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I was thinking it over yesterday and was trying to find that one moment in time where I truly decided I needed to change. Over the years there have been quite a few embarrassing moments (I don't think you can truly weigh in at over 400 pounds and not have at least a few). Over the past 15 years my kill list includes: 4 beds 3 living room chairs 1 couch 5 or 6 office chairs 1 chair at a friends house A seat in a car I owned for 13 years My mother's favorite living room chair 2 toilet seats An office chair in my boss's office Needless to say rooms to go was bookmarked and frequented for many years. That said, the moment it all hit was two years ago when I went for an ultrasound. They put me on a steel table and the tech kept asking me to move, then she asked me to sit up...and I couldn't. I physically could not sit up. I had to wiggle like an infant back and forth until my legs dropped off the table, then push myself up. The look on the face of the tech while I was doing that was worse than if she had just come right out and called me a disgusting fat bastard. It was that point that I realized I simply could not go through it again, and thus my navigation through the wilderness of WLS began. It has been a fun trip, one that while I have made excellent progress has really just begun.

You are seriously over thinking this. Tell him you are having surgery. His reaction is going to tell you if he is the man you should be marrying or not. Married people keep secrets from the rest of the world all the time. If he can't keep your secret he isn't worth marrying.

The surgeon will decide what surgery Is best for you I got vsg because I don't have acid issues it does however give you bad acid reflux mine only lasted the first week now I feel normal. Sent from my A1601 using BariatricPal mobile app

Thank you! Did you go to the hospital later that day for preop meeting? Did you start shakes the same day? I have a list of questions and am getting excited! I had a checkup with another doc yesterday and she told me that she knows our doc from her residency program and he is known for being very technically good in surgery. That was nice to hear! Meanwhile I'm home sick with a cold. Better now than on 7/31 I guess!

Pre-op class was good. They give you a few packets and go through a lot of information. We discussed each stage of food, vitamins, medicines, what to do and not do, weighed in, confirmed dates, and a send off with the shakes.

So I used to do Pilates and loved the feeling of being stretched and limber afterwards. I decided to do a quick Pilates video and the first move was to lay down on the floor on your back and pull up your legs at a 90 degree angle. Easy enough right? Not when it feels like your tailbone is sitting on top of a metal rod!!!! I couldn't lay down properly. So I tried the next move, lay on your side to lift your top leg up and forward. OUCH! It hurt my hip bone!!! Then I rolled over to the other side to check, felt the same. Am I destined to get my stretches one standing up? Hurts way too much to be laying on my bones, they feel bruised and/or like I said, laying on a metal rod. Anyone else have this happen to them? Maybe it's weight loss? Maybe it's my age? I don't know!

Re: the secret - my husband, my two teenage daughters and two good friends know about my surgery. That's it. I'm 11 months out, lost 98 pounds and headed to that 100 pound mark soon. I hope to be over 100 pounds lost by my 1 year appointment. When did I tell my husband - We've been married for almost 20 years now. He and I both love to eat and drink and guess what, our lives haven't changed. He has a beer or a glass of wine or a drink and I had water or iced tea or selzer in the first few months. I have a glass of wine probably 3-4 times a week now -- if I stopped that would I probably have gotten over the 100 pound mark - you bet. But I told him as soon as I decided it was right for me. FWIW - you have been keeping a major secret from him for six months -- if he withheld a medical condition from you that he was seeking treatment for over six months how would you feel? Would you feel as if you weren't trusted? Betrayed? Feel as if you didn't count in helping to deal with things? If you are not willing to share everything with him - warts and all - then he's not the person you want to marry. Or if you aren't ready to share all of yourself with someone, maybe you need to re-think whether it is the right time in your life to marry. (I"m on my second marriage - I was too young and too stupid and didn't understand so many things the first time -- neither my ex or I because we were just too young). You love him. You would never want him to keep from you that he's been treating for high blood pressure for the last six months - so be prepared for him to be shocked when you tell him you are having surgery in a few weeks. You are ready for this and have had time to come to terms with what it means. He has not. You are springing it on him as a surprise so give him time and space to deal with that. My husband came to the first surgeon visit with me and was by my side and at support groups with me throughout. He hasn't told a soul. (BTW - my mother and sister don't know I had the surgery. And they never will, either, for a whole lot of reasons that aren't relevant to this conversation.) You need to bring him up to speed as soon as possible and stop thinking about what you won't be able to do (which you will - we dine out often and very well, thank you) but what you will be able to do - zip line? Parasail? Sports? Hike? I don't know what he likes but I'm sure there is some activity he'd love for you to be part of that you can't be right now as a result of your weight. Sit down and talk to him soon.

That is terrible. I hope you changed doctors

I have now officially lost 200 pounds! Only 17 to go!

I got home late last night from an exhausting nine-day work trip to Tampa. Even with all the disruption to my normal routines, I still lost a little over 1 pound (and I had red wine every day of trip). My partner was able to go with me, thank goodness. My weight loss journey and transformation was a central focus and topic of conversation the entire time as I have known many of these colleagues for 10 years or more. As has always been the case during my journey, I answered questions honestly and spoke of my pre-op, surgery, and post-op experiences. I got nothing but support, congratulations, and best wishes from anyone. And one person even confided in me that my success has given her the confidence to schedule an appointment with her PCP to talk about WLS. This is why I have been transparent. That decision may not be for everyone, but I will certainly never regret it. Now, I move onward (thankful that I am back home and I can settle into my normal food and drink routine!).