has weight loss effect family in a negative way?

[babettegriffin 0]

Just curious again. When we got married I was large. My husband is attracted to large women. We have discussed how we will need to make time for each other as I change, because any time one partner grows or changes, it effects the other.

Has any one gone through weight loss where the partner was no longer attracted to them or the person's personality changed after weight loss to where the other person could not deal with it? I know that if you truly love someone you work through it and yada yada yada....

I know I will be more out going. And yes, my dress will change. But I will be a faithful "ho". Ha! I want to be a cool modern Mom thats all.

Thanks.

[Soexcited 64]

My husband was banded too so we are both loosing weight together, and we both love each other more than ever. I have a very strong marraige however it's still my opinion that if weight loss changes the way a partner feels or loves you it was not true love to begin with.

[JoiaRox 430]

I guess I lucked out here. I'm not married, but have a wonderful boyfriend. He met me right before I started this process, so he met and fell in love with the heaviest I've ever been. Found me attractive in every way, including physical. He's more than supportive on this journey, and he's looking forward to the new, "hotter" Joia that will emerge over time. BUT - knowing he loved me at my heaviest...sure tells me a lot about his character and the fact that he loves me for ME. The skinnier Joia will just be a bonus for all of us!

[StevieVieth 0]

I was only 120 lbs when I met my husband. I gained all of my weight when I got pregnant with our son. My husband is still with me today and I am only 6 days post op, he is already nervous about other guys looking at me! But I know he is only joking, because he was with me when I was thin and he knows and likes the old me. Unfortunately he can tell that over the last 2 years my self esteem and attitude have changed for the bad, and he cant wait till I am back and normal like I was before not the whole depressed me that I have been !:biggrin: