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Hi guys. 44 yr old guy new to the site and looking to chat with other men who have had or are getting ready to have the banding procedure. Have finished the 6 months of classes that BC/BS requires and will have a date soon. In February when I started I was 298 and have lost 10 lbs as of yesterday. I suffer from severe sleep apnea and that is the motivation to have the surgery. I'm a dispatch supervisor at 911 and sitting behind a dispatch console for 21 yrs has contributed greatly to my current weight status. Recently am having a case of nerves and I'm worried about chickening out. Like most men...I have committment issues! LOL Seriously, concerned about the cha…

Hi Guys, Had joined the April Bandsters but my surgery was April but was posponed to May 1st. Thought would be good to have a thread for our selves to compair stories. I was banded on May 1st arrived at the hospital 8:00 am, was back at home 2:00 pm. Have to say first few days were uncomforable especailly to sleep but took my meds. Have lost 10 lbs as of today, but am tired of chicken broth. Went to my Nutrisionist today, she said I can start on Non Clear liquids thursday. Am feeling a bit of hunger or something not really sure. The nutrisionist who explained in addition to the medical resons for the diet a big part is to break you of your old habits. Try…

Ok guys sorry to make me way into the MAN area but im guna take my chances to get some advice for u fellas about my little relationship issues that i have at the moment. My partner have been together for a while now this is accually the 3rd time round we have been together we were seperated for 6 months, when he came back into my life things were absoluteley wonderful, he was a veryu humble positive person to be around, he was very open about his feelings towards me and very affectionate. I felt like he was very proud to be with me and i was for the 1st time really with him feeling very secure in our relationship. At the moment we seem to be arguing alot, hes not affecti…

Okay Guys, I am generally distressed about this whole weight fluctuation business. About 6 days ago I weighed 196 and I stepped on the scale this morning after about 5 hours of sleep and weighed 204! I have lost a total of 174 LBS since last July. How could I possibly gain 8LBS in less than a week! My walking has stayed the same, I'm adjusted very well so I can't eat crazy...I mean very well, I can't eat most things. Lots of Pbs. I have delved into some cotage cheese as of recent because I was afraid of how much I had lost and was feeling weak and dizzy when I stand. That has stopped. This has been weeks ago though, I was still losing, then this morning, Bam this morning…

Eight more pounds and I'll have lost 100 LBS!!!! I got banded on December 4th, 08. I'm telling you guys, THIS KICKS ASS!!!! I am SOOOOO PUMPED!!!

I am getting really frustrated. I have read plenty of posts like this, but I will say it anyways. I have had my first fill and since that time(May 12) I have had no help from my band. A few things about my experience so far since the surgery - I have never gotten stuck, never felt like hurling, I lost weight good at first(6-8 lbs a week), I can eat anything - bread, rice, any meat, chips, cheetos, etc., I can now eat fast without feeling the discomfort I felt before(I still do occasionally). Now, I know that some of the responsibility is on me, but I have tried and I am still trying. Perfect example yesterday: I ate chicken salad on a wheat bun for Breakfast with s…

When did you first have an alcoholic drink after post-op?

did anyone have the LapBand and Gallbladder surgery at the same time

Is it normal to have a heart burn like pain nearly constantly. It usually only lasts 2-3 seconds but it is throughout the day. Usually when I burp or my stomach spasms a bit. It feels like soreness at the band site. It is starting to bother me 9 days post op. and i think perhaps that the pain meds i was taken up until 7 days post op were keeping it minimal and thats why i didnt notice it. Its really really starting to bother me. I am thinking of going and taking some Extra Strenght Tylenol or something cause its hard to function being in pain all day. Just a note its not constant pain and its not excruciating by any means its just a semi dull heartburn like pain at t…

Ok Guys, any one experience serious mood changes when losing the weight. I was banded in aug 07 and I have only lost about 40 lbs. MY Fault, I OWN IT. I am getting back into the swing by exercising and eating right now. On the rightous path again. I have suffered from pretty severe anxieties for a while now. Almost to the level I should seek professional help. I notice now that I am tracking my food intake with fitday and started P90x, albeit modified that my attitued and anxieties are much better. I found some reports on the interenet linking obesity and anxiety disorder, but wanted to get some first hand experience from you all to see if you have experienced any chan…

I had surgery on 1/8/09 and had no fill at that time. On 2/20 -6 weeks post-op I got first fill of 3cc’s after starting back on food I had no restriction and could eat whatever I wanted how ever I wanted. Doctor makes you wait for 2 weeks before adjustment. I went in on 3/6 and got another ½ cc, at this point no restriction at all. I just scheduled 3/20 for another fill. How much do you have and in what quantity was it administered? When did you get restriction and how do you know when you have it? One more question, is morning hot coffee a bad thing for restriction? Thanks.

what kind of pain is to be had after surgery? i am to band in june 29. i am kind of scared.

I was banded 4 weeks ago and so far I have lost 45 lbs and have lost about 5-6 lbs a week for the last couple of weeks. It has been pretty easy to eat small meals by eating slow and just stopping when I have had enough - I probably could have eaten more,but I chose to stop. I have kept up with all my exercise and food on livestrong.com and have pretty much stayed under 1500 calories a day and usually exercise every day - walking or playing tennis. On to the wagon - I fell off yesterday. For the last week and a half, I have been getting progressively hungrier and unable to last in between meals before feeling empty. I have been snacking (trying to be healthy snacks) some…

well i gave away a few of my favorite shirts today 1st one said " Nothing sweeter than a fat mans peter" and " i beat anorexia" time to find a little smaller shirts i guess...oh well i wasnt aloud to ever wear them anyway..lol

Around how many calories do/ did you fellas intake daily during the the first 6 months post op to ensure steady and sufficient loss? thanks.

Does anyone use daily plate or something similar to track their food? I have been using it because it is easy to do and I can do it on my iPhone. I am curious as to what everyone is eating on a daily basis. Post up your public links to your food journals or just an average of what you eat. Here is my daily plate food journal: LIVESTRONG.COM - Health, Fitness, Lifestyle

I am newly single and VERY self conscious about my "melting body syndrome" with skin hanging loose. How do you men deal with this in your own personal experience? I am scared to death that some man might want to see me naked, and it's not pretty. Do men feel this self conscious? My ex-husband didn't seem to mind because he saw me as it was happening, so it wasn't like he got this big shock because in clothes I looked like a 7 or 8, but naked I was a 2. Just wanting the male perspective. Thanks, guys.

I am a 21 year old college student and have been overweight for many years now and have not been able to lose weight and keep it off. My parents and I have been researching the Lap Band procedure and I have set up a meeting with a surgeon to discuss it in more detail. I would like to get the surgery done this summer while I am not in school so I have time to adjust to all the new changes before coming back to school. I wanted to know what the diet will be like for the first 2 or 3 months after the surgery? And how soon I would be able to eat solid, normal foods again, obviously in much smaller amounts. Also, being a college student I like to go out on the weekends with my…

Well this has been a great thing getting banded!!! to have the hunger that was on for 40 be turned off is so so cool I am about 20lbs behind schedule do to not getting fills for 3 months around Christmas time but thats ok, I still hope to make the 100lbs down in the first year. To anyone who is on the fence about getting banded dont be GET IT DONE it will change your life. Oh and by the way when ya have good restriction its EASY, the lbs just fall off, lol I'm not happy to say it but for the most part the band has done all the work, I was walking the first few month but have slacked off, might be time to get my ass in the gym.

So I'm going to have my surgery on April 8th, but I'm going to be in a wedding on June 20th. The tux fitting was today. I told the person assisting us in the fitting about my upcoming surgery and she sd to wait two weeks before the wedding. If you stay on track most of the time how much can you reasonably expect to lose in the first couple of months?

I have lifted weights on and off all my teen and adult life. I know how to lift weights and generally know what works, but I want some kind of guide or reference to help build a schedule and routine that I can use going forward. I basically want a personal trainer in a book. I want something that covers workout cycling, schedules, etc. to maximize my effort and time. I also want something current. Can anyone help? My goal is maintaining and possibly building a little while I lose weight with the band. I don't want to be huge or freakishly cut because I don't want anything to time consuming or difficult to maintain.

I was just on the "where are you" thread and got the idea to start a thread to see what everybody does for an occupation. Put down what you do now and also what your favorite job has been. I am a design modeler for a heavy construction company. I use SolidWorks to design concrete structures such as, parking garages, high rise business buildings, prisons, etc. I think my favorite job--if you can call it that, was being an actor in a passion play about the life and ministry of Jesus Christ. I was a part of the show for 6 years. It is called The Promise and it is in Glen Rose, TX. There is also a show of the same play in Branson, Missouri. I played everything from a…

So I have thought about this alot. I have been wondering how the band actually works to help you lose weight. I think the band helps in two ways. The doc builds a pouch that is right above where the band is placed. I assume they do that with stitches or something. That pouch represents 'how much' you can eat at one sitting. I figure that is fairly constant and doesn't change unless the band slips or you stretch it. The other thing that happens is directly controlled by the band. As the band is filled it narrows the passage at the bottom of the pouch. I think the more narrow this passage, the longer it takes for food to digest and pass. What this does is curb hunger and ke…

I work at a desk job and won't have too much time to spare. How much time should I figure that I will need to be home to recover before getting back to the office?

guys, excuse the intrusion. Need male advice here. have had 2 dates recently with a nice guy my age. Last one was Sat. I would like to ask him to happy hour tomorrow. Is this ok, or do I need to wait for him to ask me out on what would be our 3rd date. (We are both in our 40's) thanks! p.s. not looking for a freebie here, on the last date he paid for dinner, but I paid for a bottle of wine at bar we went to after

Ok here goes about 2 inches down and 2 inches over from my port i have this 1 1/2 inch "Knot" that has come up...I dont know what it could be and my regualr doc says he thinks it could have been where i gave my self a b12 shot.... But that was 3 months ago... So before I go back to the lap band dr I was wanting to know if anyone else has this problem...

It was on Tuesday night. She fought very hard to get by-pass surgery. She found one Dr. who was willing to take her on. She had a 5 1/2 hour procedure. She survived the surgery and was on her way to recovery and she died of a heart attack. It was a real bummer. I wanted to see her lose the weight and maybe have a happy ending... it just wasn't to be. Obviously her weight caused her death not the surgery, but still they usually cover a successful patient. Don

i have not been on in awhile beccause I was suppose to have surgery on March 11 and went to my pre op physical on March 4th but low and behold on the 5th I came down with Bronchitis so surgery was postponed until i got rid of it. Now after 4 weeks of bronchitis is gone I now have a plain old fashioned cold. So now I have to get rid of this cold before doing anything. Whats next

3 years ago, I couldn't have fit in the cockpit. Last weekend, I got to fly an ex-military T28 trainer. I think the grin is still on my face. :smile2:

I will be starting on solid food in a few weeks and wanted to know what the guys eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I read what the women eat and there is no way I can do that. Size wise would help also. Does it matter if you skip breakfast? Sometimes you just don't have the time. Also if you over do it or something does not agree with you what is the best thing to do when you have that pain in your chest.

I would like to know how many men are losing the battle of eating what is right and what is wrong. My battle is thinking that I can still eat the before food and still lose weight. When I go to the grocery with my wife and buy a simple pound of lunch meat for sandwiches, I end up litteraly living near the fridge. I end up going back to the old ways of eating like a old boar hog. After finishing the old way of eating food that I know is wrong, I feel like I have wasted my time. Then I go for a days eating like I should and lose weight. But the the little guy on my shoulder says Hey it's alright to go back and try some of that old food. Guess what I gain back what I lost. S…

I have slipped of the road of right and wrong... not gaining, but not losing and it is becuase I am eating the wrong things. So... I need some help and I am going to post on the Men's room to get back on track. I am going to get back to the way i should be eating and hope the board will help me be accountable... yeah, yeah, I know... you have to be accountable for yourself, but support groups help and I have been helped by many on the board before, so I am looking for some that help and accountability again. So... today... Monday March 16th 2009 235 lbs Eat too much, drank too much, did not work out. Tomorrow is another day. more to come...

Have any of you guys been able to eliminate or reduce your beta blocker medicine after losing significant weight? Is this something I can look forward to?

so the more I lose, the more I realize my arms are scrawny... I have a big chest andd shoulders... but man... my arms are just tiny (fat made them look bigger I guess). So I am looking for a good work out to bulk up my arms and was wondering if there are any tips out there.

Hi Guys , Well 25th fast closing in now , my op on the 25th at Ross Hall in Glasgow .. I was wondering and looking for comments .. 6th March weigh in 282lbs , today after being on low cal diet 1 week and 2 week pre op liquid diet ( which I have stuck to with the exception of a bite of chicken and a baked potato with cottage chees last week which I was forced to buy at the Shopping Mall , only way I could get a seat so the kids could sit and eat their food as was very busy , only place that had seats was the potato shack , but they would let us sit unless we bought something , so fell into the trap , of buying , with intention of not eating .... but then my usual Im no…

OK.... I was an avid Diet Coke drinker.... 6-8 a day at my peak of 345 (ironic huh!). Now I am post op 4 months, and down from 283 when i started pre op... now I am 241. I drink diet Snapple, coffee and Water with no issue. Every oncce and awhile I want someting in a can... I have found something that works great Diet Mountain Dew it already has little carbonation.... goes flat in about 10 mins of being opened and even when flat, tastes pretty decent. Now, I am not drinking 10 a day... more like 1 or 2 aq week, but it is nice to have a soda once and awhile. Just wanted to share... good luck to all!

What is it with all these women invading the mens room? They take over the entire rest of the forum with their over-analyzing, over-planning, over-organizing, over-reporting, and silly frilly ticker tapes and then they still are not satisfied and try to take this section over also.

So preband/pre-weightloss I didn't receive much/if any male attention. Now that I have lost nearly 100lbs I have STILL NOT received much male attention. The only attention(flirting, compliments, etc.) I have gotten has been for males that are much older and not my type (one was 15 years older, divorced, had three kids, and lived with his mother..not my ideal guy). I just don't really understand it. Preband, I chalked it up to being overweight. Now I don't have that excuse. Is it me? Am I not attractive enough? I know I still have some confidence issues, but I am so much more confident now than I was before. Am I not confident enough? Too confident? Intimidating? Any …

Posted this in the general intro section: I have decided to start the process of getting the band. I have met with Dr. Ponce at the Gastric Band Institute in the past in preperation for the surgery, but ended up backing off when I considered the cost of self pay. Two years later and I am still struggling to get the weight off and I have decided the time is now. I am on bp medicine and on the verge of getting cholesterol medicine and I am quite frankly tired of that. I have always been an active person, I would even say athletic, but perhaps that is my downfall. I have always eaten big and for the last 10 years that has seriously caught up with me. I feel pretty confiden…

Scheduled for April 9 with Dr. Ponce at Memorial in Chattanooga. Two Weeks prior is 6 cans of glucerna a day with two cups juice and 1-2 servings of yogurt. I am looking forward to it. I weighed 422 yesterday and so it begins.

Was wondering how much the guys are eating, i.e. calories. I'm week 3 post-op and the weight loss has stalled on Mushies. I'm taking in about 1200 calories per day and trying to walk regularly. I'm not gaining but just hovering at the same point. Was curious about the experiences of the other guys out there.

I visit the Southwest often. I might be requested to make a trip out there about a month to 6 weeks after surgery. I am wondering if any other Biz travelers and or others had to deal with this situation? how it went? T.I.A.

ok... so the weight is coming off... slowly but surely... and my results are great, however I have hit a problem and have decided that the gym needs to be added to my program. What I am wondering is... how do I get rid of that gut that formed under my belt (not sure what to call it, but my "sub gut" pelvic area does not seem to be going away. It really sucks... I am wearing 38 waist now and if it weren't for this fat in my pelvic area, I would probably be a 36 now. Has anyone battled this, does it go away with continued weight loss? Is there a good excercise to work this area (I heard crunches don't target this area). My goal is to lose another 30 lbs and it may…

Hey guys. I am trying to gauge what to expect right now. I had surgery on February 13th. At the time, they put in 3 cc's of fluid into the band. A week after the surgery I was having really bad shoulder pain so they took the fluid out. I was on fluids for the first two weeks and never really felt any restriction even before they removed the fluid. They advanced me to mushies now. I'm getting in between 600-800 calories per day. I lost good my first two weeks (19lbs). It's been almost a week and the scale just isn't moving. I don't understand why with such limited calorie intake. I'm afraid that even when I get my first fill (two weeks from now) that I'm still n…

I know nothing about the lapband more than the normal person that has done their research before they got the surgery or getting the surgery. The cool part about my deal is that I am sharing it for all the world to see. I am video blogging everyday and putting it on my site. People say they like it and that it is really funny but, to me it has been truly inspiring to keep going and trying to lose my weight. I am a 36 year old male with a wife and 4 kids. I weighed 445 when I decided enough was enough. I had surgery on Feb 5 and this wednesday I get my first fill. I know weigh 403. If you want to check out my site click on my name to the left and look me up, Today I rapped…

Hi all - I've read several posts about people who finally make it to "Onederland" (occurs when your weight drops below 200 lbs.) Me personally, I will be just as excited to make it to TWOsday (occurs when you make it to below 300 lbs.) Anybody else feel like me or felt like me when they finally made it to TWOsday? I personally haven't seen 299 lbs or lower since 1997! 378/325/220 Start/Current/Goal

I though about a polite way to put this, but to no avail. HOW LONG BEFORE WE CAN HAVE SEX? I am 5 days post-op, my DW has been dieting with me since 2 weeks pre-op. Looking VG. No food, no booze, going a little crazy here. Have fun with this one.:smile:

I can't help but ask - has anyone been punched or even poked in a less than mild fashion where their port is? I personally don't make a point of getting into fights LOL but I can't help but wonder what the effects would be of taking a fist to the port! OUCH! Anyone?

smoking and banding. I will be banded soon, the nurse has told me to quit smoking which i have for 2 weeks till the procedure is done. 2 questions i had were. 1. it is super difficult to quit, what do i do?, i am taking medication for smoking and smoking 3-4 a day from 20, and those 3-4 are just 3-4 puffs per ciggerate, so basically if you combine 1 cig a day. is that ok? 2. After the surgery, for the post op, i require 3 weeks of liquid diet, how does this work? i can have any low calory liquid or just specifics like 1st week Soups, 2nd week juice etc? Thanks

Not really related, I just wanted to show off.