Sex after surgery?

[wannaBLean 0]

Hi all, I was wondering how long after getting the band you were able to have sex? I'm still pretty sore in my abdomen but was wondering how long it will be until I feel ok being active like that and if there's a risk. I live with my boyfriend who has been real patient but we'd like a time frame if anyone knows. :biggrin:

Thanks in advance.

[Rsilversea 2]

You'd probably be best asking your doctor that question. He has a pretty good idea about how you're healing.

[jenfromtheburgh 0]

I waited 5 days, just had to be careful of the port.

[Mariasha 3]

As soon as you feel up to it.

Just be careful with you incisions.

You may need to get creative with different positions.

[stars94 0]

My surgeon said 8 weeks post op. And although I follow EVERY SINGLE ONE of his rules pre and post op ... this was the ONLY one that I just could not follow to the letter ... I think it was about 2 weeks before I felt well enough and my husband and I were going crazy ... like the other poster said above, you may need to get creative with your positions depending on your pain levels.

[Wondercup71 0]

My doctor told me whenever you're up to it. Listen to your body. There are some "benefits" to losing the weight. One major plus is that your drive is through the roof, and another added benefit for me is the noticeable "wider girth and darker shade" (not going into details here), I kinda got nervous at first and my doctor just kinda laughed and said thats because you have more blood rushing in there. So yeah, be patient and follow your instructions. good luck!:thumbup:

Edited June 23, 2010 by Razo045

[wannaBLean 0]

Thanks for the advice! :thumbup:

[kcarny 0]

I'm pretty sure having this surgery has made me lose my sex drive completely. I feel fine enough to do it, but I keep telling my boyfriend I'm not allowed to. Ok, so the surgery was just last week, but still, I feel like my body is more disgusting than before and I'm really depressed. I hope this feeling ends soon. How does everyone seem so ready for it, so quickly?

[wannaBLean 0]

You know what, I did the same thing. I was scared to go for it with my boyfriend until 2 weeks after surgery and even then we only did it once. I'm 3 weeks post now and only now feeling up for it like I did before.

I felt really depressed and blah the week after surgery and disconnected from my body too. I get the impression that's not uncommon though and reading posts on this forum, talking about it and getting up and walking around gently helped a great deal. but mostly time was the solution to pulling myself out of the funk.

Good luck and feel free to write me if I can help in any way.

[kcarny 0]

Thanks. I just haven't been feeling like myself and don't have much interest in it right now. My boyfriend is so patient and understanding, which I'm really grateful for. You're right thought, it's just going to take time. I'll snap out of my funk eventually.