OK we were all heading graveward eventually but let's put that aside for a second. In friends I like people who aren't shallow and vain. I like people who know how to enjoy themselves. I like people who appreciate good food. I like people who don't take themselves too seriously. I don't like huge egos. I don't like people who waste an inordinate amount of time on their appearance. I don't have any friends who are overweight (I live in a skinny city) but maybe I should. All of the above adds up to fat people being way cooler! Or in the case of this forum, formerly fat. Even better.

Nah...I was always hotter. Extra padding, dontcha know. :thumbup:

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I lost my best friend as a result of losing weight. She never asked me how I was feeling after getting banded, she just completed ignored it. About 5-6 days after surgery, she came over and I dropped something. I asked if she could please pick it up (it hurt to bend down at the time) and she said "No, do it yourself, you CHOSE to get surgery". Well, okay. Then when I started losing weight, she told me I was looking unhealthy. Well, okay. Then one day she told me I was going to die as a result of the 'damage' I had done to my body and she printed out a whole list of lap-band 'horror stories' for me to read. Wow, thanks.

After 14 years of being best friends, I had to politely tell her to get lost.

I lost my best friend as a result of losing weight. She never asked me how I was feeling after getting banded, she just completed ignored it. About 5-6 days after surgery, she came over and I dropped something. I asked if she could please pick it up (it hurt to bend down at the time) and she said "No, do it yourself, you CHOSE to get surgery". Well, okay. Then when I started losing weight, she told me I was looking unhealthy. Well, okay. Then one day she told me I was going to die as a result of the 'damage' I had done to my body and she printed out a whole list of lap-band® 'horror stories' for me to read. Wow, thanks.

After 14 years of being best friends, I had to politely tell her to get lost.

You did the right thing! I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Maybe she really wasn't a TRUE friend to begin with and just not worth it! Hugs your way...

After 14 years of being best friends, I had to politely tell her to get lost.

Sometimes we even have to 'fire' friends and family. I had to do this with a friend of 25 years (completely different reasons) and for a long while I was so depressed at the thought that I had been misled for so many years by someone who wasn't really a true friend.

I finally realized that they were, but people do change and sometimes that green eyed monster of jealousy can grab on to someone so tightly that they become a completely different person than the one you were friends with.

I am sorry at the loss of your friendship, but glad you are confident and strong enough to recognize an unhealthy relationship and move on. :thumbup:

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