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Myfeelings have been totally 100% hurt big time just now -

while talking to a girl at work who quite smoking and gained a few pounds just said she lost what she gained and i sad good for you :sad:

then she asked about me i said well the scale hasnt moved in a week and half but i go see the dr next week -

she said - this all seems to be a pain in the ass to go through for nothing... NOTHING ???? 38lbs in 3.5 months is NOT nothing!!!!

I am near tears here:crying: and can not beleive that she has said this to me...

Sure i see people who are the same time out as me or less adn they have lost more,, but ive still lost 38 GOD DAMN POUNDS!!:frown:

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Ignore her. You should be very happy with your weight loss. 38 lbs is nothing to sneeze at. Keep up the good work. She is probably just jealous!

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I feel for you and am preparing to be bombarded this afternoon myself. I am going to the doctors today for my 3 month appointment and am still at a weight loss standstill. I am sure my skinny nurses will have some kinds of comments for me. One thing I am greatfull about is that I did not tell anyone except my husband and parents so the stranger comments will never happen. Hang tight! You are doing VERY well! I just thought I'd post because I can soooo relate right now.

Myfeelings have been totally 100% hurt big time just now -

while talking to a girl at work who quite smoking and gained a few pounds just said she lost what she gained and i sad good for you :sad:

then she asked about me i said well the scale hasnt moved in a week and half but i go see the dr next week -

she said - this all seems to be a pain in the ass to go through for nothing... NOTHING ???? 38lbs in 3.5 months is NOT nothing!!!!

I am near tears here:crying: and can not beleive that she has said this to me...

Sure i see people who are the same time out as me or less adn they have lost more,, but ive still lost 38 GOD DAMN POUNDS!!:frown:

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People who are not banded don't understand that our weight can stall without proper restriction. You are doing amazing and should write this off as, she's just ignorant. If she's a close friend talk to her and explain about the band. If she's not a close friend ignore the comment and know that you are doing everything in your power to lose the weight. Best wishes!!!

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cutting you down only makes her feel better. Let it roll off your back, and soon you will whizz by her as you go down on the scale!

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People who are not banded don't understand that our weight can stall without proper restriction. You are doing amazing and should write this off as, she's just ignorant. If she's a close friend talk to her and explain about the band. If she's not a close friend ignore the comment and know that you are doing everything in your power to lose the weight. Best wishes!!!

What she said.

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Tell your girl at work she can kiss my @$$. We were banded a week apart and I have lost 37 lbs as well. Thats 37 hard won pounds that are not coming back and I am proud of each and every one of them.

Isn't it weird how other people are threatened by our weight loss?

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I think the thing we have to keep in mind is that most people view getting this band as 'taking the easy way out' because they are under the impression that the band does all the work. Given that impression, they probably don't 'get it' why we don't start losing the weight from the day of surgery.

Heck, even some of the people on this forum who had the surgery don't 'get it' that the band is just a piece of plastic. Until you get fills and restriction, that's all it will be.

I was Im'ing with one of my aunts this morning and she asked how much I'd lost so far. I told her that since my seminar (6 weeks before my 11/3 surgery) I've lost 45 pounds. She's been on WW (for the 4th time in 10 years) and said, "I've only lost 35 pounds in the same time, but I did it the hard way".

I just laughed and told her that if that misconception made her feel good about her weight loss 'suffering' then more power to her. I don't let the ignorant or malicious get to me.

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I really feel your pain. I went to see my Primary Care Dr. today and he asked if I'm cheating... as he expected that I would have lost more weight. I wanted to punch him. My surgeon gave me another fill 2 weeks ago and No, I'm not cheating. I do everything by the book. The surgeon suggested that I walk 30 minutes a day in addition to my current excercise schedule (swimming Tues & Thurs also, cardio and weights on Sunday) to boost the weight loss. I've lost 41 pounds and 3 pants sizes (currently in a size 14) from my previous size 18-20.

No, the scale isn't moving as much lately but I see a real difference in my clothing. There isn't a week that goes by that I'm not tightning my belt or hemming my slacks - they seem to get longer and longer as my hips, stomach and behind shrink.

Hang in there. We are all doing GREAT!

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Obviously she is bitter--as she quits smoking, she will know her own struggle!

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I understand how someone's thoughtless words can throw you into a tailspin, so please don't think I'm being critical with my response.

But do try to put this in perspective: You've lost a HUGE amount of weight in 3 months.

Her idiotic comment really doesn't do anything to take away from that amazing accomplishment, does it?

A good response might have been? "Pain? What pain? This has been the easiest 38 pounds I've ever lost!"

I mean, sure--we all know it's hard work. But b!tch at work doesn't need to know that.

You're doing phenomenally well---really, PHENOMENALLY. Don't let a clueless coworker throw you off track. She's totally not worth your angst.

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You have done a great job. Some people just don't get it.

I have a person who always says that I am fat. (We see them in the winter) She is hugh!!! So this year when I saw her she didn't say anything about my weight loss, she said WOW you have big feet. I wear a size 6 she wears a 10. WTH is with these people.

Keep your chin up. Although I am ready to punch this person.

You are doing a great job.

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Hi Whillow,

38 POUNDS is GREAT!!! You are doing amazing, try not to let your friend or anyone else hurt your feelings or discourage you at all. Sometimes it is ignorance on their part. They think because your had surgery the weight will just melt off!! I wish!! They don't understand the hard work this takes. KEEP YOUR CHIN UP and just smile!

Hugs,

G'ma

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THANK YOU allSO very much!

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Girl, just laugh it off. This is not easy at all. It takes alot of focus and a lot of will power to keep it up. Im proud of the measley 18 lbs I lost. I hope you know that I consider you a role model as I struggle to get to your point. Be proud, dear, be very proud!:frown:

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