, and all of the sudden a little panic has swept over me. I am very excited, but am having some feelings of guilt for doing this for some reason. Has anyone else experienced that? I have only told one person, because I don't want to have to do any explaining or justification before it is done. Has anyone handled it this way or are you all pretty open with everyone? I am looking forward to having this support group for the journey we are all about to experience...

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So tomorrow is your day? Best of luck to you!

My surgery was April 7 and it was not as bad as I thought it might be.

I had guilty feelings too for being "so selfish" in wanting something just for me - it cost too much, it was because I was weak and had no will power, it was a burdon on my family to have to go through it with me, I am a failure and don't deserve it - those were my feelings.

Well, guess what? It was not as hard as I thought, I am already spending less on medications, my medical problems have reduced and so have all the worries about my health, and my family is so happy I am losing weight and can do more with them and enjoy life more. My "selfishness" has paid off in many ways.

Banding is not a magic bullet that works by itself, but it is a wonderful tool. If you work it, it will be worth it, believe me.

I wish you all the best. Your journey is just starting. There will be many ups and downs, but the band helps and we are here for support.

Let us know how your surgery goes!

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Thanks everyone for letting me know I am not alone. Off to the hospital in 5 hours, so I am hoping for a little sleep. Can't wait to talk to you all afterwards....take care.

Best of luck, T10! It will all be behind you before you know it! The physical pain is not that bad - you will do great! Stay positive!

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Thanks everyone for the support. My surgery couldn't have went any better!! Guilt feelings are gone. Now I just want to heal and work out and get back to some real foods...just smaller amounts than before. I am so looking forward to starting a new life. Right now drinking/eating only liquids still makes it feel like I haven't made it to the other side yet. But at least I can see around corner!! Feeling good ladies...feeling good!

I am so happy for you! Let yourself heal and focus on that. Youw ill get to the end of the special diets and then time just seems to fly by.

Welcome to the banded world!

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