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LOL I would have thrown the whole bucket, and the mashed potatoes at him!! What an ass thing to do! Screw maturity....That was the right thing to do!

Ok, there is waaaay too much over thinking here. Here are the solid facts... My husband still has 180 of the 200 bucks. He just didn't get anything. I made it very clear the money was for a gift. We even joked about it...and then he asked me what I wanted. I told him a pair of earrings. This was 3 days before V-day. And what is he depressed about?? That the project he finished at work is over, and all he has had to do for the last 2 days is to develope his own program to make the desktop picture change to a different picture every 10 minutes. And the fact that the last two weeks he has lost 20 pounds my just reducing his caloric intake, but has plateaued for the last 3 days. These are his seriously bad depressing issues. Not a friend dying, or work being too hard. I'm sorry, but Valentines day is a big day for us. It is an anniversary of sorts. The day we moved in together for the first time was valentines day, and we have always done something. This year he just became a huge prick. Nothing to me at all, and he finished off his evening by looking at porn for 2 hours. I asked him what was the deal today, and he said that he was selfish, and that he thought it wouldn't be a big deal. I told him he was wrong, and he said I could take the cash and go buy some earrings. That isn't what I want!! I want him to go out of his way to do something. Like I did. Not just have it be like every other day. Esp when it is Freakin obvious that I did a lot for him.

Doc...I could have SOOOOO used bingo tonight!! LOL Happy V-day all!! I really hope you all know how much we mean to each other!!!

Jill i am right there with ya. Not only excell spreadsheet, but 3 different calendars and a day timer. And on my spreadsheet I also have a tab where I keep all of my goals and dreams, and basically I am divided upwith the tabs on excersize, caloric intake, emotions for the day, weight and measurments, and Water intake. Most of the calendars only have room for the measurments and weight, but the daytimer has room for the diet and excersize and water and emotions too. And yes, dh says i am very anal when it comes to this. but hey, gotta be compulsive with something right? and it better not be food!!

I can barely see straight. It is no big secret that today is Valentine's day. So here is how my day went. No no...let me preface this. Last week, because I control the budget, I put $200 in DH's wallet. I laid several blatant hints that the money was for his ability to buy a gift this year for Valentines. He complains every year that he does nothing because he never has cash to spend in his wallet. So today I wake him up with aa very treat. Shall we say he got a nice wake up call and my lips were numb for about 30 minutes after. I take him to work, and drop the kids off, then go get my toes and nails done. He likes that, and I pick out a color that is sure to get him going. I call him to see if he wants to meet for lunch...I am already at the mall where he goes to lunch. He says no...he needs quiet time. I think "okay...gift buying time." So I go home. I clean up (we are about to move so the place is a mess.) I go to the other room and REASSEMBLE the freakin dining room table so we can have dinner tonight. I take the chairs out of the closet. I give the dog a bath (something I have been asking him to do). I get all dressedup. I go to the grocery store and buy some sole and shrimp and potatoes and pre-prepare a fabulous dinner...ready to throw in the stove. I go and pick up the kids, so he doesn'thave to walk in (hee hates it in there). I pick him up. He is all depressed. "whts wrong?" I ask. "nuthin..." he replies. We get home, and it does not take a genius to see he did not go shopping. So I tell him..."Can you go to the store and get some wine? I forgot" So he goes out, and I make dinner. He is gone 2 HOURS!!! food is cold. He gets home, I reheat the food, kids are already in bed. I put it on the table, candles lit. He comes to the tble, grabs the plate and wine, and walks over to the couch and sits down to watch the olympics!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I remindhim that the table is back out and made up for a reason. He says..."oh, sorry." Comes back to the table, and complains that the fish is a little tough. I tell him that is because I had to reheat it. He wolfs it down without saying anything to me, puts the dishes in the sink, and kisses me on the forehead and thanks me fore dinner. then goes and sits back down. I keep thinking he is going to surprise me with a gift. I am now in bed. he is not. He is still watching tv. I am in bed because I have a really early morning meeting tomorrow. Just a LOVELY V-day. I hate men. I mean what the hell?!?! I married a great guy!! What the hell is going on??? Why is he suddenly an asshole? On today of all days????

((((((vines)))))) Keep smiling dear. Nothing is ever given to us that we cannot handle.

Elisa I would have looked at the anestesiologist(sp?) and said "put me under quick before I pop him one!" LOL 10 pounds is 10 pounds and not to be sniffed at!

Lisa you remind me of a funny thing a friend of the family said one day. He is in AA, and when stopped drinking he took up eating. He gained 70 pounds. We were concerned about him, and asked him what was going on. He said "Simple, one vice for another. But at least no one ever got a ticket for driving while full of ice cream." Its comical, but we have to keep this in mind. We are compulsive people. We have to become compuslive about healthier things. Like workouts, or sex. I know, when done right it is the same thing.

I had a boss that got nosey when I had to go in for a breast reduction. I asked for the time off, which wasn't a problem, but he was pushy to find out why I had to have surgery. I told him it was a personal matter, and the jokes started. When I came back it was fairly evident what I had done... (went from a EEE to a DD LOL) I had the surgery for medical reasons because of my back, but he actually tried to deny my time off after the fact because he saw it as "Plastic Surgery" Stick with your fib. It is none of your boss's business, and lord only knows what their response would be to something like this. When you come back, let him know everything went well, and never mention it again. If a question is brought up when you start losing weight, just remind him that it is none of their business.

You know I just spent the last hour typing out a response to this. Then I erased it. LOL This is what it comes down to. We all have a problem with food. We are all fat. I know it isn't PC to say...but we are. We wouldn't be here if we weren't. We all have excuses as to why this isn't working, or why we have failed in the past. We all have to work with what we have, and make everything work to the best of its ability. If we use the band to make things easier...GREAT! But there will always be a struggle. For some it is a medical condition that makes us fat. For others it is a psychological condition. For others it is a matter of time and laziness. Not everyone is the same. But there is one clear fact. Eating fattening foods will not allow us to lose weight. So we should not eat them. Complaining that we don't have the willpower about it doesn't change that. It is a simple fact. And keeping it in the house for any reason is nothing but setting ourselves up for a bad day. Sure we can drive out and get it, but that should not be an excuse to keep it in the house. Why make it easier for us?? Make your house a safe house for you...and get your spouse to help out with this. They are your spouse, they love you, and make it clear that staying fat = death and they ill throw that ice cream and mac and cheese and cookie dough and pizza out faster than you can say "calories".

oh candy that is funny!!

Oh my god Nana that is such a good idea!!! I did that when I stopped smoking! And it helped! You know we went to the state fair this weekend, and I was so set to just pig out like a mofo. But DH had a great idea. We were gonna take one thing at a time, and start with the "god I need this the most" item. Then buy only one, and split it amongst the 4 of us. First thing, a pulled pork sandwich. I took one bite, the kids and DH polished off the rest. The next thing, BBQ'd corn on the cob dripping with butter. I took three bites. Then we walked around for about 2 hours, and I really wasn't hungry. But DH and the kids got hungry again. So we went for a funnel cake. I did pretty good. I drank a fresh squeezed lemonade, and had a few bites of funnel cake, but then a sign caught my eye. They have, at the fair, THE food created by the devil.... Deep Fried Oreo Cookies I had never seen those before, but I had to try one. When you order it you get a tray of four oreos that have individually been dipped in funnel cake batter, then deep fried and sprinkled with powdered sugar. I ate one. I am proud I didn't eat more. LOL Cause those puppies were calling me big time!! DH and the kids each had 3 i think. Delarla, pace yourself. I know those craving suck the big white sausage. You gotta pick one, have a little, and do it slowly, then put all of your energy back into doing everything right again. And then maybe do a little extra DH rodeo that night to burn off the extra cals you take in.

Oh ouch sweety!! You take care, put your feet up, and just think about the band eventually being installed. You will get through this, and I am glad they figured out what it was, and that they got it out. Take care!!

Vines now that he is losing weight he is getting more and more streamlined too. That speed is going to increase !!! LOL I have some weird food qwerks that make DH shudder. I like sour cream on my steak, but I can't stand it on my potato. I HATE unsalted butter and won't eat anything that it is on. Bread is not eaten with butter, it is dipped in olive oil and balsamic vinegar. And cheese sandwiches consist of white bread, yellow mustard, processed yellow cheese and several chips of sweet pickles and onions. Said sandwich must then be pressed down as flat as possible. DH hates that one. I also do not like to eat cereal with milk. I prefer Oranger Juice, and the best is Grape Nuts with OJ. YUMMY!!!

Stacey, yes you do!! LOL And Vines, you are right, that would have been worse. I was just so wasted after that call. I am very lucky that he is so caring, and supportive. He certainly was not happy with the idea at first, but that all stems from what he says as him "not seeing me as a fat girl". My dad would say this, but he would be like Stacey's friend...trying to keep my spirit small while making my butt bigger. LOL

DH and I have a best friend (ex room mate from college) who is like a brother to us. He is the god father to our children. He means the world to us, and he is involved in our lives in many different ways. So today I was on the phone with him, Ed, and it slipped that we are going to Mexico in April. "Mexico?? You don't have time for vacation! Whats up?" I tell him that we are just taking a quick trip, but he knows me. He sees through me. He says "Bullshit, whats going on?" So I dish, and I get back a whole host of mixed reactions, feeling, curses, and verbal hugs. We must have talked for over an hour about every aspect. It was like he was going through the various levels of grief. LOL I think it was a harder thing for him to accept than it was for me! It was tough, and at various points we both shed tears. He loves me, and I love him. Like I said, he is very close to DH and us like family. I am so happy that he cares this much, but it is hard to see someone express fear over your decisions. He understands, and stands behind me every step of the way, but it was an emotionally draining conversation. Am I alone in this? Did anyone else go through this? Are we being silly?? LOL I so need a nap now. :faint:

when getting lotions, be sure to look at the ingredients. Any lotions that contain any sort of alcoholwill dry out the skin, and will cause scars to not dissapear the way they should. If you see alcohol, stay away. Any other lotion without alcohol, that contain vitamin E is great for your skin all over. I also use a soap that I get here at a local shop that contains goat's milk. It has so many great properties, nd leaves the skin feeling soft and smooth. I also sometimes use a soap with olive oil in it, but the goats milk is by far my favorite.

Yeah that part surpised me!! They may have a package price, but they require a bunch of stuff not included in the package amount, and that can add thousands! My dr is charging $8000 and that includes everything but airfare. Fills are free for life if I go back to MX, but I can also go to a doctor he recommends here in Tampa for their small fill fee. If I go to Mexico I stay at the guest house free of charge. So my only out of pocket is the airfare plus $8k, plus (at the worst) any other airfare to MX, which I look at as a great vacation LOL

well...i have been pre-op dieting since i was 20 LOL in all seriousness i am pre-op dieting to lose fat around the liver, but to also lower my hunger and appetite. so far i have lost over 40 pounds. 10 of those pounds in the last month or so.

hoooo doggies!! that is one big rottie!!

When we could have just bought one of these!! http://cgi.ebay.com/stainless-steel-DIET-SPOON-Japan_W0QQitemZ7376322158QQcategoryZ20106QQssPageNameZWD1VQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem

Really depends on a lot. Some US doctors range between 12k all the way to 40k. If you go outside of the US you are looking anywhere from 5k to 13k from what I have seen. Some of these include after care, some don't. It all depends on what you are looking for in a surgeon, and how much aftercare you want included.

I stuck a bead from a friends necklace that broke up my nose once when I was in first grade. I then got a very bad nose bleed, that did not stop. I was embarrassed about the bead and thought I would get in trouble, so I did not tell. My parents took me to the ER because of the nose bleed, and the doctor removed the bead. I feigned innocense. To this day my mother teases me about it. And DH got stuck one time. LOL It was before we were married. My dad came home early to take us to a Mariner's game. Yes, we were one of those couples that got stuck together due to me freaking out and "clamping down". Thankfully my dad knew better when I told him "DO NOT COME IN HERE! IT WILL BE MORE PAINFUL TO YOU THAN IT WILL BE TO ME, AND I ALREADY HURT ALOT!!" He said "Okay" and we went to the game about 30 minutes later. No one talks about it since then. LOL

Ever notice that when you go a few days witout sex...things just keep getting in the way...then when everything is right, you are both hornier than you have ever been...and aunt flo comes to town. just me?? ok...nevermind. :cool:

See, with our kids, though, we don't restrict foods. They are free to choose what they want to eat, but they more often than not choose healthier foods. They are more flavorful, and they love the vibrant colors of natural healthy veggies and fruits. They choose chicken over beef, and fish over chicken, and they LOVE fruit. My son will have a salad anytime he can, and they thrive on tomatoes. They eat them almost every meal it seems. My daughter's favorite sandwiches are tomato sandwiches. But I have never been food nazi with them. They eat their fare share of nuggets and cheeseburgers and iced cream.