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So sorry you are going through this, but glad you are getting the care you need.
wishing you a speedy recovery

I've dealt with other peoples' jealousy by simply not dealing with it at all. Why waste time and energy addressing someone else's problem? Jealousy is the other person's issue, not mine.
My friend's various family members have commented (never in my presence) that I'm "too skinny" and lost too much weight.
I'm actually in a normal weight range per BMI charts and not "too skinny," but many people in the African-American community view plus-sized women and thick bodies as ideal.
However, I look at the source: all of the people who insist I'm "too skinny" are badly overweight or obese. It's no coincidence that none of the naysayers have been normal-weight.
Nonetheless, the best way to deal with jealousy is to live your life in a fulfilling way that sparks interest. In other words, live well and let the jealous people stew in their own pettiness.

If diets and weight loss strategies worked as long term solutions, the diet industry would do out of business!

Something about getting really close to goal has me being way too honest. Obnoxiously honest.
I'm openly talking about all my screw ups....which, lets face it...people just don't do. We're all perfect, right? And we should inspire others to achieve perfection and never color outside the lines and never backslide and never admit it.
Admitting it is setting a bad example, right? Think of the Newbies! Cover their ears! SAVE them!
(in truth, I wish someone HAD admitted that screw ups occur regularly when I was first staring this process..I quite enjoy ugly truths...but I'm weird that way)
More and more, I think I'm getting close to the end of my time here at Bariatric Pal.
Once upon a time, I recall telling someone...if I stick around at this site past when I reach goal and pretend I have some kind of answer.....please Shoot Me. I don't want to be that person. I'm not that person.
By luck, trial and error, Herculean patience, Feck all who knows?...somehow, I'm a stone's throw from the holy grail: Goal.
The only answer I've got...is that answers vary. No two people have done it exactly the same way. Try hard every day. Don't give up. Use all the help they give you.
Weight has defined so much about my life for so long....i'm just burnt out on it.
I want to start talking about other things.
I'm giving myself another month for the last 4 pounds...but come August...I think i'm outta here:)
I know for a few of you....this is welcome news! Bahahaha!
It's been a hell of a ride, my bariatric friends. Legendary.
I wish each and every one of you.....fulfillment of your expectations and a safe healthy ride getting there.
Smooches!

I’ve been keeping up with my gym routine with 2 days off per week

I go to the gym, 10 mins treadmill then I go to the weights and I do small weights and selected devices then I go back to the treadmill for 30 mins then I do me some swimming for 30 mins and finally some cold jacuzzi and I’m out and back home

I’m also working 9 hours per day

I seem fine so far with no issues, changing my lifestyle.

I’m on my soft food stage, eating fish and crabs now! I did try green ice tea which had 7% sugar once but overall I think I’m fine

The incisions are small and they’ve recovered from the outer skin completely and not sure if anything remains still internally but I feel nothing wrong

I’m having zero issues with food at the moment, I’m 4 weeks post so haven’t tried everything yet.
I’m following some simple rules, nothing from a drive through 😀, and only delicious food.
I went out last week and we had a degustation menu, 4 courses of small amounts. I had Japenese style oyster, Pernod infused ocean trout, seared scallops and a small roasted potato in duck fat. All up it was about 2/3 of a cup over 2 hours with wine pairings. It was fabulous.
I think I’m very lucky, I feel for those having issues.
Aside from not being hungry it’s hard for me to believe I even had surgery. My nutritionist signed off on the menu, I emailed it to him the week before the dinner 🤣

Hey everyone. I went to speak to someone. It felt really good getting it off my chest. She also had the sleeve so she kind of knew where I was coming from. Thank you all for the advice. I am doing my best to adjust to this huge adjustment.

I do have to say that most of the time I do feel better about me and how I'm progressing and looking but sometimes I see her looking back and I hate it! It doesn't help that I'm currently broke and can't afford an "in between" wardrobe. So I'm stuck with a good amount that's too big, my pants are ok but catching up but my tops are getting BIG! I've hunted goodwill/ thrift stores but not having much luck I could buy new stuff for what they charge half the time. I hear this a lot and I know we're not alone.

I understand how you feel. Maybe it was the "fat girl confidence" the extra humor etc. I'm not even 3 months out, but at 25 pounds lost I felt dead sexy, now I'm approaching 50 and now I am seeing a fat girl (sometimes) in the mirror. This wasn't the case before! I like that people think I look great, but newly out of the gate social situations are really awkward. I still can get painfully full, I can't drink with all my friends (not that I'm a big drinker), I went gluten free so my food choices are limited. I'm happy I did this, but I'm unhappy that I all of the sudden see myself as fat and unattractive. Sorry for stealing your post, but I know what you're going through.

At 18 months as I relax my grip on intake (and my stomach accepts and craves a wider range of food) I struggle to cope.
People tell me I'm too thin and I can't see it, but my fear is the sugar monster who wants to take me over again.
We can do it. As creekimp says, huge changes.
The key is kindness: to ourselves. And that's hard because who nearly eats themselves to death out of self love! But it can be learned.
Be well

When I'm around certain people or when I eat certain things, I feel like I haven't lost even one pound. I worry that I'll wake up the next morning, and the scale will show a five pound gain and the old me will come exploding out. The truth is I've lost a significant amount of weight and haven't gained even one pound in the year since I had my surgery. It's body dsymorphia. It takes a while for our minds to catch up with the new body. As far as social situations, I find myself wearing shorts and clothes I have shied away from for the past 20 years. I also don't hide behind people in photos anymore. I've practiced making good food choices this past year, so I can usually find something to eat or I eat very little if the choices aren't so great. If your anxiety is really distressing you, I would find a good counselor and talk it through with them. It also might help with your self-confidence and/or depression.

It finally went away! I think eating helped. I walked a lot like everyone said, drank Decaf mint tea, and massages my stomach while laying flat on my back. I also drank lots of fluids and I’m finally feeling great. But I still feel like I’m starving to death :/

I wish you had taken the time to actually read this post. It’s 10 months old now and there is an update from me right above your post. That aside, wow. Your post is rude and unhelpful. I am so glad no one responded this way when I posted this ten months ago. I received so much love and encouragement, advice and kindness. I guess that is not your style. While others lifted me up, you chose to do the opposite.
Quick piece of advice, if you are only eating 400 calories a day, you are going to have serious Hair loss and other issues with mal-nutrition. May be a good idea to discuss thoroughly with your doctor. Good luck to you.

I’m the OP. I’m 10-months post-op now. I took @introversion advice and came to realize and then eventually accept that I am a slow loser. As of today, I am down 63 lbs. and have gone from a BMI of 38.3 to a BMI of 28. I am now classified as “overweight” and not obese. I went from a size 24 to wearing a 12 or 14 now. My average weight loss is 1.41 lbs weekly and my monthly average is 6.34 lbs. I no longer use a cpap machine and my plantar fasciitis is fine or in submission. All good non-scale victories.
I wish it had been quicker. But we are all about instant gratification and I have learned to be more patient. I am 23 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 and I am 5’6. At my current rate it will take another 23 weeks to get there and that means I won’t reach goal until November which is 15 months after surgery. I just keep telling myself what @introversion has said on many occasions that there are slower losers and it’s not necessary a bad thing. Usually people who start with a lower BMI lose slower. Although I have seen people on here that have lost 30 lbs more than me and started at the same weight. It could also be my age (46 now) and the fact that I am on a medication cocktail for depression and have been for 20+ years. The other thing I deal with is that my weight can fluctuate 4-6 lbs depending on the day. I want to see it go down and never go back -up but that is not the case and some days I will go up 4 lbs and I start to worry again.
I’m glad I had the surgery. I still get 60-80 Protein a day and keep my carbs for special occasions. I don’t have problems eating any foods but I do feel my restriction and I am so thankful it is there. I hiccup when I’m dull and I know to stop. I pray it never goes away.
Here are some B&A pics if interested.
Thanks for asking how I’m doing. I really appreciate it.

Just a little update 💓 I have now been admitted to the hospital . I came in last night around 11 pm due to a really bad dry heaving / vomiting spell that lasted around 25 mins and i couldn’t even keep down the little bit of Water i drank just to take my anti nausea medication . I waited around 2 hours or so to be seen and i was almost admitted right away . I was severely dehydrated . What was supposed to be an “overnight “ stay turned into “hopefully discharged on Monday” . I do for sure have a stricture and the doctors are thinking possible pancreatitis as well . But they aren’t sure and they would prefer not to operate on the stricture as of yet unless things don’t improve by Monday . I have also been surprised with the possibility of getting nutrients via IV.. Which i am not stoked about at all. I work in a hospital and i hate when my patients have to go through that . Unfortunately it might be me soon 😭.

Thank you guys so much for checking in on me. I did have my appointment this morning and turns out i was dehydrated (which I already knew) and i have a stricture from the scarring between my pouch and my small intestine . They found this out by doing an upper GI . My doctor prescribed a few different anti nausea medications for me to help take in fluids. Even with the medicine i still feel terrible but i have been able to eat a few ice chips here and there .. although I still dry heave. I go back to see my doctor next week. He hopes that the problem can resolve itself but if it does not i will have to undergo surgery .

It has happened!! I lost 100 lbs! 313 to 213! To Celebrate, I got a new tattoo, not a Thanksgiving type meal I normally would have given myself as a reward. Such a great feeling, but now on those last 53 lbs....
I have my next goals, but what are my next rewards? What do you reward yourself with when you meet goals, weight or otherwise? Let me hear them, let me hear your latest accomplishments!

I think you have unrealistic expectations. You have lost nearly a lb a day. When in your life, before WLS has that been possible?

My inner nurse is coming out, and I want to provide a public service announcement to those of you who are about to have your surgeries. Remember that pain meds and anesthesia don't bode so well for your poor ole bowels. After you are done and headed home, have whoever is taking care of you get you some stool softeners. Take at least one per day, and don't let your bowels setup with concrete. I promise that it is impossible to strain to use the bathroom with the pains that will be in your bellies. I wanted to share the "tmi" so that you all can learn from my experience. I know i cant be the only one who has experienced this. 😖😖

I'm one-week post-op today. My surgery was a success, even though my hospital experience wasn't. I'm happy for everyone who had successful outcomes all the way around.
I feel cheated and still need to vent. I was soooo excited about my big day, so I have that I still fee bitter about the sub-standard CARING I received. Note the word CARING and not CARE. I expected to be treated much differently -- in a more compassionate and CARING way. Instead of being recognized as a chronic pain patient having bariatric surgery, I was treated like someone with ordinary pain. My surgery site was not the source of my pain, but I was treated as though it was. One mg of morphine for me is a Jell-O cup. I was not recognized as a whole person, and when I tried to get relief and mentioned the word GRIEVANCE, everyone turned into SAVE-MY-BUTT mode. There are details that don't give my story a bigger-picture perspective, so just try to imagine feeling dismissed or made to feel as though you had little value and had no right to expect better treatment.
Help me release this anger, please! PLEASE!!! It's time for me to get on with my healing. I don't want to think about my grievances with the hospital any longer. I want to Celebrate the new and improved me. I want to feel happy. Does anyone have a magic wand?

Hi all, hope everyone is going fine after their surgeries. I had mine here in Australia and pain relief has been given prior, plus fluctuate meds. All good here. I am recovering very well, except for sleeping so long after the surgery. Sounds like no one has slept as long as I did. Pain has been okay. I am moving around quite well too. Been on top of the nausea. Doing the breathing exercises and wriggling the toes. I was told I would be in hospital 4-5 days. All the best to those yet to have their op.

Wow!! What an education! Thank u for sharing! Now every time I see that pork commercial I will picture in my mind a human kabob!!

Thanks so much everyone. I came into work today and she informed me she had decided against her lengthy time off in July. So the point is moot now, I will hopefully get my surgery date next week.

Hi everyone,
Just checking in. My surgery went off without a hitch at 1:30 on the 21st. I feel pretty good, no real gas pains. Dr. Corvala is wonderful, his whole team has been extremely supportive.